i met this lad on the net 3 weeks ago he is really nice the nicest lad iav met in ages we av been gettin on great and tonite he asked me for phone sex and idont want to do it and now hes gone in a mood with me and told me to leave him alone and we were goin to meet this week but now he wont answer my txts i dont no what to do hes upset me and i really like him
2007-07-15 15:48:17 · 36 answers · asked by pinky85 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You do not need to meet him if that is the way he is going to act, you will be meeting a child in need of help and with the kind he wants you need to stay away. Phone sex is not the answer it is an excuse and with that kind of excuse you do not need to be involved with him anymore. He's upset with you because he didn't get his way of doing things and they are screwed up and so is he. So say goodbye and tell him to fly away and do not try to text him anymore. You will be better off. He is ignoring you because you would not satisfy him and he does not need it. So take my advice, yes you a hurt but stay away and learn from it. You will be better off. Good Luck.
2007-07-15 15:56:35 · answer #1 · answered by oldestme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he has issues. Ignore him, if you all have not even meet and just chatted and then he asks for phone sex! He is not as great a lad as you think he is. He is strange, I would avoid him at all cost. He could be playing games with you and Lord knows you do not need or want that. You should act offended that he would ask such a thing of you before you even meet. You do know their is a chance he may not be a lad at all. Even if you saw a picture of him how is to say it was not one of someone else or him as a younger guy. I would just say to hell with him! Please, be careful what ever you decide to do, don't get hurt. I mean your feelings or physically. Please!
2007-07-15 15:56:06 · answer #2 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better to let him go now than later. The more involved you get the harder it will be to pull away. If he truly likes you he will not pressure you into doing something you do not want. Besides, you really truly do not know someone by phone and Internet connections in 3 weeks. You can fully know someone that you just met at school or the club in 3 weeks.
2007-07-15 15:58:12 · answer #3 · answered by bobbo342 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You haven't met this guy which is a good thing because he sounds like a total waste of time. Why do you feel so bad when he is asking you to do something you choose not to? If he isnt answering your text because you dont want to have phone sex then imagine what he would do if you met him and he wanted to have sex and you told him no...hmmm- walk out? Save yourself the drama- say good riddens!
2007-07-15 16:19:16 · answer #4 · answered by JJDK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is mad over something as small as phone sex then you need to ask yourself is this really someone that i want get into a relationship with. Not to hurt your feelings or anything but he might only care about the physical side of a friendship and I think you can find someone else who is more mature.
2007-07-15 15:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by austin_mssu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your answer is in your statement about what happened between you.
He's behaving like a child who's been told he can't play with the toys he wanted, so he's sulking ~ likely seeing your 'No' as a rejection of him.
[ Stick by your principles ]
How you deal with him / the situation, is entirely up to you. A few of the other answers here will give you clues as to what to say or do.
Choose your own words, but if and when you do get to speak with him, try telling him that although you like him, you're simply not prepared to just give in to his whims - adding whatever you want as to what you think of 'phone-sex' etc.
If he wants an 'adult relationship,' then it's a good idea if he begins to behave like one ~ an ' Adult.'
Good for you ~ and don't give in to any of his attempts at emotional blackmail.
Sash.
2007-07-15 16:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by sashtou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is just not serious, i suggest move on, i would expect a man of this century to respect a woman, and to know that we have different back grounds and some things are new to us, we need time to adjust to them or to reject them completely. it is not a must that u should be interested in phone sex, may be that is not your way of looking at sex, which i guess he should be able to figure out, in relationship you should always be willing to give and take, you cant win all the time and lastly no one is perfect in the whole world , people should always remember and that and be willing to forgive, because some time we do things out of ignorance, or lack of exposure. Good luck
2007-07-15 16:42:25 · answer #7 · answered by Simex 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have only know this guy for three weeks and already your setting a date to meet him!? No offense but what is wrong with you? You don't know him and after he asked you for phone sex I think it's proof that he is not that guy you thought he was. I would break all contact with him for your own safety and happiness.
2007-07-15 15:54:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a creep if that is what he wants. He probably wouldnt respect you so I would move on to bigger and better things. As Im always told there are other fish in the sea!!
2007-07-15 16:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well maybe u should ust give him a lil time to cool off.if he realy cares about uthen he wouldnt make u do things u dont want to.give him a week at the most.see wht happens.if u feel hat he'sstill being like that then im sorry for you.you dont deserve that but need to get over him.
2007-07-15 15:52:43 · answer #10 · answered by bubbles 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋