Ive had a crush on my boss for a while now, him and i flirt continously, at first i thought he was just being extra nice but the signs are too obvious by now. ive never met anyone like him, he makes me smile, we have a lot in common and i never thought i would find a person that would relate to me so much so i guess we can say im crazy for the guy. the only problem is, hes 37 (doesnt act or looks 37) and im only 18, is age difference a real problem?
2007-07-15 16:21:17 · 12 answers · asked by Leonor D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Personally I think it matters when your underage but if your of age I doesn't matter. Although it's a big age difference, (most)men normally act 5-10(if not more) years younger. My ex boyfriend was 6 years older than me and I am way more mature then he is.
2007-07-15 16:34:55 · answer #1 · answered by Kee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not so much the age difference that could turn your personal and professional life upside down..
It's that he's your boss. Generally, there are company policies against boss-employee relations. He can get fired for this. You can get fired for this. This would be considered an improper relationship because he is in a position of authority and determines your professional fate.
Also, think about the gossip mill. People talk. They probably know already that something's up. Even if nothing happened, to your colleagues it's as if something's happened already. They are probably talking about you behind your back already. You'll be the boss's pet.
Be careful. Especially if he's married, divorced (recently maybe?) and has kids. You're putting your income and professional future on the line. Because if he suddenly changes his mind, you'll be let go, for sure. And then you'll have to find a new job, probably without an recommendation letter or a nasty one.
2007-07-15 23:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by Nina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nina is right. You have a tough choice to make. The only way this could even possibly work is if you switch jobs then try it. But you have to be absolutely sure!!! But... and this is a big BUT....you are still very young. The age difference blurs as we grow older 30 to 50 isn't bad as both are complete adults with most of the same experiences but at 18 you probably haven't seen near what he has and that causes problems. It may seem to click on the social level but what about the mental and emotional level? Just be carefull!!
2007-07-15 23:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by asniceasicanbe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heck yeah, you're a generation apart. You'll have little or nothing in common at all. If you want an older man I would say 23 is a good age because 5 years older isn't that bad.
2007-07-15 23:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by biscuit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, maybe not.
My advice is to take it slow and proceed with caution. Make sure he's really interested in you for who you are, not just as a hot young impressionable chick who might sleep with him if he says what she wants to hear. (Not saying he's like that - my husband is more than 20 yrs older than me and he's the farthest from sleazeball that you can possibly get- but sometimes you don't get so lucky.) And make sure you're on the same page about what you want from a relationship if you decide to have one.
Also, if you guys to decide to get involved, it might be a good idea to see if you can get shuffled around so he's not in charge of you at work anymore so nobody can accuse him of improper conduct, and if the romance goes badly you won't be stuck with your ex in charge of you at work.
2007-07-15 23:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by Ambivalence 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I just got married, and we have a 12 year age difference, which may seem odd, but it totally depends on the couple, try it out! -And be careful, if things go sour, you may want to find a different job. I say give it a try! -It's not like you have to stay together forever!!
-Good Luck!!!
2007-07-15 23:26:41 · answer #6 · answered by Wishful Writer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of all the time you've been alive.
He's been an adult for that long.
How much do you think you really have in common?
This is a guy talking honey. You're riding for a fall.
2007-07-15 23:29:35 · answer #7 · answered by Irv S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you use Carlos Mencia's logic, that's like dating two 18 year olds, at once!
2007-07-15 23:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by DaClint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, that is a very big age difference. Also, being your boss, he will try to use that to take advantage of you.
2007-07-15 23:23:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a big age difference but to be honest nothing matter when you are in love! as long as you are happy who cares about the rest??? if you are able to become a couple and you get married...will age matter then??? will it matter to you? to him?? BE HAPPY!!!
2007-07-15 23:24:37 · answer #10 · answered by Vegetarian Princess 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋