How far is too far as a Christian?

Question

I have a boyfriend and we've fooled around a bit however, i've drawn the line at sex. I do however feel i've gone to far. Just curious as to what everyone else's opinion on the matter is?

What's okay- hand holding, hugging? kissing okay or too far? deep making out okay? oral? u get the picture..

I know where i stand but i was just wondering everyone else's take on this!

Answer 1

well going by what the prophets today have taught, if you're younger than 16, you've already gone too far. Beyond that, holding hands is ok. Going on dates should be restricted to double or triple dating. It shouldn't be just you and him. Kissing on the cheeks is good. French kissing should be a no no. Petting is a no no. Shouldn't be out after 10 pm - satan's hours after that. And, you should be dating all kinds of guys, definitely not the same one. If it's one guy, you've definitely gone too far, and it's time to come back right away.

Smack your parents up side the heads and tell them to start doing their job and watching over their daughter, and putting some order in her life for crying out loud.

Answer 2

If either of you are touching the other anywhere from the neck to the knees, that's too far.

A one second kiss at the end of a date is ok.

Holding hands is ok.

Oral sex? Do you need to even ask?

If the guy gets an erection, that's too far.

If a girl gets wet, down there, that's too far.

Pastor Art

PS: The answer given by "Kait" above is excellent.

Answer 3

Well honestly even hot foreplay is not good for pre marriage issues. Kissing, hugging and hand holding is ok.

The reason that Catholic religion gives for saying sex is bad before marriage based in their tradition (that is the studies of the theologists across the history of the catholic church) is
1 Sin make a spiritual damage to the one who commits it.
2 the proper usage of sex is for reproduction and union of the married couple.
3 a sexual intercourse makes a spiritual and psychological link between the couple, if sex is not taken seriously that means inside the marriage, the link is broken inside oneself, so a spiritual "bleeding wound" is made.
4 When a human being start to made sex outside marriage, he or she gets progressively more enslaved by the sexual appetite. That means that sex started to fill your mind, so is progressively harder to think or to schedule responsibilities and the couple is seen not as a human being, but progressively more as an object to fill that sexual appetite.
4 It is incredibly easy to go from hot foreplay to sex so if you want to prevent sex do not try it. Trust me, i have my first baby for trying that.

Answer 4

If you ask me oral and anal sex is sex, it may not be the kind that gets you pregnant but it's still sex. Of course kissing, making out, and hand holding are okay. Touching breasts is better than mutual masturbation (fingering). Just remember when you deal with the genital area there's a chance of STDs even if you don't "do it".

Answer 5

To be honest I think anything going past kissing is going over the line. Even kissing triggers a physical/sexual reaction, and sometimes STOPPING gets tricky, once you start that craving going. It's treading on thin ice so to speak.
Your above mentioned are generally thought of as "foreplay"... so you do the math.
I am one of 4 girls and I have my own daughter.
I'd wait.. it's actually easier, imo.... best wishes.

Answer 6

Holding hands, hugging and light kissing is ok.

"Deep" making out is out.
Oral is out.

A woman's body is her castle.

Her breasts belong to her and are not there for some dude to play with and abuse.

Her "privates" belong to her and no dude should be allowed to paw that part and abuse it.

If he don't like your rules, tell him to take a hike. You don't need him any way if that is all he wants which it probably is.

You don't need to ask this question.....you KNOW what is ok and what is not ok. Good luck. Pops

Answer 7

If you think you might have gone too far, then you probably have.
Intimate sexual contact starts with a first step.
How close to the fire do you wish to stand?

In the scripture below, the word "touch" means
"to kindle a flame."

Don't ignite something over which you have not control. You may have limits, but does your partner?

Answer 8

Love and do not hate, however do not be sexually immoral and try to keep up with the spirit. It is better for a woman to have sex after marriage and from that time onwards be submisive to your husband.

Answer 9

Judah a great man of God slept with a prostitute. If everyone was half the man Judah was this world would be a great place. You make the call.

Answer 10

Ephesians 5:3 tells us, "But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity...because these are improper for God's holy people." Anything that even "hints" of sexual immorality is inappropriate for a Christian. The Bible does not give us a "list" of what qualifies as a "hint" or tell us specifically what are approved physical activities that a couple can do before they are married. However, just because the Bible does not specifically address the issue - that does not mean God approves of "pre-sexual" activity before marriage. By essence, "foreplay" is designed to get you "ready" for sex. Logically, then, "foreplay" should be restricted to married couples. Anything that can be considered "foreplay" should be avoided until marriage. (There is no need to go into specifics here.)

Any and all sexual activity should be restricted to married couples. What can a pre-married couple do? A pre-married couple should avoid any activity that tempts them toward sex, that gives the appearance of immorality, or that could be considered "foreplay." I, personally, would strongly advise a couple to not go beyond holding hands, hugging, and light kissing before marriage. The more a married couple has to share exclusively between themselves, the more special and unique the sexual relationship in a marriage becomes.

Recommended Resource: Why True Love Waits by Josh McDowell.