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2007-07-15 18:53:29 · 25 answers · asked by tremonster 4 in Society & Culture Religion & Spirituality

The reason I ask is that I've been having people answer my questions all night with responses such as if you're not married you're going to hell. I was wondering just how many people thought like this.

2007-07-15 18:59:54 · update #1

Per Atom's little speech....I was once married and totally committed to the person I was with, however he was not. I am not seeking justification for my actions, I don't need to. I am fully capable of having and maintaining my own beliefs and moral code. I was just curious as to what others thought.

2007-07-15 19:12:12 · update #2

25 answers

To be married but not committed is a heinous crime. We take it for granted in this day and age that such things can be dishonoured, however, this is an honourable endeavor, the rewards of which are probably right up there with the Purple Heart. It takes a brave person these day to marry AND to follow through.

To be "shacked up" is holding over the other person's head that you still have the option NOT to be committed to that person.

That being said, I've heard of SO many people who had lived together for 10 years, decide to get married and divorce after a year or two. I do not know the reasons for this. I think that in the end, there is a force out there that wants people to be constantly broken-hearted.

And also, there are many marriages that dishonour the vows, and should never have begun. Too bad we can't all find that perfect love. Maybe that's why people used to just arrange marriages. If you decide to love, then there is love. That is my opinion.

2007-07-15 20:09:43 · answer #1 · answered by Shinigami 7 · 1 1

God recognizes committal over non-committal any day. Whether or not your married, God sees. I have a life-long Friend who has lived with his (better) half for 17 years. I've asked THREE times over the course of their relationship when they were going to get married. They both always answer never. They are afraid if they get married it will lead to a divorce. BUT they are committed to each other and each other alone. One might say they are living in sin because they are not married. But I think God is good enough to overlook the matrimony thing in their case because they depend on, and love each other so much. So it's my belief that in such a case that my answer to your question would be, committed and not married. To be married and to stray from your commitment would definitely be frowned upon by the Almighty.

2007-07-16 02:09:11 · answer #2 · answered by Rollover Mikey 6 · 1 0

Being married and not committed is terrible- when you make a commitment to someone for the rest of your life, you are making it not just to the person you marry, but to God who made the covenant of marriage. Now, being committed and not married is a fine line- what do you mean by committed? Staying with someone and being faithful- then that is ok- however, if you are sleeping with someone you are not married too,and staying together, no that is not good either. Those people that say if you are sleeping and/or living with someone you will go to hell, I will answer this as tenderly and graciously as I can- anyone who dies in their sin, be it sexual or otherwise will be eternally separated from God. If you confess whatever sin you are doing, and repent- which means turn from it- and accept Christ as payment for that sin, then you will be in heaven. Before I was a Christian, I was dead in sin but when I was 17 I accepted Christ as my Savior. That is the truth that I believe.

2007-07-16 02:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 1 1

I would definitely say committed and not married. Each person should take into consideration the happiness and well-being of the other. Unhappy marriages lead to depression and possibly financial troubles. Being unmarried, you and the other person are free to stay together or separate whenever without legal hassle. First and foremost, consider the health, happiness and well-being of yourself and your partner. This is only natural.

2007-07-16 02:06:55 · answer #4 · answered by Bluebird 4 · 2 0

ok let us see what is marriage for as God intended it to be since He was the author & officiate the first human marriage ceremony. It s supposed to be for people who are committed because if both of you are committed to each other then there should be no problem in being married now if theres another thing in your mind then your not really committed at all. it is like either your in or out nothing in between. heaven or hell, good or evil, God & Devil.

2007-07-16 02:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by Dave B 5 · 1 1

In a relationship i think it's alot better to be commited or you shouldn't be with the person in the first place. Although i think alot of religious people are going to be saying married, just because they aren't allowed to have sex without marriage.

2007-07-16 02:05:34 · answer #6 · answered by soundofsettling 2 · 1 0

I believe it is better to be commited and married. There's no commitment when your not married. I feel the bond between man and woman is not there if there is no marriage. Just my opinion.

2007-07-16 02:00:05 · answer #7 · answered by SDC 5 · 1 1

Committed and not married. You can be married and not give a damn about your partner and be unfaithful and do all sorts of bad things. If youre committed you will love them and everything and if youre not married it shouldnt matter. Its kind of like someone who goes to church each sunday but sins and one who doesnt go but doesnt sin either.

It doesnt matter if youre married or not, its if youre committed that matters.

2007-07-16 01:59:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3 0

for me, both committed and married.

but of the two, committed and not married.


edit:
"when you make a commitment to someone for the rest of your life, you are making it not just to the person you marry, but to God "

not in my marriage.

2007-07-16 02:31:48 · answer #9 · answered by answer faerie, V.T., A. M. 6 · 1 0

Since you asked in R/S...

Once you have had sex you become as one, you are committed. (Marriage is simply a ceremony) people get the 2 confused.

It matters not if you sign paper or say I do.

When you have sex, in the eyes of God you are one, you are committed, you are married. That person becomes your husband or wife (what ever the case may be).

2007-07-16 02:09:13 · answer #10 · answered by Stupid Me 5 · 1 1

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