i am worried..my 4 yr old daughter goes into screaming fits everytime she is with her grandpa....she will NOT listen to me when it is time for grandpa to go home or for me to come & get her & my dad does everything she wants ...how do i break this?? what could be wrong??? its like she needs a exorcism, i am serious & desperate to hear your answers help plz...no rude comments plz
2007-07-15 12:19:34 · 9 answers · asked by yahooligan 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
she wants to be with him constantly...all the time,, & she doesn't know how to take NO as a answer :((
2007-07-15 12:25:59 · update #1
i have to hold her down, she kicks & screams...i don't know what to think about this behavior, its getting worse
2007-07-15 12:26:51 · update #2
She has to know that time with Grandpa is limited and that he will be back. Then, Grandpa also has to get in on the "time to go" speech. Be firm, but patient. Her behavior should also get a time out, as such behavior should be clearly shown as unacceptable.
You may try to preceed the whole thing with if she can not go off like a nuclear attack, she can go out for a small treat and then expand that to a week of good behavior. If that works, then she may settle in to a better pattern. The other side of the two edged sword would be that if she explodes, she loses something for a while (favorite toy or whatever "costs" her).
Eventually, she will grow out of it, but she needs to learn proper behavior.
2007-07-15 13:02:12 · answer #1 · answered by TroothBTold 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a four year old son and he is definitely "Grandma's Boy." I swear, he would move in with her if he could and never give his father and I a second thought! I totally sympathize with your plight!
The best answer I can give you is to be consistent when grandpa leaves. Maybe get into a little routine and have your daughter give him a hug, a kiss, and then wave goodbye from the window. Stay upbeat, even when she is screaming mad (this will be the hardest part!) and try to distract her and do something with her that will keep her busy. You may also want to explain to her that grandpa has a home that he needs to go to, too, and that he loves her a lot and will be back soon.
Hope this helps!
2007-07-15 19:30:59 · answer #2 · answered by brojonesmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nothing's wrong, (although I'm still laughing at exorcism!!)she's 4 and when she's w/ G-pa, she gets everything she wants. It's really as simple as that.
You just can't give in.
If your dad would listen, you could ask for his help...ie. him putting her in the car, and/or uniting w/ you on the leaving front.
If he's no help, you'll just have to stay strong. It sucks to be the bad guy, b/c in a 4 yr olds mind, yeah, I want to stay w/ the man w/ all the candy etc, lol! But, she just has to know that you're in charge. It might get better.
2007-07-15 19:27:50 · answer #3 · answered by Dj 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My daughter does the same thing (she's two) with grandma.
The only thing I'd be worried about is your little boy coming back spoiled rotten. I think our parents are trying to get back at us for being little turds as kids ourselves.
lol :-p
2007-07-15 20:45:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me like she' really attached to her grandpa. Why not ask him to encourage her to listen to you. If she sees that even he sees you as an authority figure, she'll ease into listening to you. Hope that helps. *Good Luck and Smiles*
2007-07-15 19:27:03 · answer #5 · answered by nfirehazzard 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she screams when she is with him or when it comes to leaving him?
if she screams when she is with him stay in the room and see why
if it is when leaving discuss with her why she doesnt want to leave
talk to her doctor?
sry if this didint help im not totally understanding
2007-07-15 20:40:23 · answer #6 · answered by XsilentXeyesX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her a reward for leaving,
make it a pleasurable experience, as much as possible.
take her for an ice cream on the way home. ?
2007-07-16 10:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by James10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't fully understand, is she mad, or get upset to be around him?
2007-07-15 19:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by Unknown 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we have the same problem with my nephew who is six so when you get the right answer that works for you please let me know.
2007-07-15 19:36:44 · answer #9 · answered by favorite_aunt24 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋