My roommate is more than three times my age and since she moved in, she thinks she runs the place. Since she's older, we haven't really hit it off and we never even speak to each other. Lately, she's been very confrontational about things and the other night (after she disrespected by bf and I) I told her that she needed to move out. I'm a lover, not a fighter, and I believe it talking things out like civilized human beings, but I can't get a word in through her yelling and she still treats me like nothing everytime she sees me. When I tried standing up for myself, she just increased the volume of her voice and the disrespect towards me. I can't just kick her out because of the lease agreement, but it's getting hard to live in my own home. What can I do to make her respect me or at least stop trying to fight with me everytime I leave my room (until she moves out in two weeks)?
2007-07-15 19:01:41 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You can't make her respect you, don't think it's possible to force respect out of someone.
What you can do is use avoidance. Avoid getting to that stage and if it does, avoid the escalation.
Simply tell her "I am NOT doing this. I don't want to fight. I don't want to yell, and I do not want to be yelled at."
If she continues, punch her in the face (oh yeah, I forgot you are not a fighter...Um give her a big hug and run away!)
No I would say walk away. Don't add fuel by reacting or even staying to be yelled at. Just keep repeating "I am not doing this, I don't need or want this" and walk away.
2007-07-15 19:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she yells at you, you tell her that you will talk to her when she starts acting her age and not some spoilt little brat. At all time keep calm and remember that you are the adult. I have dealt with people like this and you just can't get through to them, its like beating a dead horse.
If you really want to get to her be nice at all times, if she yells at you tell her something that she is wearing is nice. One of two things will happen either you will piss her off more or she'll just shut up because you refuse to be pushed into arguing.
Only you can control you no one can make you do anything or feel anything that you do want to.
2007-07-15 19:26:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Troll please its because we dont play and we aint gonna put up with your **** and it kinda goes back to slavery days to some extent . I dont every black woman has an nasty attitude but majority may have and even though we have an attitude we are strong women why some black men decide to running the streets trying to be a player or gangster and leave at home or whatever taking care of those kids keeping food on the table and kids fed. If some men note i said some not all would get their stuff together and pick up ya dirty underwear sometimes maybe there wouldnt be no arguments
2016-04-01 06:22:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow she is being very disrespectful. I would think that as being an older person it isn't really mature and civilized to yell at someone to resolve an issue. She says she is a lover yet she is verbally abusive...hypocrite much. Personally if there are only two weeks left that which you have to live with this person I wouldn't talk to her. I would only make small talk but don't try to be timid. Then she'll just walk all over you, be stern and stand your ground whenever you talk. But make sure its just talking no arguing. If she tries to play it cool be distant and cold to her friendly chit chat. Thats how I would play it out.
2007-07-15 19:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by smiling_cyanide 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dear Lady- we can't make ANYONE do ANYTHING if they're determined not to. So I think your ONLY option is to put a BIG Calendar on a wall where she can see it, mark the day that she's leaving with a BIG Smiley Face, & X -out the days until the day she leaves. And try to AVOID her as Much as possible. Good luck!
2007-07-15 19:14:59 · answer #5 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
whatever you do don't show her that you're mad or upset. go with an i don't care what u think about me even if you do. right now i'm afraid you'll just have to bear the next 2 weeks. get something good out of the experience. i mean hey. she made your character tougher and to really rub it in when she is leaving say how nice it was to have her with you and say compliments. hah hah i can already imagine that scene. she will be bewildered and although she won't show it it WILL hit a nerve inside her.
2007-07-15 19:08:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just laugh at her,she will hate it,try not rise to her tantrums,do not yell back just TRY to be calm as this will upset her and eventually shut up.
You have only two more weeks to go,so just bide your time and think how nice it will be without the scumbag!.
In the meantime check around for other`s wanting to share rooms,it will keep your mind off her and give you something to look foreword to.
Take care now and good luck in your new room mate.
2007-07-15 19:13:34 · answer #7 · answered by lamplighter 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just stick it out for the next two weeks and ignore her.Good Luck
2007-07-15 19:36:54 · answer #8 · answered by flutterby 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont say anything at all. trust me, when they yell for a response, give them the shortest response possible.
they will just stop since they run out of things to yell about.
either that or fight fire with bigger fire, but it does not sound like your that kind of person
im sorry i cant be much help
2007-07-15 19:07:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ignore her....and if she gets violent or threatens you call the cops
If she's leaving in two weeks then no need to worry about this, but if she stays longer evict her, and if shes getting violent the cops will remove her and you can get a traspass or restraining order
2007-07-15 19:10:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋