My MOH is from out of town. She said she is going to fly out here and throw me a bridal shower, since all of my bridesmaids and friends are in a 4 hours radius of where I live and it's easier that way. I'm really excited!
She has asked me to pick out a place where I would like to have the shower, and if I will help her with games and invitations and everything.
I don't know if it's because she doesn't know any of the other bridesmaids or if they are just unwilling to help. I don't know if the bridesmaids even know about it.
I don't *really* have a problem with doing this, but does that seem kind of weird? Am I breaking any serious etiquette rules by helping? What should I do?
2007-07-15 15:13:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
she is my ex-stepsister. so not really my immediate family.
2007-07-15 15:24:49 · update #1
Its a little strange since they are supposed to be throwing in your honor but as long as neither on of you mind then go for it, especially since they are all so far away and can't scout out locations and are probably unfamilair with the area.
I'd say keep the price low (under $100 each including when they split your tab) since they are all going to have really high travel expenses. Of course, consult with them about what is a comfortable budget.
Make sure SHE actually completes the hostess duties like mailing invites though so it doens't look like you are trolling for extra presents. Perhaps hook her up with someone else close in the area like your parents to plan?
2007-07-15 16:15:06 · answer #1 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom will talk bad about people if a member of the immediate family throws a baby shower or wedding shower. She is kind of a stickler for old society type rules. I would mention to your other bridesmaids and see if you get any bites in terms of helping and then set up your MOH with them. Two of my friends who did not know each other had a shower for me like that. They just divided and conquered since one was in town and the other lived a few hours away. Really as long as your OK with it (I hope my mom doesn't read this LOL!) do what you feel like. It's your wedding. if you are uncomfortable with helping, just tell her your mama would be mighty offended if you helped!
2007-07-15 22:22:04 · answer #2 · answered by alison a 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are the bride.....you have enough to do , you do not need to send yourself a thank you for planning your own shower!
I would send your MOH an address list of those interested in attending. Tell her who the other bridesmaids are too and have her call them to help out. The only thing YOU are supposed to do is show up and have fun.
2007-07-15 22:20:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it really is a little weird. the shower is suppose to be thrown for you, not BY you.
i would understand she wants to know what kind of place you would want it at since she does not have the use of someone's house and she would need the list of addresses of people you would want to have attend.
perhaps you could give her the other bridesmaids phone numbers so they can know what is going on.
2007-07-15 22:16:27 · answer #4 · answered by Christina V 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to have a shower for you then she is supposed to do the work and also furnish supplies. You can do some of the light stuff if you want to but dont do so much that you tires yourself out. This is supposed to be a nice time for you.
2007-07-15 22:21:16 · answer #5 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the planning of the shower should have nothing to do with you. it makes it look like your throwing yourself a gift grab. I personally dont like you should be helping at all. either she calls up the others for help or she does it herself. it would look horribly bad if you took part in the planning.
2007-07-15 22:20:26 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is a little weird, but not really. do as much as you feel comfortable and pass along the rest. ask her straight out if she has the other girls' #s, and if not, give them to her. this helps you by letting other people throw the shower, and also deflects any bad feelings of girls who felt left out. tell her to check out theknot.com. they have tons of stuff on throwing showers. good luck!
2007-07-16 00:08:09 · answer #7 · answered by tvelez128 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a little odd. I would ask her (after asking your BM's for permission) if she would like their phone numbers or email addresses in order to organize it.
To me, having you help with, well, everything, is just a downer to the whole "surprise" shower.
2007-07-16 14:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋