This is not a judgement in any way, I'm just curious. I know that some people make mistakes and choose to have their babies and raise them without being married, but others purposely conceive children out of wedlock, those are the ones I'm curious about.
2007-07-15 17:34:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
*When I say "mistake" I mean the condom broke, you got caught up in the heat of the moment, whatever the case was. The pregnancy was unplanned. I'm not saying your child is a mistake.
2007-07-15 17:43:24 · update #1
*Also, if you aren't married, are you raising your child alone or with your partner? Why or why not? This is addressed to men and women.
2007-07-15 17:44:53 · update #2
We have had both of our children out of wedlock, We just have not gotten married, we love one another and have been together 6-great years. We just never seen, a have to reason, to be married. We know we're meant to be together, so it don't really matter, what a piece of paper says. Someday we're going to, but it's not a big cloud over our heads. I see her as my wife, and call and tell everyone that, as well as she does the same. I mean some people think they just have to get married, and revolve their life around that. And they do it to make everyone else happy. Just be happy and loving and live a good life, and when it takes place, it happens in your own time.
2007-07-15 17:47:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am unmarried and pregnant, and while it was unplanned I wouldn't say I "made a mistake"...my partner and I have been together for 3 years, and we're not sure if we EVER want to get married...not because we aren't committed to each other, but because we're not religious and don't feel the need to sign a piece of paper in the eyes of the law.
2007-07-16 00:39:06 · answer #2 · answered by grayhare 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I was living with my boyfriend and I ended up pregnant. I am NOT a believer in the old "OMG we're pregnant so we better race out and get married." It would've been different if we'd planned to get married before the baby (or babies, in our case) came to be, but that hadn't been planned or discussed. We were in love, and we didn't feel the need to rush out and get a piece of paper to make it official, that's pretty much it. We weren't trying to get pregnant, but we weren't taking precautions to avoid pregnancy either.
We stayed together for almost 10 yrs and although we eventually did divorce (in Oklahoma, you have to get a divorce since they recognize common-law marriage, which is what we were) but we continued to raise the children together. Unfortunately, on Father's Day 2000, he was diagnosed with terminal cancer and he passed away shortly after New Year's Day 2001 at the age of 33. Since that time, I have mainly raised them on my own, although I am now remarried so I do have some help raising them, but my current husband is NOT their father and he, having known their deceased father, is very hesitant to try to "play daddy"--he feels it would be disrespectful to their father. What he doesn't understand is that their father would WANT him to step in and fill his shoes as their dad. They need one.
2007-07-16 01:15:11 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reasons that someone has a child out of wedlock are usually many kinds, but it is always bad for the child.
2007-07-16 20:21:18 · answer #4 · answered by ddttpphh3646 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my view the maximum children today are become with a mistake because a huge part of human being is driving regularly its life without any moto. If we seriously think about the sex or physical relation with in the male and female we all would found that sex relation may should be made only for taking a child. But most of us are doing this only in the interest of taste of our physical satisfaction. which should not be carried over.
a man should make physical relation with women only to get kid not for taste
But we all are going wrong than what may be say about this..?
2007-07-16 00:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by loving_human 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I just feel that marriage is a christian institution, and I'm not christian nor is my partner. We call each other hubby and wife though, and we're considered to be a "married" couple in our culture. We've been together 12 years now, and have had six children together, and our partnership is as solid and committed as many married couples.
2007-07-16 00:44:59 · answer #6 · answered by KooriGirl 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am a single mom that had a unplanned pregnancy. I only wish I was smart enough to made that choice on my own. It is so hard.
Grayhare I love ur picture be blessed.
2007-07-16 01:08:36 · answer #7 · answered by LadyRedWild 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a male as well single and when i get married i would hope to have children someday as far as juding a person having a child out of wedlock that isny my style of doing that just my opion?
2007-07-16 01:43:50 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im about to get married and i have 2 kids out of accidental conceptions, but i just wanted to say that some people believe marriage isnt for them but they want kids. im not saying its the best thing always, but for some, let them be. i mean religiously i could lecture, but otherwise, if they are financial stable, they can have children if they want without getting married to anyone
2007-07-16 00:39:26 · answer #9 · answered by Lil mzz green eyez 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a good question even though I'm married with 2 kids and I can't EVEN imagine not having my husband around to help. Must be really hard...
2007-07-16 00:39:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋