do i still love him?

Question

okay well my ex(zach)we went out for a month and yeah i liked him alot. but somtimes he would get mad when i was hanging out with my guy friends but they were his friends too.well then one day this other guy started to flirt with me and i didnt like him at all but zach didnt belive me.and yeah the guy would do it alot and sometimes he would give me stuff and im the type of person that cant stand to see some one sad or hurt. but i wouldnt take it and one time he gave me a rose in front of my ex zach and yeah he broke up with me and yeah he broke my heart alot by saying really mean things too me and then some time past and i got over him but now when see him or see the letters he use to write me and our song(how to save a life by the fray)i start to remember him and i dont know if it was my fault or if it was just fate. and yesterday i had a pool party and that guy came and he was flirting with me i answered back but i would i would remember my ex. what should i do should i call him (ex)

Answer 1

Well if you feel there were things unsettled, and there seem
to be with you, maybe you could call and arrange for him to
see you in some private location where you could talk openly.
I'm one who has tended to find out things, or it eats me up
inside and isn't settled. So if it were me, I'd call, and if he
doesn't want to talk or reconnect, you have your answer. And
then you have to move on. There's nothing like a first love.
But you weren't an item long. So if he's hot headed and not
trusting, you don't really want him anyway. He sounds like
he's too immature to understand thru his jelousy, that girls
can be sociable with boys too. And as far as the one giving
you a rose, your ex was blindly jelous. He hadn't maybe thought to do that same thing. But then, the boy knew you were going with someone, and that was a bad move on his part. Especially to do that in front of your then boyfriend. I'd say the rose boy was acting a bit too much of a jerk.Did he
expect for you to just drop your boyfriend? Just because he
was handing you a rose? You can do better. I would look beyond him and find someone else down the line. You may need some time to re-evaluate what type of boyfriend you really need. If a relationship is hurtful, senses should tell you, that you're not made for each other. Love is not supposed to be cruel or hurtful. Your ex has hurt you. So you decide whether there's still hope. But he has to meet you halfway. You can't run after him and make a name for yourself
in doing so. Pride goeth before the fall, is a good saying to
learn from.

Answer 2

You should move on. It's okay to hold on to special memories of past loves, but don't let those memories cloud the reality of the relationship. It sounds as if Zach was the jealous type, and that would not likely change if you got back together. Most guys would be mad at the guy flirting with their girl, not the girl (especially if you were not receptive to his advances). A lot of guys would be proud that other guys were interested. It sounds like Zach didn't trust you enough, and if his guy friends were making things up, he didn't respect you enough to talk to you about it rationally and hear your side. Let him go. You do not want a jealous, controlling, accusatory jerk for a BF. The only fault you have in it is not respecting yourself enough to stop tolerating his mean and unfounded behavior. Respect yourself enough not to have him back. He owes you an apology, not the other way around.

Answer 3

Of course he broke up with you. You need to tell the other boy where your feelings lie and put a stop to the madness. Just imagine how Zach had to feel, standing there watching some other guy give you a rose. Did you possibly lead the other guy on? Why would he be giving you flowers if he knew you had a boyfriend?

Answer 4

Everyone is sad after a break up, and everyone will have a period of missing that person and wondering if it was the right move.
Zach sounds like a jerk and no one needs a jealous boyfriend, it's really juvenile.
Learn from the experience and move on. It's all part of life.

Answer 5

When you were together and you would hang out with your guy friends, and he'd get angry, he was probably really jealous. Which probably is why he didn't believe you when things happened with this other guy. If you really miss him and think that there could be another chance, talk to Zach. Tell him how you feel and explain all that stuff to him. Explain that you didn't know that hanging out with his guy friends would have made him upset. Explain that there really was nothing going on with that other guy. Good luck!

Answer 6

you had mutual guy friends with your ex. one particular guy hit on you in front of "zach" alot and now you want to know if you're to blame?

sometimes guys are just jerks. your guy friends may have been saying crazy things to your ex, "zach". especially the one that gave you a rose... who's to say this other guy didnt intentionally try to break you up?

if you just want closure ask him why'd he dump you. but i dont know if you should get back with him. to be in a healthy relationship you need trust and obviously your ex doesnt trust you.

Answer 7

well that other guy that flirted with you when u were going out with zach is a jerk and its his fault that zach broke up with you

if i were u, i would be so pissed at that other kid, and if zach doesnt kno that its not your fault, hes a loser too

you should talk to zach and tell him how you feel--tell him that you didnt do anything wrong, and that you miss him, but also tell him that he really hurt your feelings when he said those hurtful things to you

good luck

Answer 8

Quit living in the past, your ex was a jerk to blame you for everything, assuming you really are innocent like you say.

Answer 9

i HAD A BOYFRIEND ONCE. But i broke up with him when i saw him nibbling on another girls ear !!!!. Any ways he is just caring for u just to make sure that u wont give him up for another guy so i call that standing up for u!

Answer 10

Only u can answer this. follow your heart. it will lead you down the right path