What should I do...?

Question

My X bf is now stocking me. He drives by my house 5 times a day and no his place isnbt even close to mine. He just "shows up" when I'm shoping and doing other arrends. What should I do?

Answer 1

talk to him and see what he has to say. if it's really creepy, then go to his parents and tell them what he is doing and that it is scary you. tell your parents as well since this could take a turn for the worse if he's takes things to an extreme, which it seems like he does when he is upset.

if what he says isn't that bad, still talk to your parents about it so they know what's going on in case something happens, they'll at least have a clue. also, talk to his friends. see if they could talk some sense into him or get him to relax.

he obviously has attachment issues that need to be worked out. if they break up was unclear, clear it up politely and don't give him the time of day until he stops acting odd. tell him that too.

if all those fail and he's still following you around, you can notify the police. they wont do anything since he is not causing trouble but it will give them the heads up in case. letting them and your parents know helps prevent serious harm later.

Answer 2

In most states there is an anti-stalking law in place.
You might also try getting a restraining order.

I am a professional in the security business, & in these situations, I usually suggest to my clients that they keep a diary of the stalkers activities around them. It's not necessarily proof of him breaking any laws, but it helps in court if you can refer to notes & are able to state specific dates, times, & circumstances rather than something like "he drives by my house 5 times a day". It can also help in establishing an obvious pattern from him.

If he's appearing as a threat to you in any way, I suggest you start by calling the police. Hopefully they can offer you some assistance.

Take Care!

Answer 3

We need alot more info to help but...
If you feel threatened or unsafe you should get a restraining order.
If you're underage tell your parents and teachers(if he goes to your school). If you're an adult, ask a friend to stay with you for a while, don't go places alone.

He may just be regretting the break up and trying to get back together with you, or he misses you, or he wants to make sure you're safe. If you feel comfortable talking to him, tell him what you've noticed and ask him to back off.

Answer 4

If it's something that scares you, then get a restraining order. But if you dont want to go to those extremes then maybe you can CALL him and let him know that you uncomfortable with how he's been acting and to back off.

Answer 5

Is he violent and psycho? Should you be concerned? Or is he just helplessly inlove with you and can't imagine life without you? If he's harmless then just tell him to back off, but if theres concerns for your safety then get a restraining order.

Answer 6

Give him a stern warning to stay away. Do not do anything to lead him on or acknowledge him when you do see him. Have someone else pick you up and take you to the store and run errands. He will eventually take the hint.

Answer 7

well if u know of n e guy hes scared of or is intimiated against i would have that person talk to him.. or if u havent told him to leave u alone then sit him down and tell him flat out uve moved and dont want n ethign with him

Answer 8

Let him know, via email or phone, that you are getting worried about his actions and if they continue, you may have to resort to something more drastic.

Answer 9

Let your parents know (if you are underage). Have your cell handy, go out in groups, call police if you fear for your life.

Answer 10

Report him and tell your parents. Be very careful and don't try to anger him just ignore him.