He wants to finger me and I said no. He is older than me by 7 years and he has already forced me to kiss him, his hand and mouth was all over my breasts without my permission but I let it happen. He says he loves me and can't resist me and I'm his girlfriend so he sort of thinks he owns me.
2007-07-15 14:52:34 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him you want to finger him, first!
2007-07-15 14:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's the type to force you to do anything...especially sexually, he's not someone you need to be dating. This goes for anyone and everyone, all age differences aside. You should only do what you are comfortable with, and never any more. If he doesn't respect your limits, then he doesn't respect you. And you don't get love without respect. The two go hand in hand. So if he doesn't respect you, then he doesn't actually love you. You need to dump him and find someone that treats you better. What he's doing is abuse, and him telling you that he loves you and whatever, that's just a form of manipulation. He's just trying to make you think what he's doing is ok, and it's not. And no one owns you. No one. Honestly, he's showing signs of someone who could get really abusive...I think you're in danger by dating him. You need to get away from him NOW! And if he threatens you if you break up with him, tell your parents and your friends, let everyone know what's going on. And tell the police...go and file a restraining order against him. I know it's just a piece of paper, but if he violates it, which he will probably do just to see if you're going to see that you're going to call the police or not, he will be thrown in jail. So it's better to have one. Just please tell your friends and family what's going on right now, so they can help you if you feel like you may be in danger. So many women end up dead, all because of a relationship that started out like yours. It gets worse and worse as time goes on, that's the way the manipulation works. Before you know it, he could be beating you and telling you it's because he loves you. Don't let it come to that.
2007-07-15 22:03:25 · answer #2 · answered by garciajennifer@att.net 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your body. You decide who touches it and who doesn't.
If you don't like what he's doing, tell him to stop. Do not put yourself in the position to be forced, to begin with. He sounds like he doesn't know how to treat a girl like a girl, instead of an object.
You may be better off finding someone your own age who respects you.
Do keep in mind, though, that if you "let it happen" and do not give the boy a clear signal that you do not want to do something, you are partly to blame if he keeps going.
If you can't decide whether or not you want to do something with him, he will take the initiative. It's time for you to take the initiative and decide exactly how far you are willing to go and make sure he knows it. If he continues to push you into doing what you don't want, he doesn't respect you and you should end the relationship.
If he doesn't *know* what you want, tell him! It's okay to tell him. If there is no communication between you on a subject like this, it is not a real relationship anyway.
Men are biologically programmed to chase women. Women are the ones who control how far they want it to go. You are not in control. Take back your control before he coerces you into something you may later regret.
You don't seem to like this guy very much. Maybe best to just be friends for a while. Then you will see how really interested he is in you or just in your body.
2007-07-15 22:01:28 · answer #3 · answered by grrluknow 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know you can land him in jail for that? Be careful and nobody owns you. You have the right to say no to anything and he has no right to do whatever he wants. If I were you I would get out of that situation immediately. It's obvious he doesn't love you. If he did, why would he force things like that on you? I agree with the can't resist though; he does lack quite a bit of self control
2007-07-15 21:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by Someone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never let a man do something to you that you do not want them too. It is your body and if you do not want him to touch you then don't allow him too. I do not think that he really is thinking of you as an equal. If he thinks he owns you then you are nothing but a pet of sorts to him. You are strong and don't deserve someone treating you this way! There are millions of other men, and if he isn't willing to respect you then he doesn't deserve you. Also, I would be worried that he might force you to do something more extreme if you let him get away with it. Rape is rape even if you are his "Girlfriend"
2007-07-15 21:58:25 · answer #5 · answered by Greg G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this man is a rapist pure and simple. Yeah you might know him but a rapist does not have to be a stranger that jumps out of the bushes. this man has no respect for you or your wishes. He is not in love with you he is deep in his own lust and his feelings and desire is all he is thinking of. He has already forced a kiss it will not be long before he has forced himself on you. If he does not take no for an answer now he will not take it later on. he is trying to get you to cooperate but he is determine to have his way with or without your consent. You need to get away from this older man fast. He is old enough to know exactly what he is doing and he also knows that you do not fully understand what he is doing to you
NO you should NOT allow him to do what he wants with you. You need to tell someone about this abusive and inappropriate relationship with this older man. He is already guilty of statutory rape, do not wait for him to ruin your life with an actual rape, get away from him and if he persists get help YOU DO NOT BELONG TO HIM NO MATTER WHAT HE SAYS. Get help and get away from him fast.
2007-07-15 22:01:02 · answer #6 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only YOU own YOU. You set the rules. If he doesn't respect you then you need to find another bf who does. You don't say how old you are, but if you are under 25 yr old, then 7 yr is a huge difference. He has a l ot more experience than you. You need to find another guy of your own age and experience level. Exploring the world of sexuality is a fun but dangerous game. It doesn't sound like you are having any fun doing it.
2007-07-15 22:00:25 · answer #7 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GIRL HELLLLLLL NO!!!!! and unless you are at least in your twenties hee's too old for you! that's prolly why you are having trouble with him! if he really loved you he would respect you and he does not respect youat all or he'd listen to you when you said no! don't let him do those things to you unless you want them done tell him to stay away from you if he can't respect that and you will find someone who will? i know it's none of my buisness but how old are you? you sound young or maybe you just don't have the courage to tell him no either way you better stop it now or it will only get worse!!! HE DOES NOT OWN YOU!!!! NO ONE OWNS YOU!!!
2007-07-15 22:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, please do not allow him to freely use your body in this fashion.
I was sodomized by an ex in this fashion...it was so painful and degrading..
And THIS is what he is doing to you...degrading you.
YOU do NOT belong to him..you belong to YOU!
If he does not stop when you tell him to that is rape!
I can guarantee that if he gets your panties off to finger you...he WILL use his penis on you!
I do not mean to be so brutally honest, it is just that I have been hurt before and I do not want another to fall prey to this.
I told my EX no, he found another way to get what he wanted. He was taking me back to my parents house and pulled off on a deserted road and got me out of the car under false pretenses.
Then he threw me face first on the hood of his car ripped off my panties and stuck it up my back end!
I suffered greatly, and it continued for quite a while, he was not satisfied with one time.
Please do not let him do this thing. Wait until you are ready and with someone who truly loves you!
Blessings and luck
2007-07-15 22:01:58 · answer #9 · answered by Midnight Winter WOLF 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my lawd! How old are you? It sounds like you have no experience with males. First of all, just because it feels good does not mean you want it. You need to have a talk with yourself about this guy. You either want it or not. And just because he wants it does not mean you want it. That is how rape happens and you think it is ok because he is your boyfriend. Then you feel like crap because you let him force his self upon you. If he is a real man and he really loved you, what you say goes, NO QUESTIONS ASKED!!!!!!!
Matter fact get rid of that rapist!!!!!
2007-07-15 21:55:04 · answer #10 · answered by Best Advise 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him now, pronto, on the quick-fast! He wants your body and cares not for you, else he would not do anything to make you uncomfortable, get your parents or somone else to help you out and makes sure he stays out!
Sorry, if that was forceful it's because it's awefull that people have to have problems like this, be well.
Reft
This, is my opinion. Sorry for the force....
2007-07-15 22:13:20 · answer #11 · answered by Reft 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋