My ex guy and I had been together for a couple of years. But recently we decided to take a break. We still act like were together.Were eachothers first LOVE.
But whenever I call we usually talk 4 like 30 mins. When he says hes gonna call most of the time he doesnt. He says he forgot or he was waiting 4 me to call.
He says he wants to get back together and he is gonna ask me. But I have no idea when.
Should I still try to get back with him and wait or just forget it????
2007-07-15 18:11:03 · 20 answers · asked by StArS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're both eachothers FIRST love than I would say try other people, you'd be surprised how you thought he was perfect and then there are plenty of other guys out there that are ten times better. Then if it doesn't work out with other people, see if he's still interested. If he's not interested anymore, don't panic. If it was meant to be, he'll be back.
2007-07-15 18:17:04 · answer #1 · answered by I-Town Kid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let me tell you from personal experience...I have been w/ my girlfriend for about 5 years now, we were each other's first love...we have been through a lot together. So I know that if anything ever happens between us I will still love her, I don't think I'd be able to get over her, and if we had a 2nd opportunity (like you guys) I wouldn't wait a day before asking her back, because I love her that much. So, do you see your ex like that? If he really wanted to get back with you don't you think he wouldn't wait any longer; unless he WASN'T too sure he wanted to be with you. I'm not saying that he doesn't love you because I wouldn't want to ruin relationship, but why don't you talk to him about it and try and find out a little bit more on how he feels about it. I hope this helps you.
2007-07-16 01:23:01 · answer #2 · answered by jponz15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this but it sounds to me like he's not really interested and is just making excuses. He is not being straight up with you about how he feels which is leaving you in limbo and unable to move on. He is not treating you with respect by doing as he's doing and that is not fair to you.
He needs to tell you exactly how he feels so that you know whether its time to let go or not. i really think he is not interested but does not know how to tell you, he is most likely afraid of hurting you but if he has any respect for you, he will do the right thing and tell you it's over. That is the way it sounds to me tho.
If someone is into you, you know, its obvious! They get in touch regularly, they make you feel good about yourself, they let you know how they feel about you. There is a very good book you can read called 'He's just not that into you' which might help you work this out if he can't be open and honest with you.
Also there is a website online which has a quiz you can take to help you have some idea of what is happening. It is a good website. i have added the link beow for you. Take care!
2007-07-16 01:23:41 · answer #3 · answered by leena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my best guess is---move on--a break up or a little separation is the same--it is over--if everything was good you two would still have a relationship--you don't have one now. IT IS OVER. Young love is tough--millions of first loves come to an end--that's life--there are millions of people out there doing the same thing--looking to expand and meet new people--it is natural and normal. Move on--meet more guys and have fun easy dates...you are only young once---no need for a serious relationship yet. Phone calls??? they don't mean a thing--you wait and he is busy--you call and the conversation is silly--get a grip--time to move on--let this guy go. Relax, smile and good luck
2007-07-16 01:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking a break in my oppinnion is "being in denial that it's over", as a fellow man he's just trying not to tell you straight up how it is. And about the 30 mins, does he talk or just say, oh, uh huh, no,yes if he doesnt then I'm wrong , if he does, then ask him if he wants to get back with you and demand an answer, then go from there, good luck
2007-07-16 01:17:17 · answer #5 · answered by knightwolf006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take it easy, and don't expect anything from the guy, the best thing you could possibly do is get to know some new guys, so just in case you have a plan B. You can also discover that you don't love him anymore... don't be very available for him, he'll know you are unconditional to him and not all the times that's a good thing... they have to romance you, to make you feel loved and they have to earn your love... so if he's not doing it forget about it and go on with your life.
2007-07-16 01:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by designingirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can relate to that. my (ex) boyfriend and i were together for a total of 13 months. we were each others first love and everything. we would get in fights where we decided to take a break. every time we were together, which was still like every day, we would do all the same bf/gf stuff like nothing was different.
i dont know how it happened, but we ended up in a really bad fight and actually were strong enough to end it.
i have to say, best decision of my life. when you are still in that "first love" thing you, or i, ididnt realize how much was out there. i am so much happier since he and i broke up, it took me awhile to get over it of course, but it was possible.
so i guess my point is, i say move on.
2007-07-16 01:18:24 · answer #7 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what you want. He sounds pretty forgetful so I'd wait about a week no more then that, and if it doesn't happen by then I'd try to move on. You know him better then I do. So what do you think? You HONESTLY think he'll ask you? If you know its a no deep inside forget it and move on. But if you say yes he'll come around wait. But don't wait all day long. Just see what happens. But if he really was going to ask you like he says, don't you think he already would have? you know him so just ask yourself these. And you'll know what to decide. Good luck!!!
2007-07-16 01:17:15 · answer #8 · answered by I can only be me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the not calling when he says hes going to you bothers you a lot. Try to get him to start saying "ill try to call back later..." or something like that. But mainly if hes playing with your feelings you might just want to let this one go.
I would sit down and talk it through with him. Tell him you dont want to wait around forever.
2007-07-16 01:18:11 · answer #9 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said: "He says he wants to get back together and he is gonna ask me. But I have no idea when."
That's standard guy talk for "I'll keep you on the hook until I find someone better."
Move on.
2007-07-16 01:15:25 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋