I arranged with 5 other girlfriends to go to a recent theatre show, as I was the one arranging it I agreed to purchase all the tickets at one time (after everyone had said they were going), as most of my friends work, which makes it harder for them to get in during the day. The day that we were due to go, one friend rang in the morning and cancelled, the other I rang early afternoon to see what time she would get to my house, and she told me she wasn't going. The tickets cost $60 each, neither of the women have said anything about reimbursing me for their tickets. Should I ask for the money? I feel they should pay, as they knew well ahead of time that I was paying for them, and neither cancelled due to an emergency, it was simply because they had "made other plans".
2007-07-15 17:03:49 · 7 answers · asked by Sonja 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes, they should both pay. You should've handed out the tickets and collected before the show, but it's too late now. Just kindly state that you bought the tickets for them since they agreed to go. Since they cancelled they are still on the hook to pay for them.
Hopefully this is the last time you do your friends a favor, or at least get it in writing (even just an e-mail) that they will pay, rain or shine.
2007-07-15 17:11:28 · answer #1 · answered by Louie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it would be to ask, you have to get up and say that it was innapropriate. They knew about the plans, scheduled it ahead of time, and instant backing out is no excuse.
A guy did that to me and my friends for the recent harry potter movie. He hadn't arranged a ride home and was calling me at 4 in the afternoon, long after we had got the tickets. He lives 40 minutes away and the gas would be more than the ticket, tenfold. He never offered to pay, but it is not my responsibility to do so. The plans for this movie were made 2 weeks in advance, he shouldn't have waited till the day of to figure out a way home.
Your friends can't decide the day of to back out, without a serious reason. It is there responsibility to at least follow through with payment.
2007-07-15 18:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shea, with 4449 points in Answers, and dozens of BEST Answers as well, you are obviously a very astute and articulate person.
I am surprised that you would not have said, as all of us in the same situation have said ;
" You say you can't make it ? OK, so who is taking your ticket? Your ticket which you asked me to get for you is here so what do you want me to do with it?
Mind you, if it was a popular sell-out concert the girl at the ticket office might welcome the chance to take the ticket back and sell it to one of those waiting "ON LINE" I've bought lots of "turn ins" like this and was lucky they were available.
Certainly there is NO WAY you should be stuck for $120 !
2007-07-15 18:05:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely ask for the money back, but do it in a nice way, so as not to upset your friends. They shouldn't stick you with having to pay $60 for each ticket. Tell them that it was their responsibility beforehand, and it should remain to be, even now. Hopefully, they will see that they owe you, and just do it without making it a fuss.
2007-07-15 18:53:42 · answer #4 · answered by Whooosh! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i want to congratulate you for not cancelling your plans to attend dinner with him. So in lots of instances these days, human beings so as that type of element whilst they get a raffle to be with somebody they are fascinated in. Etiquette approximately conserving provides has long previous thoroughly out the window. you were not impolite to cancel, you probably did already produce different plans. despite the fact that, i think of that sticking to a undemanding of under no circumstances accepting a final minute invite is going to depart your life extremely dull and predictable. depart your self some room for being spontaneous. considering which you're actually unable to settle for his dinner invitation this time, I advise you invite HIM to dinner a while quickly.
2017-01-21 04:53:55 · answer #5 · answered by bolen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should pay for the tickets. They knew you would buy the tickets for them and they should have told you earlier that they wouldn't go, before you bought the tickets. Since they didn't, it makes perfect sense to me to ask them to pay for their tickets. You were doing them a favor buying the tickets for them, so why should you being the one to lose money on them changing their plans?
2007-07-15 22:25:01 · answer #6 · answered by undir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt very seriously that the following statement is the proper way to handle your so-called, two-timing friends, but girlfriend it is highly effective: KICK THAT AS$!
2007-07-15 17:08:57 · answer #7 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋