my best friend i guess he would be best friend. might become my boyfriend. we dated twice already and broke up. reasons for breaking up are just teenager stuff. thats what we are. now we are friends and he said he wants me back but he dont cause he dont want to hurt me anymore. and he wants some other girls too. he told me not to hope for anything more then friends for now. but i find it hard not to hope for him to be my boyfriend again. i thought of maybe if i hung around with some other guys like hanging out or something that would help. but he wouldnt like that. so how do i stop hoping? and how do i keep myself from hurting if i find out what i dont want to hear?
2007-07-15 17:04:27 · 11 answers · asked by Southern Princess 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately your just going through a tough stage in your life. Don't get me wrong, you will have lots of relationships throughout your life and some yes will cause you pain. You should never go into a relationship "hoping" in a sense. The two of you have already broke up twice, and only you know the reasons to them. Sit down and write of pros and cons about this guy and see if it is really worth it. Don't give a guy a deadline. Just tell the guy you really care for him, but your not gonna wait around for him to decide if he wants you are not. You deserve better than that. It also sounds kinda like your a "backup" for him in case the other girls don't work out. Don't play second best. You deserve to be happy, and well your not so happy now. Think about that.
2007-07-16 12:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by Clara C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will be a lot of ups and downs through out your teen years .......but, have heart, you will get over the hurts and some day find a guy who is REALLY the guy for you....and you will know, when that time comes. Enjoy the teen years you have and the friends you make....and good luck in school.
2007-07-16 00:12:54 · answer #2 · answered by cuch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop the idea. Being that you are teenagers you have a lot of living to do that should be done single. I am not saying you have to go to a dance alone, but you do not need the BF/GF titles. If he is telling you not to keep your hopes up because there are other girls... well do not waste your time. remember you have your college years to get through. When in doubt...wait.
2007-07-16 00:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by bobbo342 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short and sweet get another person to date. You should never have to ask someone to commit to you. If they want you to be theirs they will ask you. It's that simple. So my advice would be to stop wasting your time get out there and find someone else. This can do two things . Find you someone that wants you or secondly make him realize that he has pushed you away and then he'll try harder. Good luck
2007-07-16 00:11:52 · answer #4 · answered by dezirae24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have no idea how often that has happened to me! starting a relationship again will only make it harder, even though it sounds like the easiest thing ever! just become closer as friends, soon you will be practically a couple, but wont have to worry about ever breaking up!
2007-07-16 00:09:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing for you to do is the same thing that he is doing to you. he doesn't care about your feelings obviously if he is telling you that he wants other girls to.my advice would be for you to hangout with guys and do what you want because he doesn't care. don't get stuck on 1 guy because you still have your whole life ahead of you to find the right guy.live life to the fullest
2007-07-16 00:12:40 · answer #6 · answered by Pedro J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you heard of the phrase STRING ALONG?that is what he is doing to you.I hope you have not done it yet.He is toying with you.You sound sweet and sensitive enough tojust sit around and wait for him.Take my advice.Cut it off and stop being friends for now .Start dating someone else.
2007-07-16 19:24:09 · answer #7 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well youre always going to hope no matter how much you try to look forward to the future, just dont push it, just do your daily thing, dont try to hang out with other boys, you would probably give him the wrong message, its not always black and white when you do things like that.
2007-07-16 00:08:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i completely understand what ur going through... (ima a teen too) i went through that situation this year... just dont perssure him about it. if you do get back together, dont get your hopes up too high you have ur whole life ahead of you. and keep hoping, dont completely give up but just dont go to crazy over the whole scenario...!!! good luck!
2007-07-16 00:17:09 · answer #9 · answered by bunnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants his cake and to eat it as well. (stay home and wait for me while I go out with other girls). Don't put up with that! Send him on his way. Look for someone who is happy with who you are. You deserve better!
2007-07-16 00:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋