My dad has recently passed away from Cancer. And everything has just gone downhill. I am an only child, and recived 75% of my love from my dad. My aunt and uncle moved in together in our house, because their rent expirend, and they're moving into a house soon. My mom is like BFFs with my Aunt. And Ignores me most of the time. Sometimes she and my Aunt gains up on me, kinda like on a question, 2 against one. I feel unloved and unimportant.
2007-07-15 13:28:44 · 12 answers · asked by Cutepup 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
all you can do right now is be strong. and know that your dad is in a better place and him and god are looking out ofr you and have something very special planned for you in life.
2007-07-15 13:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by Aquarius-Monkey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry. I wonder how old you are . I wonder if you have a job or are in school. Your father is with you and think about what he would want you to do in this situation. I mean hopefully when the aunt and uncle move, things will improve. Meanwhile find things to keep you busy in improving your life and your chances for getting a very good job if you dont have one yet. That means taking more classes. Try to do some things for others either volunteering or in your neighborhood. I guess what I am saying is you will have to go OUT of your home to find some sort of happiness now. But your father will always be with you on your path.
2007-07-15 20:40:40 · answer #2 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, let me tell you how sorry I am for your dad's passing.
Losing a parent can never be easy. Have you always felt more loved from your dad than your mom or is it recently? Maybe your mom is mourning. If this was always happening, than you need to find out why your mom treats you like this? is it something you do? or a way she feels? pull her aside from your aunt and tell her how you feel about your relationship with her. Make sure to tell her how close you were with your dad and how affecting and hurting you are now. She will know that you will need her the most at this time. If your mom can't see this, you can try a third party coming in and expressing your feelings to your mom. To hear that your daughter doesn't feel loved, and is hurting from a stranger can really wake some one to their senses...
GOOD LUCK!
2007-07-15 20:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by aleasha_Sam01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your lose, I lost my mom last year, My dad is dying of cancer. And between my step mom and step siblings we are left out of so much..My dad had 5 other kids from previous marriage. We never amounted to anything with the step as we were growing up and now that Daddy is dying it has gotten so much worse...my step sister has a child and that is the only grandchild who gets anything from grandma and grandpa...she is the only one that they brag about and there are 11 grand kids in total....The only time my dad ever told me that he loved me was when he had been drinking and step mom not around....
You just need to tell them that you feel this way and how much it hurts you. And that you deserve to feel loved and important...
Good luck...I hope you find the help that you need....
2007-07-15 20:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by Winks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I so feel your pain. You are all going through a transitional period, Be assured you are very much loved. As soon as you relatives move out it will be your mom aqnd you. Make dates with your mom, plan a special meal for the two of you, have a girls night and paint each others nails.You see, iI just recently lost my dad and I wish I had a closer relationship with my mom, but we live in different cities. So just hang in there
2007-07-15 21:33:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would try to look on the bright side of things and laugh with them (your aunt and mom) and I would try my best to hang out with both of them. Ask them out for lunch or ask them if they want to go shopping. Every girl loves shopping and if they try to gang up on you, bring a friend that way you wont get picked on and you'll have a great friend to shop with. No matter what, do what you want to do and maybe you could hang out with your uncle. He might just be a really cool guy to hang out with and a guy that gives you a lot of attention like your dad. And remember, you are not unimportant, you just have to look at a different side of things.
2007-07-15 20:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went though the same thing to. But my aunt didn't move in with us. And my dad did make it though and is cancer free after three years. Sorry to hear about your dad. If you have any questions just email me at katpatch03@yahoo.com
2007-07-15 20:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are over 18, I would move out and go to college and get away from that for a while..But if you are younger, you need to talk to your mom because she is supposed to be there for you. I am so sorry about your dad and I hope you and your mom get closer soon!!
2007-07-15 20:33:32 · answer #8 · answered by Soccer Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your dad. If you are of age, I would move out and get my own place and make a fresh start without the negative people in my life. If you are still underage, just hang in there and try to talk to your mom. Maybe she's just grieving too and it comes out wrong.
2007-07-15 20:34:30 · answer #9 · answered by Brandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to grief counciling. The hospital will be able to tell you where a meeting is being held so you can have some support in dealing with the death of your father. When you get this help they will also help you deal with the problems at home. I'm sorry you have to go through this terrible ordeal. Remember your mom is also griefing
2007-07-15 20:46:34 · answer #10 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you arent the only one to loose someone there - is it not possible they are dealing as best they can, and just dont have the strength to reach out to you - a reminder of an new open wound - just yet
find all the support you can outside your "house zone" and when you are stong enough, or even if one of them is first (doubt it, tho - it'll be you i betcha) the family thing will work itself out - we are stuck with each other - we ALL die. fact up. family can repair from the most amazing brutalitly of life. dont look to them now tho, find all you need in your friends, an get on - it'll be ok. - just sucks we all have to go tru it
2007-07-15 20:37:14 · answer #11 · answered by l t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋