if I wait till I'm done college I'll be 37. I'm afraid that's too old (considering baby's health, ability to conceive etc) but I'm also afraid the work load of college and baby will be too much. Anyone with this experience?
2007-07-15 18:45:51 · 6 answers · asked by t 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Do either.
I was 35 when I had my first and 39 when our son was born. I am 41 and expecting my third. No health problems with any of them.
If you have any complications while pregnant, you could end up having to drop out of school, and yes, you will be tired and the load could be too much....it all depends on the pregnancy. My first and current I could work through, no problem, but my second was very tiring.
On the other hand, if you wait to have a baby...and do have problems conceiving..which I didn't, then you will be stressed about not being able to get pregnant.
I have done lots of research on "older moms" before becoming one and encourage you to have a baby whenever you feel you are ready...but consider this...
Once the baby bearing stage is over...it's over. One of my friends is trying to conceive at 37 and is having no luck at all.
School and work will always be there. If you really want a baby, I'd make this a priority and decide that if you need to drop out of school and pick it up afterwards, then that's what you will do.
One other thing to consider...it's much easier to go to school while baby is in the tummy....much harder afterwards.
Lots to consider, I know. I think if I were you, I'd wait until college is nearly done...after you're into the swing of things..maybe 35...then start on baby. That way if you do have trouble handling both, knowing you are nearly done school might give you the "energy" and mental motivation to get through.
***(Also, part-time may be an option...may not. Some programs aren't available part-time or online. Check into what is available now so you can prepare.)
Good luck
2007-07-16 08:12:06 · answer #1 · answered by GeriGeri 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have girlfriends that have left it till their late 30's to have children and are having trouble conceiving. Being a mum of 2 I would recommend doing it now, because you can always go back to school or do it part-time but kids are once in a lifetime. Also the older you are the harder it is to keep up with them!
2007-07-15 23:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go ahead and have your baby first.Do an online course.Do a little at a time.You can wait until the kid is in school, you are already pregnant and you could have done your pharmacy training in the last 13 yrs.
2007-07-16 00:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are people who manage it. I think the important thing to consider is whether your support system is strong enough (family, friends, nannies etc.). It's tough, but doable. Why not start on school and once you're into the rhytm (6-12 months), make the decisions?
Good luck either way!
2007-07-15 18:56:31 · answer #4 · answered by Ivan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are married, I would start TTC the baby now. You can always go to school later but you won't always be able to have a baby. Trust me. Infertility is a big issue among many women today.
2007-07-15 18:54:27 · answer #5 · answered by meghananne23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow your scenrio is just like my cousins. She had her baby at 36 yr. and is pharmaist and yes it is a work load for her but she is an excellent mother and she manages the load.
2007-07-15 18:50:36 · answer #6 · answered by taireninaugh18 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋