ok so me and my g/f have been considering sex for a long time now and we tried not to long ago but something of mine just didnt want to go into something of hers ok sorry if this is wierd way to explain it n e ways i didnt want to really have to force it in. we have never had sex b4 and idkk if i should really try to push it in but idkk confused wat should i do?
and for ppl who think im trying to rape a girl and report abuse on me im not. im really being serious and i really need so answers that are serious
2007-07-15 17:00:19 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok could it be tht she is nervous and thats why its a lil harder thannormal??
2007-07-15 17:12:00 · update #1
maybe your thing is to big for her fit.
I heard this problem before.
make sure shes extra wet if you try to stick it in next time and do a lot of four play. (not trying to be nasty)
but i understand your not being a rapist,
but she may not be turned on, thats why i suggest a lot of 4 play until she gets really wet. and dont rush to penetrate into her quick or she will be dry and you dont want that. Then she will feel pain and her vagina wont stretch.
2007-07-15 17:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by Delightful 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, if you think the best way to find a solution to this problem is by coming to the Answers community I can tell you with a tremendous amount of confidence that you are neither mature nor intelligent enought to have sex.
So, take a break from the sex thing and wait until you have a clearer picture of how everything is supposed to work. You also might want to spend some time thinking about how a mature, responsible, and intelligent person might approach this problem.
2007-07-15 17:07:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, i probably shouldn't be answering this myself since i'm young as well, but whatever, i'm a girl and plus, i want my question answering points,lol.
Ok, DEFINETLY don't force it in. Thats just painful. Whatever you do, make sure you do it nice, slow, and sweetly. You both need to be turned on basically because if not, then both of you are going to be dry and thats going to make it even more tough. Don't be afraid to ask her what feels good and what doesn't, shes your girlfriend and you obviously want to please her don't you?
Of course, DON'T go for the "gold" right away, thats just going to make her feel pressured and you WILL end up feeling like a jerk.
If after you two still don't feel comfortable with the idea or with how you are doing what you are doing, then try in the future once you guys have known each other better. The longer you are with someone, the more comfortable you feel around them. It'll make your "moments" feel a lot less awkward. Just be sweet and have patience and i'm sure things will go fine.
2007-07-15 17:17:00 · answer #3 · answered by Angi Vee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you aren't ready for sex..like you think you are...but, here is another thing that you can do...go to a planned parenthood center or any places like this...they can give your a lot of great answers and help, plus contraceptives too!
(Not that I am advocating sex here for the both of you)...because I don't know if you want to go thru possibly pregnancy issues as well...this is a biggie, and I say this not lightly...because so many people get pregnant and they don't know everything that they might or should need to know before they have sex for the first time..and they don't think that they even need to bother knowing..but, I think that it is a good thing to know what could happen and or how to really protect yourself!!
Please learn before you jump into this situation and get yourself into a bad place! The both of you!!
been there...and learned!
2007-07-15 17:09:29 · answer #4 · answered by ladyk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the two of you are ready that thing of yours will go into that thing of hers without problems. I promise, I had the same problem with my bf its because i was tense and nervous but that was over two years ago and everything has been great since, so just take your time. Oh, and PS if you arent comfortable talking about it...like saying penis and vagina then you arent ready for it.
2007-07-15 17:06:45 · answer #5 · answered by georgiabelle87 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time is always hard to put in and sometimes you need help like KY jelly.Trust me everyone has been where you are and if they say they haven't then they are lying .It's sweet to hear that two young people are just starting their life.
2007-07-15 17:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he in basic terms needs intercourse and would not want a relationship then he would not understand you, there is not any intimacy, and he won't be a good father. what's with the eyes factor? next time do it with the lighting fixtures furniture off and spot if he/you will get extra intimate. If rather, it incredibly is frightening, unload him.
2016-10-21 10:42:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider not having sex. Things may not work the way they are supposed to at a young age. If you like her you will honor her by not deflowering her.
2007-07-15 17:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by bobbo342 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She simply isnt turned on. Try and use foreplay to get her wet and open up. Girls naturally lubricate themselves and open up when aroused, which foreplay tends to do.
Second, you can by lubrication over the counter at the drugstore, and some condoms are lubricated as well.
Good luck,, and dont force it!
2007-07-15 17:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have to start by working her stuff... Concentrate on her, and get her off FIRST, it would be a lot easier to get ur stuff in... You're just too big to SHOVE it in, Don't Try, Trust me if she's not properly lubercated it's NOT going to feel good for her...
Maybe she doesn't Naturally Lubercate very well, try some waterbased lubercants, and use a CONDOM! ;)
2007-07-15 17:06:15 · answer #10 · answered by shellypooski 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋