hi right now i am going thru the journey of loving myself...me and my longtime boyfriend have just broken up due to my inability to love myself which sparked fits of rage toward him also me being attached to him and seeking fulfillment in him has led to his unhappiness in our relationship...so right now i am just starting the journey to completing myself and loving myself has anyone gone thru or is going thru the same situation??? what is helping you love yourself????? thanks
2007-07-15 14:04:35 · 9 answers · asked by jaysangel040106 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Being alone can be great. You can really take your time and appreciate experience poetically. On the other hand, at some point it can feel like isolation and one needs some distractions and intimacy with others. I think it's a matter of balance, and I'm not sure if just because you're clingy it means you don't love yourself. Maybe it's just a habit you got in. In any case, I think balance between time alone and time with others is a key to a balanced life.
2007-07-15 14:12:32 · answer #1 · answered by the Boss 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm giving your question a star, because its such a good Question! You are definitely on the right track. One thing to do is everyday or night, keep a list of things that made you happy, or smile, or just found pleasant every day for about a month. If you read something or saw a movie you liked, try to figure out what you liked most, and write that down.
This might be hard to do right away if you are really sad about your breakup, but its still worth doing.
At the end of each week, look over your list and try to find a common thread. It will teach you a lot about yourself. It will also teach you what makes the one in a million unique human being you are. Be proud of your individuality!
Good luck, and stay resolved. You really are doing the right thing!
2007-07-15 14:12:38 · answer #2 · answered by preciselyright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we view love as a journey because it is constantly changing. When you journey, you begin with an ideal, a concept. When it first begins it is exciting, new, different. As it continues, it becomes something else. The realities of what you are seeing/doing take place of the ideals, and the journey becomes filled with meaning...moments of pleasure and sorrow combine to make the journey a lasting part of your life. You want it to continue. Such is love.
2016-05-18 21:51:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Therapy. You have to forgive yourself for the wrongs you've committed--real or perceived; be yourself; put yourself first; speak up right away when something troubles you, but don't whine, blame, scream or screech--when you do thus and so, I feel neglected. You spoke your piece, got if off your chest, and forgot it. You don't have to try to buy love or prove yourself by attempting to do stuff for others that isn't really something that you would normally do (my mom used to "thus and so", "my ex did thus and so" doesn't mean you have to go and do what they did that pleased your partner. Don't let people take advantage of you in the name of love.
Express your gratitude for all you have to the Almighty--the bad things, as well, that made you stronger.
2007-07-15 14:12:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to find out who you are first. I had the same problem. I changed to match what my partner wanted. Then I would get angry because I didn't feel true to myself.
Get some counseling and figure out who you are and what you want out of life and things will be a lot easier - I can tell you from experience.
2007-07-15 14:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by Cinthia Round house kicking VT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make sure you are eating healthy, and taking care of your body, be in good shape, and just do things that make you happy. hang out with people that make you happy, do things that are fun for you, don't worry about what anyone else thinks right now, just worry about what you want until you figure yourself out. then once your satisfied with what you have and what you are, open yourself to others.
2007-07-15 14:09:31 · answer #6 · answered by derek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you repeatedly tell yourself that you are a person who deserves to be loved, you will start to believe it.
2007-07-15 14:10:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive those in the past who have hurt you and betrayed you - they are themseles deeply flawed, weak, childish people who were lonely and ignorant - not the gods you once took them to be.
2007-07-15 14:15:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not that hard just belive in youself and concentrate on ur positive features
2007-07-15 14:12:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋