My ex husband is currently active army. He has been emailing me requesting me to fill out paperwork giving him joint custody even though he nevers sees his kid. He doesn't even live in the states. He said that the reason he wants partial custody is because he does not want to live on base. The military will not pay for his off base housing unless he is married or has partial custody. He states that he only wants custody "on paper" to get his housing paid for/more money. This is cheating the government!! I will not fraud our military. I feel this needs to be reported and stopped but I have no idea who to contact. I have searched the internet for someone to forward the email to, or a way to find his commanding officers but I have not found anything. Can someone help?
2007-07-15 12:42:07 · 22 answers · asked by ~Me~ 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Just don't fill out the paper work he's asking you to fill out.
2007-07-15 12:44:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋
Umm. Just say no you won't fill out the paperwork. Easy as that.
As far as the rest of the stuff goes, get over it and get over him. The hate that fills you is just a waste of your time and energy and even if you don't think it does, it all comes out when you talk to your child about her father. He was good enough to have a child with and get married to back in the day. You need to keep things in perspective and just go about your life. It may be wrong for him to ask, but it was only a question and believe me if you were active duty living in a barracks on base you would ask your ex too so don't do the high and mighty thing. Nobody is a saint and him asking you this question may have been wrong, but I am pretty sure there is something you are not so on the up on up with. Basically just be polite and say no and go on with your day.
2007-07-15 12:52:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT FILL OUT THIS PAPERWORK! Because you are divorced and no longer married to him, you will have very little luck getting in touch with anyone who could help you handle this situation. (Anyways he hasn't committed any fraud yet, so they really wouldn't be able to help you.) If your husband takes you to court for joint custody, use the emails as proof of his intent to fraud the United States Army. Most likely, based on these emails, he wouldn't get partial custody anyways.
2007-07-15 12:49:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
What group is he with...certainly you can find a number for his regiment, battalion, platoon or some other type of commanding officer.
You may just want to contact his base and they might be able to direct you to the appropriate person.
The problem is no actual fraud has been comiited yet... only thinking about it. You are also going to lose some credibiity when you tell them he is your EX because this will make you look like to them you are just out to get him.
Just don't sign the papers....if you do you would be about as gulty as he is because you are supporting him in doing something you know is wrong.
2007-07-15 12:49:28 · answer #4 · answered by kcmwv03 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should understand what he is going through. Living in the barracks is the worst thing for an adult, is worst then living at home with your parents. You have no privacy and you have to live by there rules. They can go into your room any time they wish too. You have to "field day" your room once a week. You can't have any visitors past 10pm of 11pm. The room is tiny maybe at most 20ft by 20ft and if your not an NCO you may have to share a room with 2 or 3 other people. I know cause I was stuck in the barrack for six years because I wasn't marry. You don't have to sing the papers that's fine and good for you for having values. But don't ruined his career because of it he just may be desperate to get out of the barracks, and doesn't know who to turn for help.
2007-07-15 23:30:32 · answer #5 · answered by jeff_081 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have seen this done, and even more devious a 'paper marriage'. In all actuality even if you reported this to his command they wouldnt do anything other than deny his paperwork.
I am wondering if he is paying child support. Are you aware that if he is not, and he is court required to, you can have the Army pay you directly from his paycheck? This isnt as bad as it sounds, he will actually get a slight pay increase to help cover the clild support payments.
2007-07-15 13:44:59 · answer #6 · answered by chanvgap 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can help by not signing the paperwork he has requested you to sign. You can also contact the inspector general and inform that office of what he is trying to do. just call the closest military base to your location and ask for the IG's number.
2007-07-16 03:06:53 · answer #7 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. He hasn't done anything wrong, you don't have much to report.
2. What kind of outcome are you hoping to come from this? You want to be spiteful, maybe hope you can hurt his career? He wants better housing, if you don't sign off on it, that's fine, but no need to stir up trouble or try to hurt his job. I'm assuming he pays child support, so who would "reporting" him really do damage to?
2007-07-15 12:56:45 · answer #8 · answered by emily 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Someone (you) has some issues they need to work out. I bet your kids are using his medical benefits, and I bet you're getting some sort of either child or spousal support. So get over it. Don't sign the paperwork and there's nothing to worry about. How hard is it to say "I don't feel comfortable with that."? Why do you need to cause a big mess? Do you crave the attention?
2007-07-15 12:52:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
when you receive any papers from him send them back return to sender don't sign anything try calling the nearest military base or try this website and see if you can contact anybody in charge from his base it's military.com see if you can get in touch with any one via e-mail or phone numbers or you can try veteran affairs and see what they say.
2007-07-19 10:35:40 · answer #10 · answered by As You Were 85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't sign any papers then you shouldn't feel bad about it. DO NOT contact anyone above him, he could get in really big trouble, he might be a bum, but he's probably worked hard to get in the place he is now.
2007-07-15 12:53:15 · answer #11 · answered by funnybunny 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋