we've been dating for almost three months now. he's a really sweet guy and we like each other alot. he won't kiss me. we hold hands and we've hugged (once). we've talked about kissing. and he says he wants to. but he knows i'm not a leader; i'm a follower. so why won't he make the first move? am i doing something wrong?
2007-07-15 14:56:22 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're doing nothing wrong, you're a girl you don't have to lead. He is just shy, he wants to make the right move and not the wrong one. I know this might seem awkward, but tell him that you want him to kiss you. Or you can give him time until he is ready.
2007-07-15 15:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Brunnett4,
No, i don't think ur doing anything wrong at all. In as far as he's being passive. Hey, ur so blessed to know someone like him. He's a rarity. Guys nowadays are so aggressive they will "go-for-it" even if they're not sure of their feelings..No wonder there are so many divorces & separations. But there are still people like him who will not make a definitive move unless they are very very sure of their feelings. Also i believe he wants to know u better. Give him time, he will slowly come around. Continue to keep showing ur affection & concern. 3 months is a very short time..For us asians, there are courtship that last as long as years..Remember my dear friend..he's a rare gem..ur so so lucky.
2007-07-15 22:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by BERNARD C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are such a lucky girl and don't even know it. After 3 months, most guys would be trying to get into your pants or threatening to dump you. Here you have this nice shy guy that treats you with respect. How about kissing? Give it a try with him.
2007-07-15 21:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
he respect u witch is great. u have to tell him it ok. i had a bf like that but he had never touched a girl upper parts if u get what i mean. he asked if it was ok and i told him it was fine. all u have to do is talk about. maybe hug a bit more too. if there really isn't physical contact then i'd have to say ur not really a couple.
2007-07-15 22:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by punk girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time with him. It sounds like he likes you a lot and respects you. Sometimes there are times when you have to make the first move, but just make sure that it is at the right place and at the right time.
2007-07-15 22:01:39 · answer #5 · answered by Nalani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his just waiting for the "right moment".....3 months is not really a long time. Don't be so eager, I am sure when the timing is right, your kiss will be memorable....
2007-07-16 00:32:18 · answer #6 · answered by always51787 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you're being too aggressive and annoying. Chill out. The kid's probably terrified enough that you're so boy crazy. Let him get use to the whole idea and when you get to middle school, he'll probably be ready for the next phase. Good luck.
2007-07-15 22:00:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be lucky, hes taking things slow. he respects you and its good. another guy will kiss you in a day and it'll be over in a week. The kiss or whatever will come when both of you will know its right. dont rush things... trust me you'll reget it.
2007-07-15 22:00:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im not sure how old you are but it sounds youngish.
maybe he shy and doesnt want to freak you out.
just wait till a perfect moment and give him a quick kiss if u want him to kiss you why dont u ask him too
2007-07-15 22:00:03 · answer #9 · answered by betterthanme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
switch it and show him that you can make the first move once in awhile, soem guys like that and it takes some pressure off them. And he might be taking it slow, some guys do, and this is good.
2007-07-15 22:01:29 · answer #10 · answered by marya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋