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I can't take it anymore?

I have low self-esteem and no self worth

All I want to do is die and end the pain. I've been through alot in my life and the more I try to go on, the worst it gets and I"m so tired of everything. I just want to be happy. Is that too much to ask for? I hate myself so much. I hate the way I am. I don't understand why I cannot interact with others. I have this tendency of seeing a deeper meaning to what others say and I am usually right. It's driving me nuts. I don't know what to do anymore.

2007-07-15 18:24:29 · 33 answers · asked by . 3 in Health Mental Health

33 answers

you have to take a really hard and honest look at your life and be strong enough to revamp it along with your attitude as well
trust me really trust me when i say that i felt exactly the way you did to the point where i ve attempted to take my life when i was younger.
basically trhough the grace of god and being taken out of the enviorment i was in i have changed alot concidering how i felt.
i still have alot of changng to do and well thats the secret of life i guess you never stop growing or changing thankfully you can change for the better
obviously you didnt just wake up feeling this way
it was devolped a habbit maybe and your pain is not insignifagant but you cant let it block you anymore

i have and stil in a way let my pain block me
im turning 21 im stil young but i know i missed out on alot
when you let go of it all when you make the concious descion to let all of that s-h-i-t go i promise you , you will be free and this too shall all pass if you want to be happy you have to take steps gradual ones are better than none at all
and foucus or find somthing constructive that you love and makes you feel good you obviously are intellegent enough to know theres a probblem and you want to fix it so go ahead

weigh out your pros and cons of your being and work them out and realize no one is perfect
and be an insparation for someone to
when your not wrapped up in your self or your missery good things can happen bad energy/good energy atrracts bad/good energy so be what you want out of life

sorry if i went on too long which i probly did but i hope i helped

also remember you dont have to go at it alone theres always support from good people somewhere
dont just go trusting anyone or taking some kind of medication right away get to the root of it all

2007-07-22 18:41:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You know, I admire your courage for wanting to find a solution to your problems, but I feel as though your problems are only temporary and taking your own life is very permanent. I'm very sorry you've had it so rough, believe me when I tell you I can relate. But things can get better if you let them. It sounds like you have some anger and hatred towards yourself that you need to resolve. And relating to others isn't always the easiest thing, especially in a world where everyone's so different. I don't know why those feelings are there, but once you deal with them and accept them and then let them go, I think you'll be back on the right path. There's always going to be suffering either in your life or somewhere in the world. The first step is to acknowledge that suffering and then realized that there can be an end to it. Suffering occurs when the way things are and the way we want them to be don't match. But what if this is it? What if this is the only time you get? Past and future are illusions. All there is is now. What if there's no Heaven and no Hell? Every day we are given a choice to make our lives Heaven or to make them Hell. Choose wisely. I know you will. Good Luck!

2007-07-15 18:37:08 · answer #2 · answered by R H 2 · 0 0

you can talk to my son who is the same as you in his feelings of low self esteem and problem interacting with people and not finding them honest and good. He thinks from experience that man is by nature bad. Be that as may that is how things are for everyone. Some are too sensitive than the others . My son is exceptionally bright and good looking and very warm and caring person and so gentle he can't watch videos of violence. There is nothing wrong with you. Most people have hard times in life , some more that others , but then did any one promise you a bed of roses?I bet not. And what is happiness but a state of accepting life as it is and being content. the other kind is but fleeting euphoria that does not last. Accept your genuine short comings and then put them aside saying OK this is how I am and then list your good points including your being right about people and then decide if you are not a better person than most?

2007-07-15 18:37:02 · answer #3 · answered by bholukalu 3 · 2 0

You don't mention how old or what may have happened in your life to make you feel this way. Some things I like to believe in are that everyone is a worthy human being and we all have good qualities as well. Your pain sounds very real and it isn't for others to tell you how to overcome them in a short answer here. You need to find someone you can trust and share your feelings about yourself with them. If in fact you feel this way because of certain behaviors on your part, correct them and forgive yourself and go on. Everyone has done things in their life that they wished they hadn't. However, if your low self-esteem is from some other person tearing you down, get away from that person and the influence they have on you. But get yourself some help. There is nothing like a good support system. And sweetie, you are really worth it. Ask God to help you. He will....

2007-07-22 08:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by bitsy 2 · 1 0

You cannot interact with others because your beliefs are different. You obviously have set standards. Nothing wrong with that! Don't beat yourself up over negative people. Your expressing being true to yourself, that's great! Qualities of a true leader...think about it. You decide what works for you, and you go with that. Do what makes you happy, never mind everyone else. Focus on your abilities. Its possible others are jealous of your many talents and want to make you feel no self worth. Therefore change your thinking, and turn things around for yourself. However, you need to take steps to help you do that clearly. First let go of embarassment, and call your doctor to be referred to a couselor to help you sort things out. Then go out a little at a time, and get involved in your community. Keep open minded, about new friendships, and welcome those who have a positive outlook. Don't hinder yourself from trying new things, such as sports, gym, whatever...exercise is good mentally as it is physically. Continue being good to yourself, because, you are a good person, and it matters. Change your music style, if it isn't positive, seek cheerful music. Change your t.v habits into comedy skits if you watch t.v. Try working outdoors, gardening, it can be refreshing. If your not into gardening consider taking walks, not alone, but at parks, feed a few ducks, whatever...you know what you like doing, but those few examples of helping you along the way towards your happiness. Hope that was a bit helpful, in the meanwhile, get rest, eat sensibly, that is very important towards a good recovery. Keep it on schedule. Best to you!

2007-07-15 18:52:11 · answer #5 · answered by lostrebelchild 4 · 1 0

Go see a psychiatrist and start taking meds. You sound like you have some sort of chemical imbalance.

It's not your fault. There's nothing you could have done to prevent this. Some people are just genetically prone to chemical imbalances and you won't feel better until you get some help from someone who is trained to handle this.

If you see a deeper meaning to what others say, it probably means you're just too smart for your own good. The world is not an easy place for geniuses or those who are "gifted." The jealous mobs then try to erode your feelings of self-worth by proclaiming you "odd." Well, they're just jealous. Be true to yourself and use your gift of discernment.

But you do need help. It's like me and my diabetes. I can't feel good unless I'm on meds and they help my chemical imbalance with regard to sugar.

You CAN beat this. Hang in there.

2007-07-16 04:54:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I felt that way a long time ago. I could've written the exact same thing word for word. Here's what I'll say: The feeling of suffocation and worthlessness can make it seem like there will never be a moment of hope. If you can just wait it out a little longer, you'll get to that moment and you'll feel a little more clear. Whatever it is we're doing here can be very very rough sometimes... but every morning that you wake up (as long as you choose to) you can start fresh, wipe out the things that hurt you yesterday, even change who you are... and enough of those new beginnings can add up to something beautiful. Hang in there.

2007-07-15 18:34:44 · answer #7 · answered by Ian L 1 · 2 0

you are obviously very frustrated.. we all go through moments like that. It's okay to feel that way and it's even better to talk about it.
What it's not alright is to feel bad about yourself, you need to love yourself in order for others to love you...
You seem like a very smart person who finds deeper meaning to things than others.. that's a plus!
so you are not superficial or outgoing... that can be changed if that's what you want...
a make over would usually raise your self esteem...
go shopping?
change the outside .. and than change the inside.. take some theater/dance/sports classes.. whatever forces you to be outgoing.. little by little you'll start seeing a change in you


good luck and if u need anything...

=)

2007-07-15 18:31:18 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgirl78228 2 · 2 0

Hi, You are under a lot of stress and you need to get out and have some fun in your life. You need to relax around people and don't put in more to what a person say. If you keep doing that you won't have any friends because when you do this you don't trust anyone.Maybe you you should see a counselor and talk to him or her and maybe she can see more into you and help you get threw this and to relax and enjoy life. I wish you all the luck. Be strong you can get threw this. A Friend.
poppy1

2007-07-15 18:38:42 · answer #9 · answered by poppy1 7 · 2 0

Sweetie, I don't know if you are going to a counselor or if you have talked to your family doctor yet, but you need to. They have medication that can get you back on track.....I myself take celexa...it helped even out how I view the world. I don't have to go talk to a counselor, it just readjusted my brain chemicals, which were off track. Don't think that you are damaged because you feel this way....a lot of times depression and mental illness are caused by the way the brain is wired and having these problems is no different than someone who has diabetes or heart problems..the stigma attached to mental illness makes it so hard for us to seek the treatment that we need, but it will make it better...Please, try this, it could be the difference that you need to feel happy....Good luck

2007-07-15 18:31:24 · answer #10 · answered by Sherri 2 · 5 0

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