I am dating a guy that my family doesnt like. We have been together a while now, but they've never met him. He hurt me at one point (just ignored me for a few days to hang out with friends/family, i told them some bad things about him, that part was my fault. He really is a good guy, he has a great heart, i have the most fun with him i've ever had with anyone, the chemistry between us is insane. However he's 5 years younger than me (im 29, he's 24), he hasnt finiched college yet, and isnt sure what he wants to do for a career. He's in a carpenters union right now. He comes from a blue collar type family, whereas my family does not. They outright told me they think he's a loser. They are judgemental. I am willing to sacrifice to be with him if we are meant to be...but this is difficult ):
2007-07-15 12:53:42 · 4 answers · asked by meggerpepper 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he does know how they feel about him, he said we need to fix it. It's not really driving me away from them...maybe it would if we got married. We talked a lot about getting married and having kids recently...i dont want to be with someone who just 'suits' me. i want to be with someone who excites me and i cant get enough of...i have that with him.
2007-07-15 13:09:58 · update #1
Are you right for eachother? If you really feel like you have found the person that you work best with, then maybe you need to explain (not yell and scream) that to your parents and ask for their support.
Something else that might make that easier... does he know how your parents feel? And does he care that he may be driving a big gap between you and your parents (i.e. does he care about you?)
Edit/add on to your response: Sounds like is willing to work on making sure you and your family are good. Seems to me that your family should be willing to work for the same goal. Maybe tell your family that you want to have a sit down with all of you and hammer it out... honesty may hurt, but it usually cures all ills.
2007-07-15 13:01:31 · answer #1 · answered by flyzinID 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would listen to the parents. Of course you do not have to do what they tell you. The guy you are describing sounds like a fun loving guy. The question is he someone you wish to be with for the long haul. I doubt it or you wouldn't be asking YA for advice.
2007-07-15 13:02:41 · answer #2 · answered by Max 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad doesn't want me to be with...... anyone. Hurts Don't It?
2007-07-15 12:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and do what you want.
2007-07-15 12:58:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋