ok so my bf (of 2.5 years) and i got into a huge fight this past Fri due to my PMDD-it causes me to basically put him through hell the week before my period (accuse him of things he's not doing, cry over everything,etc). it got so bad that it came down to him forcing me to leave his house and go back to mine or he was going to get into his car and leave me in his house. i left w/him telling me he loved me, just needed a few days to bounce back, promised me he'd call everyday, and that i could call him if needed. i called Sat only to tell him about a fish tank that was on sale and he seemed happy to hear from me-telling me aobut his day then saying he loved me when hangning up.
i called back that afternoon in tears (got his voicemail) telling him i was scared we wouldn't make it-he never called back. i called again today on my way to his niece's b-day party (he didnt go) and he never called back so i stopped by...
pls read rest-important to my question
2007-07-15 18:03:55 · 10 answers · asked by dncer228 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he answered the door and let me in, we made love (it was perfect and the best it's ever been), then got ready for work (we both work nites-same days).
i asked him what was wrong while we were waiting to leave and he said he was still stressed out. i told him i was sorry and that i had decided if i ever treated him that badly again that i would leave the relationship b/c i didnt want to ever hurt him like that again. then i asked if we were going to be ok-he said "i hope so." i got upset so he then told me that he just needed some space to relax and it would take some time to get back to where we were before the fight. he then asked for the garage door opener to his house that he gave me b/c he was worried that i would invade his space during one of my moods causing a permanent break-up. i gave it back but was heartbroken.
he said the best thing for me to do to save us was to step back and give him the space-if i forced it or smothered him-then it would fall apart.
help!!!
2007-07-15 18:07:48 · update #1
PMDD is NOT treated with midol or tylenol-it's NOT PMS!!! i take birth control pills for it but skipped last month due to money issues-big mistake that i'm paying for big time!!
2007-07-15 18:09:19 · update #2
ok i know its difficult but PLEASE CALM DOWN!!!! here's the key...dont call him. wait till he calls u! or if u do..only call once a day!!!! i promise this will help. guys make love all the time...ive been w/my bf for 6 years and have gone through similar things. sometimes.....guys want to honestly just be left alone. they aren't the type to really break things down and talk to u about everything no matter how open he may be. thinkn of it this way too.....if u call him all the time...if u go to see him...if u bother him.....he may break up with u. and when he does...you'll be MORE heartbroken cause you'll think it was TOTALLY your fault!!! so dont do that. if u leave him alone, he may come around. if he doesn't at least u know u tried and u did what he said and u can't put the blame all on yourself.
im sure everything will work out. he's been through a lot with u and if he wanted to, he could have left years ago! just remember he loves u. as of this point in time..your his and he's yours. just calm down and take time to breathe. good luck!!!
2007-07-15 18:12:25 · answer #1 · answered by spaceranger2010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the hardest thing to do and hardest thing to hear is that you have no control over this situation right now. Your calls will probably upset him more if he needs time.
My best friend gave me the best advice ever...Go crazy on your girlfriends, so your boyfriend doesn't see you trip.
Leave him to think it out. Also, consider getting a therapist or some medical help for your PMDD. I'm not a doctor, but there are some different medications approved for that problem. It is a seriously difficult thing to deal with. I become a different person, I see it, but sometimes I can't do anything about it.
Everytime you go to call him, go for a run. Walk the dog, do 100 situps. You'll feel better, and you'll definitely avoid that 'loss of control' you get when you don't hear from him.
Take the power in your hands!
2007-07-15 18:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by nurserose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to hear that =/ well i think u already realised now that u must control urself those days because its ruining ur relationship.. ur guy asked u for space and thats what he needs... dont break ur head thinking what u should do... u apologised and u obviously do love each other... give him some time alone, and show him that u have changed by ur actions not ur words.. call him from time to time to ask how he's doing but dont go over his place or cry on the phone etc just give him time..he's obviously scared about working this relationship out and not knowing how is gonna turn out... u got to show him that u will no longer be the person that ruins the relationship .. u must control urself and next time u feel like being angry and all just walk away on ur own until u get better... show him that u love him and would do anything for him .. the best way is to make him realise that u will stop the odd behaviour on those "hard" days... i hope it works out fine...
2007-07-15 18:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will definitely fall apart if this keeps on happening. Humans only have so much of a threshold for stresses put upon them by others. When bad things keep on happening, eventually a person will indeed walk away. You need to see someone about getting on some medication for your PMDD. I know a woman who got on some medication and it helped greatly. It doesn't seem like he has reached his breaking point, but honey - he is close. If you want to save this relationship, go see someone.
2007-07-15 18:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you get a grip and realize that you control your behavior and that you don't have some made up period psychological problem that helps Midol and Tylenol sell more pills to women every month?
Quit blaming everything but who you should be blaming which is you. You should be controlling your behavior and if you can't then he has a right to move on to some woman who has her life together and knows what responsibility is.
2007-07-15 18:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your baby needs you, and your love. She's going to catch things her whole life, especially when she goes to school, or if you put her in daycare. There's no way to tell if she's going to catch what you have or not, but if she is, she has already been exposed, so you might as well just take care of her normally. Sorry you are sick.
2016-05-18 23:12:21 · answer #6 · answered by gayle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a lovers spat dear, Happens to everyone at one time or another. Give it a few more days or a week and you will be back together. Making up is fun.:-)
But do try to control yourself in the future.
2007-07-15 18:09:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have scared him out of his wits. Get yourself some help, you may have anger problems you need to deal with. I think the poor guy is freaked out and needs some space. Give him time to see you trying to help yourself. Best of Luck.
2007-07-15 18:07:58 · answer #8 · answered by briz_ee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i didnt read the whole thing cause it seemed self absorbed and full of drama.
seems like you both belong with each other because u both love drama, keeping emotions on high and playing stupid games.
2007-07-15 18:14:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
uhh whats the question
2007-07-15 18:08:19 · answer #10 · answered by ricanthuglyp 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋