Even though they say they want a nice guy and say they hate jerks? If you look at the scenario, it always plays out where the girl goes for the jerk and tortures the nice guy with the fact that she's in a sexual relationship with a jerk. To me, this shows hatred and contempt toward nice men because torture is the ultimate display of hatred. This isn't really what bothers me, though; it's more of the fact that women can't be honest about what they really want when looking for a man.
I realize that many women will respond to this and say that they love nice guys, when in reality they've only been used by jerks.
By the way, in this case, nice does not mean weak, emotional, needy, or desperate.
Could this perhaps also be why America's divorce rate is skyrocketing? Nice guys feel they must become jerks for a sexual relationship (a basic necessity for all men) so any concept of love is lost.
2007-07-15 17:37:21 · 8 answers · asked by SKKKKKAFF 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
z: I'm aware that girls are attracted to bad boys, but that doesn't answer my question.
2007-07-15 17:41:46 · update #1
Women LIKE nice guys, but are ATTRACTED to the qualities found in jerks. The bottom line is that it depends on what you want. Do you want a friend or a girlfriend. E-mail me if you need to solve this problem in your life.
2007-07-15 17:47:13 · answer #1 · answered by Nels N 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm one of those few women who actually only date nice guys, and the result is that I've had my first bf when I was 20, then after him I went on an involuntary dating/sex hiatus for two years and now Im dating another nice guy. I've never dated jerks because of my high standards thus I've never been used. Problem is, a lot of 'nice guys' really arent that nice; they just think they are.
Your probably being nice to the wrong girls and mean to the right ones. Think about the type of girl you are attracted to physically and go the complete opposite. (Im not saying that she has to be really ugly, just that there are girls who dont have perfect, sexy bodies who would appreciate and love to have a nice guy in their life.)
2007-07-15 17:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by Happy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've only dated nice guys . In high school and in college.. and I married one of the nicest guys who ever walked the face of this planet. Not only is he nice , but he's shy, too. He was in the military, plays on a baseball league, is a marathon runner, and has a job where 12 people work under him.
I wouldn't call that weak, needy, emotional, and he certainly isn't desperate.
2007-07-15 17:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
People with low self-esteem are usually attracted to people who treat them badly, because that's how they feel they should be treated, and because of the familiarity. The person who treats them badly reminds them of someone in their family who did the same. Familiarity is a big factor in attraction. This is fortunate for people who came from healthy families. And unfortunate for people who came from dysfunctional families. The people from dysfunctional families find themselves hopelessy drawn into the same bad relationships and don't know why.
This is NOT a property of all women. Just the women you keep hanging around with. You are attracted to women who like jerks and don't want to return your affection. You must start investigating why this is. It may take years for you to unravel this mystery, but there's no time like the present to start.
Women do like real people, ones who share their happiness, sadness, anger, fears and so on. Nice guys typically try to be better than this. They try to be understanding where the other guys are cold, agreeable when other guys get angry and so on. But there's two problems with this. One is they become un-human. Human beings are NEVER like this. Second is it 's fake. Underneath the nice guy has all the same emotions as anybody else walking the planet but he's convering them up to try to look better than everyone else. It's really a form of narcissism. It's all about image and how the nice guy looks contrasted to everyone else in his world. And, this, is to cover his underlying low self-esteem.
Birds of a feather flock together. The low self-esteem nice guy, is attracted to the low self-esteem girl, who hangs around with jerks.
2007-07-17 09:55:43 · answer #4 · answered by LG 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no. But usually all the hot guys are major jerks. Either way, I like nice guys. The kind that can make you laugh. Just not too funny. They have to be a bit serious too.
2007-07-15 17:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
nope so so so wrong, I hate jerks prefer the nice guys. We date jerks because we don't know they are until they hurt us!!
No one walks around with a sign saying "I'm a jerk" or "I'm a nice guy" how are we to distinguish between the two.
2007-07-15 17:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by ~confused~ 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
yes girls are atracted to bad boys
2007-07-15 17:40:47 · answer #7 · answered by Laffy50 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, it's true lol.
2007-07-15 17:41:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋