My boyfriend and I want to get into a more serious relationship but the thing is im only 13 and he's 15. We want to get more serious but.....i don't know if something will turn out bad if we get to serious. Maybe im not ready....i don't know!! I need some advice before it's to late!!!
2007-07-15 16:32:08 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ur asking advice ur not ready.
u gotta realize, once u lose ur virginity its gone forever!
dont lose it so quickly.
there is plenty of time to meet the right guy.
and if he isnt into wiating well then srry honey, he just went out iwth u to get some.
plz, do the right hting, i hate to see young grls get pressured into stuff
2007-07-15 16:35:38 · answer #1 · answered by anysportzchik 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 13 too. I'm going to 8th grade this year and I have friends that have gone out...well I guess more then me. But one of my friends boyfriends wanted to get more serious with her and things turned out badly. They split up and now they dont talk. So- It all depends on YOUR comfort zone- If you think your comfortable with kissing someone on the cheek then yea go for it. But when things start to get serious [like losing your virginity] it starts FAST, and before you know it something might be happening before you realize it. Your bf is older then you and he should be understanding if you tell him something is ok with you or its not. I know that I wouldnt really want to discuss this with my parents but some of my friends are just cool w/their parents that way so yea I think just do whatever your comforable with and DONT DO ANYTHING your not comfortable with. A girls virginity is something you can lose only once, and what if end up not staying together with this guy, or even worse u end up pregnant? I had a friend that ended up pregnant, she was 14 and because of all the STRESS...her baby died. so just be ok with what you do.
2007-07-15 23:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get serious yet. You're still very young, and it will only cause you heartache. Trust me, no matter how much you think you love this person, it's most probable that you will not end up with them. I know that feelings are strong, but be carefull. It's better just to have fun and keep things light while you're young. That way you don't have to worry about getting into issues that someone your age doesn't know how to deal with. It only complicates things, and life is complicated enough just being a teenager. God Bless=)
2007-07-15 23:39:52 · answer #3 · answered by mandie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alright.
if you dont know if your ready or not then just wait.
the last thing you want to be is unsure because in relationships like that it will only create confusion. and dont ever think you have to do something with him if your not sure about it.
if he cares about you he'll wait as long as he has to for you to be ready. but 13 and 15 are both really young. not saying you shouldnt be in a relationship, just saying that you shouldnt get too serious yet.
and just for forward notice: if he ever is trying to pressure you into doing something and says "if you loved me you would ___ for me/with me"
answer by saying "if you loved me you would respect me and wait for me."
it works. :]
good luck to you both. :]
2007-07-15 23:40:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey gurl!!! im 13 too!!! having a 15 year old bf isnt bad but getting serious.....im not so sure about that!!! dont try to rush things.......u have to remember that he is older then u...which also means he may be more mature...so u should set boundaries!! u may feel pressured to get more "serious" but pleaze choose wisely and know wut ur doing!!! u seriously do not wanna to something you'll regret!!! slow down.....ur only 13!!! good luck and im sure you'll make a smart descison!!!!
2007-07-15 23:41:15 · answer #5 · answered by Lovelyy2012 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's too early to get serious, joeylover. Be patient and enjoy the kissing.
I am much older than you, so it's not too early for me. But I do follow my own advice. I'm patient, and I enjoy the kissing.
Did I say enjoy? I LOVE kissing... :)
2007-07-15 23:38:00 · answer #6 · answered by Flame 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well right now it is not too late...do not do anything you will regret after. Stick with your instincts, they is why you even asked this question because you know what you want to do will be wrong. If you're talking about sex, definitely don't. You're way too young. Dump him if he does not respect your choice.
2007-07-15 23:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by NO♥NAME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its not so much the age difference as it is that both of you are young, wait a few years, if your far enough in your relationship that you really love each other he can wait, and if you dont really love each other, you dont need to be serious anyway
2007-07-15 23:35:05 · answer #8 · answered by justin h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are your parents? Lucky your not my daughter cause you would not be allowed to date at 13...or 14 or 15
maybe 16
2007-07-15 23:36:13 · answer #9 · answered by Buffet4life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one word don't.
I was in a similar relationship 2 years ago (I was 13 HE was 16)
how long have you been going out?
ask him if you can slow it down.
when he doesn't answer his email/phone for a month you'll get the point of your relationship through HIS eyes.
2007-07-15 23:37:42 · answer #10 · answered by Optimistically... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋