Is bare bottom spanking sexual abuse?

Question

I have 4 daughters. I use spanking as discipline in my home. I usually spank on clothed bottoms, but sometimes I spank on the bare (when they're really bad). What do you think (please don't condemn me, just give your opinion). Doesn't anyone else spank like this?

Answer 1

NoNoNo not to worry, your not alone. We use the same method. The only ones claiming sexual abuse are the anti spanking left. It's there failed attempt at shock tactics.

Answer 2

First of all, when I have kids I don't plan on spanking them. As for me, I was spanked while growing up. And yes, I got it occasionally on my bare bottom by my mom. She never spanked out of anger and I certainly don't feel I was abused. Do I wish I wasn't spanked? Of course. But there's a big difference between a loving parent who spanks and the abusive monsters out there who belt, strap, and strike their kids with all sorts of implements and for the most minor of reasons. Kids that suffer those kind of beatings, teenagers or not, bare bottomed or not, are the ones being physically abused, not me. As to the question for sexual abuse. I'd say it could be, but unless the person doing the spanking is getting off on it (sexually), then the law (in the U.S.) would probably rule it isn't. My roommate and close friend was spanked by her a##hole of a stepfather on her bare bottom, one time he even pulled her towel off when she was 16 and spanked her. Her mom filed for divorce soon after because she basically had it with him; they had almost broke up once before over how he constantly picked on her three kids. During the divorce, her mom tried to get the stepfather from spanking my friend and her younger brother during visitations. But it was ruled that the spankings my friend got, even as humiliating as they were, didn't constitute ''excessive corporal punishment.'' And since he never touched her vagina or her breasts, it didn't constitute sexual abuse either. As for myself, my mom had basically stopped spanking me before high school. But I did get a really embarrassing spanking by my aunt at the beach when I was 16. I was already naked (I was sun bathing alone, initially, that is). I was quite humiliated but I certainly don't feel I was sexually abused. I used a lot of foul language in front of my younger cousins and she put me right over her knee in front of them. I guess I just have a problem with even coming close to equating what certainly is a very embarrassing punishment vs. the horrors of REAL sexual abuse of children by adults. Hardly a day goes by when you don't hear on the news of some rape or sexual assault or some other horrific trauma some child, even babies, suffer. Quite honestly, I'd really be ashamed of myself to use a term equating my own embarrassments over what were clearly disciplinary measures to the ordeals other kids have gone through.

Answer 3

If you have doubts spanking bare , just don't do it. A spanking on a clothed bottom is as good as bare if you make your point clearly.

Remember spanking is discipline. Do not mix it with other subjects.

Answer 4

I never spanked my children bare-butted...I do believe in spanking though. I don't think it abuse...but I do think it hurts more this way. I think you can get your point across by just spanking with their clothes on.

This is an if'y question, and I'm sure you're going to get some doozy's of answers. Bottom line...they are your children, and you know them more than anyone here...do what works for you. My children are older now, and they are great adults and they say "We knew when mom meant business".

Good Luck!

Answer 5

I've gotten spanked bare bottom, and though it's embarassing, I don't feel abused at all. It is a little awkward, but I guess if it is necessary, then it's all right. I hate getting spanked though. It hurts so much... lol

Answer 6

Its not abuse of any kind. I normally do not spank bare bottom, but i have............ My son at 4 stuck his tongue out at me after i spanked him and said hahaha that didnt hurt......... So i pulled his little pants down and tried again lol............. Thats the only time I ever did that.

They both tell me my spanking dont hurt............... but they dont misbehave because they dont want a spanking so i guess it worked...

Answer 7

It is sexual abuse. What you feel is not all there is to it. You are stimulating their private parts and genitals ffs! There's no reason for it. Just don't do it.

Answer 8

No, its not sexual abuse unless you intend it to be.

Nearly every spanking I have given has been on bare bottom. It is part of the process of making clear that she is being punished. Always panties down and over my lap.

I use my hands to punish. I use my hands to comfort. The child should never confuse a comforting touch with punishment. I spontaneously give loving touches all day, everyday. I would be heart broken if any of my girls were ever afraid of my spontaneous loving touches. They know from the process when it is a spanking.

Answer 9

im pretty sure i was spanked bare bottomed and i didnt feel like it was sexual abuse, but nowdays some people frown upon how others raise there children so i cant really say if its okay or not, thats your opinion on your parenting style

Answer 10

No, sexual abuse is "unwanted touching, stimulation, or penetration of the genital or anal area of a minor by an adult" or "the forcing of unwanted sexual contact between a minor and an adult". Those aren't the direct quotes, but that's what it is.
Personally I don't think it's appropriate to spank on a bare bottom, but no, it's definately not sexual abuse, don't worry!
Good luck, hope this helps.