hello i have been a member of the church of jesus christ of latter day saints for about 10 years. earlier this year i met a girl named tammy and she is bisexual. we were really close and she never tried to do anything with me. i was going foward with my faith and one night i somewhat gave in. we had lesbian sex in my mothers car. that same day i went to church early in the morning and i sat there feeling really bad. i felt as though i had done something wrong. as our frienship grew so did my feelings for her. i find myself a night thinking about her and wanting her. she and i even had a short relationship ( i broke up with her casue i felt wrong) i still have feelings for her but i know that thre feelings are wrong what should i do?
2007-07-15 17:29:59 · 15 answers · asked by UW2010 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
hey, I know what you are going through has to be tough. I admire your strength in asking your friends what to do, and it awes me that people call for you to set yourself free and at the same time tell you to "loose the cult" etc. I cannot for a moment sit so high and mighty as to call your beleifs a fantasy or a pack of lies nor can I condem you personally for making some choices that you seem to feel questionable about. My studies tell me that homosexuality is not the way of the creator and this is laid out in the epistles of Paul to the Corrinthians and in subsequent letters he wrote. That should remove the beleifs of Mormon form the question, which I beleive also teach against such. I think that you are hearing what we reconstructionists call the still small voice inside us. The holy spirit works inside you and you must listen. Obedience is not what I am calling for but I know you must feel empty from the words of your message. Therefore, I beleive that the spirit is calling for your attention and obedience to the word. I will offer you my prayers and support and please feel free to join our 360 ring I have lots of friends who would love to get to know you and share with you in your growth. I think the baptist church has some language that applies to your sitiation; this is an opperitunity for you to take a closer "walk" with the lord. Any member of your local priesthood, your bishop and even your friends should be there to help you. In my church I do not beleive you would be excommunicated, but you would receive council if you asked and administration by the wholy spirit. I strongly recommend those things along with prayer and a strong group of friends around you to help you through whatever your choice may be. You knew the answer before you asked didn't you? We (your fellow church members) love and support you in your good endeavors. Trust in the spirit and in your gut feeling. The spirit never gives up on you. Please, don't give up on it.
2007-07-18 06:37:56 · answer #1 · answered by grant_cole1979 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly this is misguided, i understand a mormon who's gay (i'm a mormon too) and confident we've faith the ACT of homosexuality is a sin. the sentiments one has for an identical intercourse isn't the sin it somewhat is having intercourse with an identical intercourse. And to the guy who stated being gay isn't a decision, confident it somewhat is a decision gays are actually not born gay they have emotions they can't controll yet they'd controll their strikes. i understand that makes it sound like we are terrible human beings yet this is purely what we've faith. Jesus loves everybody, gay, immediately, lesbian black, white, asian, murders, rapists. He won't love the failings they do yet he loves all
2016-09-30 02:19:06 · answer #2 · answered by mangini 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is politically incorrect to believe that homosexuality is wrong. It is also politically incorrect to believe in God. Many of the people answering this question choose to question God rather than question society. You can't follow both.
Some people have a natural predisposition toward homosexuality. Everyone struggles with natural tendencies to sin. For some it's drugs, for others it's violence. For some it's lying or stealing. Just because it's natural doesn't mean it's right.
Self indulgence is the way of the world. It brings pleasure but not happiness. Self mastery is God's way and leads to true happiness. It's harder but it's worth it.
2007-07-17 11:24:33 · answer #3 · answered by atomzer0 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think you should also talk to your bishop he can help you. I know a guy that actually over came his gay feelings and served a mission, and now he is married and has a baby so it can be done, but i can almost guarantee you that your bishop is going to tell you to stop seeing that girl.So if you really want to stop doing it then you will just have to be prepared to do that.
2007-07-15 18:21:48 · answer #4 · answered by Erica M 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You have free agency, just as you have learned from the gospel. It is your life, and you have choice. It is still wrong, however, and homosexual activity is a serious sin. Speak with your parents and your bishop/branch president. Godspeed, sister.
2007-07-18 10:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by Zeorus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a LDS myself I think you know you need to talk with your bishop and pray for forgiveness. It is good you broke up with her. I will be praying for you too. You know in your heart what is right.
2007-07-19 02:28:56 · answer #6 · answered by joleen j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there!
The first thing you should do is to talk to your bishop about what happened, don't be afraid of it, your bishop is someone in whom you can trust and he will do his best to help you. You know what's right and what is not, you broke the law of chastity, but that's something in the past now, you feel guilty about it, so is it that you repent of what happened? That would be great! You won't be excommunicated, talk to your bishop and tell him how you feel, he will give you the best advice. Maybe you could be confused and that feeling is maybe lust but not love, maybe you feel appreciation for her but to really love someone is something huge, you have to think about it. Pray a lot and ask our Heavenly Father for help and guidance, never is too late, he will always listen to your prayers and bless you life as long as you never lose your faith and follow his commandments. Trust your bishop! ...actually, if you feel weird telling that to him since you always see him in your ward and all that, MAYBE (I don't know if it is alowed) you could go to another ward and talk to their bishop... you can try! but I urge you to pray, never lose faith, don't put yourself down, try to not do it again and again, talk to your bishop, no1 one else here in YA can give you better advices than him. Good luck !!! ^_^
[edit]: why all the thumb downs? I am telling her exactly what would be correct to do! if she doesn't want to do it, then that's up to her.
2007-07-15 17:41:07 · answer #7 · answered by Love Yahoo!!! wannabe a princess 4 · 6⤊ 4⤋
Talk to your bishop. He'll be able to help, not chastise you. Really, he's there for you.
2007-07-16 08:08:39 · answer #8 · answered by Sherpa 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The LAST thing you want to do is go to your bishop. He is just going to make you feel even more guilty and shameful.
There is nothing wrong with your relationship. You have to do what makes YOU happy. Mormonism is a cult of guilt and shame and it pains me to think about what you are going through. Be who you are and don't let them prey on you.
2007-07-15 17:51:20 · answer #9 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 6⤋
Talk to your bishop! He will help you.
2007-07-18 04:39:20 · answer #10 · answered by Joseph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋