is it wrong for a guy....?

Question

okay is it wrong for your boy friend to look on the internet at girls in bikini thongs and porn?
it makes me feel as if im not good neough for him!
is it wrong or am i right!
i mean i only live with the guy!!

Answer 1

yes it is wrong. your the only girl he needs to be looking at. if he cant respect you or your relationship then you need to let him go.

Answer 2

I don't think it's wrong, but it's probably not the right thing for him to do if he knows it upsets you because it's not very respectful. Porn is viewed by tons of guys, some single, some in relationships. Some girls have no problem with their boyfriends looking at porn, others do. I personally think if a guy is in a relationship there is nothing wrong with him viewing it on occassion, as long as it is not excessive. But I also think if it upsets the girl in the relationship, the guy should understand and be able to stop looking at it.
I suggest you talk to your boyfriend this way. Start off by saying you understand why guys look at porn occassionally. Say you might expect a single guy to do it, but that you are personally hurt by the fact that he does it because it makes you feel like you are not good enough for him. Ask him if he will stop for you.

Answer 3

It's natural for a guy to want to look at fine women (just 'cause you're on a diet, doesn't mean you can't look at the menu), but if he's obsessed with checking out women or is trying to hook up with them, that could be a problem. If he's a good boyfriend in other respects, don't make a big deal about his Internet activities. It shouldn't matter where he gets his appetite, as long as he comes home for dinner. You may want to get that keyboard caulked though.

Answer 4

I don't understand how girls can be comfortable with their men sitting there purposely lusting after other girls. I mean a guy's obviously gonna look if he happens to see it, but just to sit there and look and fantasize about another woman??? I don't know what these girls are thinking when they say "oh, it's normal"

Yeah, cheating is pretty normal too, especially with guys like those.

Answer 5

it actually nomral my parents are married to each other and my dad still looks at porn.my mom gives him the websites. i catch him looking at porn all the time. one time i went to get a drink of water in the middle of the night and i saw porn on my freaking t.v. in my living room. and i was lik 11 or 12. now that is distrubing.lol :P

Answer 6

It's not intrinsically wrong, but it does lack respect. men are going to do this whether you like it or not. It's in our nature. That he feels comfortable looking with you there is not a bad sign...it means he is comfortable with you because you haven't displayed that you mind.

The alternative take is that he is a selfish a**hole, who wants it all, and doesn't care how his behaviour makes you feel.

Answer 7

Most guys get accustomed to not having a girlfreind and dont know how that makes a girl feel..the best thing you can do is tell himhow that makes you feel and if your gonna ask him to stop...be more sensual with him..not meaning sex.

Answer 8

Talk to him about it and tell him that he doesn't need to look at girls on the internet when he has one living with him. Also tell him that if he doesn't stop you'll leave him for someone who doesn't look for crap like that on the internet.

Answer 9

No its not wrong i promise.

Guys just like to see the "act" of something like that.

We like to see hot girls in bikinis because it reminds us of how the the girl we are with would look in that.

You shouldnt be worried he still loves you very much im sure

Answer 10

It's perfectly natural. He's not doing it to hurt you, he's doing it because he's a sexual guy. If it makes you feel not good enough then those are issues you need to go to a therapist to deal with.