My husband's niece called tonight. She has an 8 year old daughter that she wanted me to babysit until tomorrow afternoon. I've only met the little girl once at a funeral. I told a lie and said I was just getting ready to go out for the evening.
It was all very last minute. My neice had arranged for her mom to watch the child but apparently she had forgotton and she wasn't home. I suppose that my nieces job may be in jepordy tonight if she's not able to find an overnight sitter. We are not very close and it was out of the blue. How do I overcome this guilt???
2007-07-15 17:41:39 · 7 answers · asked by seashell 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all the best thing that you did was step to the side and did not take any responsibility of the mom's responsibility.If you are feeling guilty,DON"T.Because if you were an 8yr.old and you got suddenly dropped off at someone's home and didn't know who they were, where they came from or how safe they really were,HOW WOULD YOU FEEL?I'd be pretty scared.No child should be left with people that they do not know.YOU should not either.If you had known this child and the child recognized you and was comfortable with you then I would probably say"JUST THIS ONE TIME AND NO MORE."
But you and your husband don't know the child and only met him or her ONCE? Something is wrong there.Mom doesn't have the kids' best interests at heart.Mom needs to be prepared and needs to find someone to help her in situations that they can accomidate her.I did the same thing for a friend and I ended up getting used really bad.The kid started to call me mom because i was always the one they saw.The mom was working 2 jobs and going to school.Now the kid is in a babysitting place from6:30a.m til the doors close at 11p.m.This situation could be you.Please talk to your husband and other family about this.It is a very sensitive manner and needs to be nipped in the bud.Don't let you and your husband be left with this on your conscious.Find out all you can.It is family and needs to be delt with in the family.Don't be afraid to set rules and regulations for emergencies. Good luck.
2007-07-15 18:36:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call her tomorrow and suggest you should get together so that you can get to know the child in case she ever needs you at the last minute again. No need to feel guilty about tonight. That way, if it happens again, you're all more comfortable (or you can say no if she's a brat!)
2007-07-16 01:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by SueBru 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could try telling the truth to release the guilt. But I don;t think its such a good idea...you could call her and tell that you want to go over and babysit...
2007-07-16 01:40:40 · answer #3 · answered by Karen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you can do is call her back and tell her your plans changed and you are free to babysitt.
2007-07-16 00:47:22 · answer #4 · answered by #1.Hippie.For.sure 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call her back and tell her yes you can now
2007-07-16 00:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by ez-goin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to apologize and fix the problem : ]
2007-07-16 01:46:03 · answer #6 · answered by Katie S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget it! it's not your problem, you did not have the child, did you?
2007-07-16 01:14:54 · answer #7 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋