is 19 too old for a 16 year old?

Question

yeah i know its ilegal...so if your going to say that then dont even reply to this.

anyways....so im 16 and me and this 19 year old guy have been talkin. he graduated from HS about 2 months ago..and he moved down to florida where hes originally from...
but i found out a few days ago that hes comin back here cuz he misses everyone...so hes gonna go to college here...im so excited to know hes comin back...
my parents really dont like the fact that i like him and hes 3 years older then me and will be 20 in october...so were basically 3 years and 4 months apart.
they think he is too wild cuz he has 1 tattoo. does that make him wild? i dont think it does.
so im really glad hes comin back cuz now we could actually be more then just friends...and idk if i should stay friends...or actaully try to be more?
help me please! :]

Answer 1

it depends where you live, but here in Canada its considered more then normal. I'm 16 and my boyfriend is turning 21 next month. no problem at all because love is love and a 3 year difference is absolutely nothing no matter what anybody says. It all depends on your preferences and if you feel comfortable around him then for sure go for it :D whatever makes you happy

Answer 2

It may or may not be illegal. Age of consent depends on where you live. I know age of consent in Georgia is 16, so it is not illegal. Check the age of consent for your specific state.

It's only three years apart, but there is a maturity difference between a 16 and 19 year old. He will be starting college and you will still be in high school, so you two will be in completely different environments. Not to say it can't work, but I'd generally say 16 and 19 aren't a great idea. If you two really like each other and he seems respectful towards you (not pressuring you) and he thinks you are mature enough, it could work out fine though. Ten years from now when he's 29 and you're 26, it won't make a difference at all. And no, one tattoo doesn't make him wild.

Answer 3

OK... yep you dont want to hear the legalities... but .. ok i wont go there...
3 years difference isnt a lot... if you are a little older.
What you need to look at is... hes 19 at college so will be into a lot of things you wont be able to do... you know like clubs drinking etc.
Also you are 16 and will be looking to sort out your future. Your parents are probalily worried that you will forgo your
education etc for this guy... what you have to think is it fair to put him in a situation where if anythig happens... even just petting he can be accused of sexual assault on a minor.
The law is very strick in this respect and even if consensual he could be sent to jail. You need to keep this as jsut a friendship and nothing else.
You are a 16 year old .. you want more from this relationship i think you are heading for trouble. Your future is important, your education is important. Believe me when you go to college you will meat someone whom you will want to spend your future with.
To be honest this sounds more like a school girl infactuation /crush....
Listen to your parents ... the tattoo means nothing in reality ...
They are just making sure you dont make a big mistake..

Answer 4

Are you sure he wants to be more than just friends? You could totally be risking it. And when hes in college hes not going to want to worry about you, his 3 years younger girl. Even though it is 3 years theres a big difference there. If you were like 19 I don't think it would be a big deal but now it sorta is. Though I do know a 16 year old who dated an 18 year old for a while and it worked out, but they broke up when he went to college.

Answer 5

That all really depends, did he lure you to the car with candy, or did u go to the gravesite at night and dig him up. Cause its all about who initiated this abomination :P

Sorry being a little dramatic today :P. It all really comes down to if your emotionally mature and you really know what your getting yourself into. The measure of this is hard though since your probally in love and blinded by whatever u are.

Personally i think he is robbing the cradle with this one, but its your call at the end of the day

Answer 6

Depends on the maturity level. I've dated 3 years away when I was in High School. Did it work? No... not really. I was too immature for her. :)

And I'm not going to lie to you. Most guys who date younger girls just hope to teach them the ways of love. I probably gave 3 girls their first kiss.

I'm a lot more grown up now... kinda.

Answer 7

Yes, legally he is too old for you. But why the taste in old men anyway? well, anyways. If you really like him go for it. I know a girl that is dating a guy way older than herself and it's not really weird because she acts like his age. I think it depeneds a lot on how old YOU are mentaly. But other than the age difference i think everything else sounds pretty sweet!

Answer 8

if you were actually mature enough to handle this kind of relationship you wouldnt care yourself if he has a tattoo my 52 year old mother has five tattoos... tattoos are a tribal mark as well so you cant judge them as a bad boy thing.. unless thats what you are looking for and thats what he is... could it be youre just trying to piss off your parents?? dont date him now just wait if he reallly likes you he will.. plus he probably doesnt want to go to jail either

Answer 9

yep, and when he starts liking your friends and breaks your heart, everyone will just say he was too old 4 u, and then you can call the cops on him because its illegel. Hopefully your parents call. Otherwise, its disgusting when a grown man finds younger girls attractive. He may like guys too.

Answer 10

Ask yourself the following questions.

a. Is it a wise choice to like a guy 3 years apart?

b. What would your friends do?

c. Would your parents let you?

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Then again, my sister and her bf are 7 years apart. C[o_O]D but anyways, you're in highschool, probably a junior or sophomore. Think about it, love will come again. I'm not telling you to stop liking this guy, but if you do, it's fine, but think to yourself.

Is it kind of embarrassing to like a guy who's in college and you're on your 2nd or 3rd year in highschool ?

But you know, just go with what YOU think is right.

Good luck!