ok i have been asking a lot of questions about my bf. but now i am p!ssed! ok yesterday his friends came over (as a matter of fact they are alwyas over) and they kept talking about girls and how many he has "done it with" and all the girls in my bf's phone and i was steamed! and this morning i told him before he left for work that me and him needa stop acting like children and talk when he got home. i even called him while he was a work and said it again and that his loser friends cant come over until we talk. but he got home 44 min ago and he guess who came. his loser friends! (I call them losers because they are they have no life all they wanna do is go out and see how many girls they can do it with!) and now i see why he has changed because of them. i try and try to talk to him but he wont listen. (yes i know what most of u are gonna say he dosent care about my feelings) but i cant leave here. i had stayed with my mom so many times now and she lives with her bf and he told me that..
2007-07-15 10:46:58 · 13 answers · asked by shelly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if this happends again then im on my own. im 18 have no job and driver's liscense (because of his controlling butt) and i have no place to go. i left all my friends for him and they are mad and wont talk to me (which i understand) but how can i get him to listen to me??!!! i need any advice HELP
2007-07-15 10:48:23 · update #1
You cant make him listen to you. You cant change anyone. You are letting him control you. You sound like his little puppet, and thats not how a relationship should be. His friends say stuff Because it upsets you. They like the reaction you give them. Your Boy and friends are abusing you.
You can tell alot about a person by the friends they keep. If his friends are Losers you are dating one too. He doest have any respect for you. Stop seeing him. You deserve better! Then call your true friends and apologize to them. I dont understand what you are saying about your mom, sorry. Where cant you leave? Also, you should never call a bf at work.
2007-07-15 10:58:19 · answer #1 · answered by T I 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to drop your boyfriend. Why would you stick with someone that controls you to the extent where you compromised friendships you've probably had long before you met him? So what if you have no job, and you're just 18! Get a job you want. No man will listen to anything he doesn't want to hear and sounds like hasn't listened to you in a while. So cut loose of him, get the friends that actually care about you back. And find someone else that's worth a damn.
2007-07-15 17:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by donbenecio 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to show him what you wrote. Him taking this seriously is important to you, obviously. You should tell him if you have to scream it in his ear in front of his friends.
Speaking of, maybe the reason he brought them over is because he's scared of being an adult with you. I think he's trying to ignore the problems in your relationship, thinking they will go away.
Though, it is very vital that he hears what you have to say, try to see this from his view, and let him know that his input would be appreciated and you can't live with a big elephant tailing you both everywhere. Things need to be said, he knows this.
I don't know for certain what to say. But, I hope that if this doesn't help, that another answer will. :)
2007-07-15 17:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by A.R.K. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea as to what religion you are or if you are an atheist, but pray to God about it. God handles situations like this all the time. If you want my advise, I would leave him. If he has already had premarital sex with other girls before it means he is already trouble. It will be hard, but the best thing to do is to pray about it and look for someone else. Trust me.
2007-07-15 17:52:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a sticky situation....while he's a work...you need to be looking for a job! Once you work that out....find a cheap studio apartment or something and get your life back....whether or not you two will still be together is not important.....leave him......please. This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship at all. Please consider my advice.
2007-07-15 17:52:52 · answer #5 · answered by Cathy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you said it right. Never do anything to make someone else happy . Make yourself happy you really need to get a job and move and learn to not depend on a guy. i know its hard because i went through that myself but i had a job and moved on from it and i am happy!! happy single Happy that i have to not depend on a guy. take it one day at a time. find a job and tell him right
2007-07-15 17:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by Ryah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ultamatium tell him to make time to be with just you sometimes and talk to him. tells him that the way he talks in front of you hurts one if he doesn't stop tell he probably doesn't care enough abot you and doesn't deserve you so move on. and remember U CAN"T CHANGE HIM
2007-07-15 17:53:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out. If you try to get him to talk he will lose control and do something worse. Please leave while he's at work and don't tell him where you are.
2007-07-15 17:50:42 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you need to go to woman's shelter and get all the various ways of help that they can give you instead of letting him think he has total control of you and can and will increase his cruelness get out fast!
2007-07-15 17:54:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave this guy. It's only going to get worse.
2007-07-15 17:49:47 · answer #10 · answered by Mike M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋