a woman at the age of 42 is wanting to hook up with me and i am 23 i am not sure what i should do because of the age range and she lives in a group home.i am afraid of her family won't like me because of the age range.
2007-07-15 17:06:48 · 41 answers · asked by dodge_ram_pickup_guy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Uhhhhhhhh...she lives in a group home....that's your first clue to run in the opposite direction......She's 42 and you are 23 ...that's your second clue .....do you really need a third clue ?
2007-07-15 17:09:36 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would try to consider the overall picture and be sensitive to her situation. If she lives in a group home, she likely gets assistance with some basic life issues and might not be making the a completely informed or thought through decision in wanting to hook up with someone. You should be sure that if you were to accept her overtures, that you wouldn't be seen as having taken advantage of her in the long run. However she is an adult and so are you, so the opinions of others ultimately should only be a guide to your own mature choices. You should decide what you intend for the future. If this is just a meaningless hookup for you, would it stay as that for her. Is she going to become attached to you and immediately see you as part of her support structure? If this happens, you might have to let her down in the future, as sometimes happens in relationships that unintentionally change, and how would this affect her. Personally my advice would be to seek out someone who isn't receiving care from a structured living arrangement, who can make decisions like that on their own, and also handle any fallout that could follow it's end...
2007-07-15 17:16:39 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I do not believe that you should get involved in this. I work in a pharmacy where I see people of all types. Recently, a customer lost her 75 year old husband and she is only 55. She said that she has spent the last 20 years of her life caring for him and she was tired. I don't think this is any way to live life. I'm all for love, but at some point there is regret over wasted opportunity.
2007-07-15 17:12:34 · answer #3 · answered by Tired_Of_Sarcasm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away, walk away, walk away. The age difference is too great, and the fact that she lives in a group home means she has other problems too. This should be two huge red flags to get your attention. Suspecting that her family won't like you for these reasons is the third huge red flag! Nothing good can come from this, no matter how physically attractive she may be.
2007-07-15 17:11:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, explain what hooking up entails? DO hooking up means getting married or just be really really really friendly. Friendly as in we are seeing each other more seriously and doing naughty things more specifically in the bed.
What you need to do is define limits. What is the nature of the relationship and what are the expectations that you two individually expect from such a relation. Once you have that defined you will be better equiped to make a desition.
2007-07-15 17:11:55 · answer #5 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off does hook up mean just sex? If so than why not.... but if you mean hook up as get into a relationship than there are a lot of things to consider....Well does the age thing bother you? Even if it doesnt you cant hide the lady from the friends and that could make some things awkward.
2007-07-15 17:10:41 · answer #6 · answered by Beezee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants just sex and you are comfortable having a SAFE sexual relationship with someone her age then whose stopping you. If she is wanting more, then that's a(whole)nother story. You see, when you think of relationships, usually you want someone you can grow, explore, and learn with. With such an age difference it's going to be difficult maintaining such a healthy relationship. It may quickly turn from boyfriend/girlfriend to boyfriend/mom.
Also, I believe, in a relationship both parties should bring something to the table emotionally, physically, and materially. So I would ask myself what do I want from her and what do I have to offer? On the flip side, what does she really want from me and what does she have to offer?
A more fundamental thought is if you have to question it, it might not be right. You shouldn't let the family sway your ultimate decision. If in your gut you decide you'd like to give it a go, then go for it. But be ready for the opposition.
2007-07-15 17:43:58 · answer #7 · answered by Highlyfavored 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants your pimp juice!!! No but seriously I know your harmones are probably out of whack and she may be an easy screw and that is probably all she wants because she thinks of your age and thinks stamina. You two have absolutely nothing in common age wise and life experiences tell her to step off and go buy a vibrator go find someone your age and if she tries to lure you in by giving you money run or I'll look for you on the back of a milk carton (missing)
2007-07-15 17:17:17 · answer #8 · answered by tamara y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any feelings for this woman? I ask this question because it seems as if she is doing all the pushing, and you are just letting it happen! As long as she brings no 'baggage' with her I cannot see any harm in the relationship. But don't be pushed into anything you are not happy with. Also! don't get tied down with children. Have a good day.
2007-07-15 17:29:27 · answer #9 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go for it if it wasn't for the group home thing. Older women are very sexy. A woman is at her sexual peak in her forties. She knows what she is doing and she still looks good.
2007-07-15 17:10:42 · answer #10 · answered by John M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋