please help!!!!!!!!!!! my husband and i are celebrating our 10 year anniversary and we have been thru so much that we want to renew our wedding vows and make it a nice affair the problem is whether we should invite my inlaws or leave them out as they don't like me or they dont communicate with my husband except to gossip. I want them there to rub it in their face but i dont want his mother to make it all about her i need some true advice please??????????????????
2007-07-15 10:55:10 · 9 answers · asked by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
only invite them if hubby insists on it. why ruin a special day with people who hate on you.
keep it to those who love you and are happy for you making it this far thru all you have been thru.
not people who probly have a poll running of when you will break up.
if you wanna rub their faces in it-- just send an announcement of the event- then give them a picture album for xmas showing all the fun you all had and how happy you are....
2007-07-15 11:02:43 · answer #1 · answered by nataliexoxo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if it is a "invite the whole family" thing, then they should be included, even if you don't get along. Otherwise, the guests might gossip. Inviting them also would send a message that they don't control your emotions. You do what YOU want:) Personally, I think renewing vows alone would be more romantic and less expensive. There are many cool places in Vegas that are awesome, but if your going the family route, then-yeah. I'd include them.
2007-07-15 11:05:04 · answer #2 · answered by avelectrician 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you think things are rough with your in-laws now, try having a "vow renewal" and not inviting them.
I put "vow renewal" in quotes because there is no such thing. Marriage vows do not expire and do not get renewed; like a driver's license. You prove your commitment to your husband by staying together; not by having a party where the entertainment is you and him repeating words and phrases.
Have a party, but call it an anniversary party and just have fun.
I already know I am not getting Best Answer (that goes to the person who tells you what you want to hear), you asked for true answers, and this is how I truly see it.
2007-07-15 11:03:58 · answer #3 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I'm confused as to how his mother could make this event all about her when it is clearly all about the two of you. I don't believe that one single human being has all that power to ruin an event. It's your perception of her that will ruin the event, not her presence. The fact that you want them there to rub their face in it, speaks volumes. Ignoring someone and not caring whether they're alive or dead is so much more powerful than harboring resentment and trying to rub noses in it. Ask yourself, how would hubby be about not inviting his own mother to this event? If he's OK with that, then I guess you have carte blanche to do what you want. Invite only those people who you want to be present.
2007-07-15 12:39:59 · answer #4 · answered by Sondra 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is a tough one. I would invite her and not allow it to be her day, this is the couples day only.
That way she can never hold it against you that you didnt invite her. You could always pray that she doesnt come:)
Sounds awesome that you guys are renewing your vows! Hope it goes wonderfully for the both of you.
2007-07-15 12:07:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you say they don't like you and they don't have a good relationship with your husband, I would say not to invite them.
The fact that you are still married to her son is enough "rub" for your mother-in-law. Be the gracious and better person you're meant to be and enjoy this happy event without them.
Congratulations!
2007-07-15 11:06:08 · answer #6 · answered by Juanitaville 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents renew their wedding rows in Las Vegas just the two of them! Do what you want! Good luck
2007-07-15 11:00:16 · answer #7 · answered by Jen* 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am torn between telling you not to...and telling you to.
I used to get along with my in laws- but since the birth of my son and their neglect of him. ( I had surgery out of town & was gone 12 hours..and they never once changed his diaper! When I asked, mind you they were in their early 50's, they said they did not think he needed it...and it was running down the front of his little clothes!)
I guess you have to do what is in your heart..be it bad or good.
It is YOUR day, and you have to decide weather or not you want your special day ruined by someone who does not care for you.
Blessings and luck to you
2007-07-15 11:33:19 · answer #8 · answered by Midnight Winter WOLF 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think guest at a renewal are people who has supported the marriage. if your in laws are not those kind of people, then i would not invite them.
2007-07-15 11:01:08 · answer #9 · answered by Christina V 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋