Today I told my girlfriend I wouldn't be able to see her tomorrow (school) and she said it's cool because she was going to hang it with a new friend (a guy) she made in summer school so I said "cool" and said I would see her on Tuesday.
I'm not really worried or anything and I probably won't even bring anything up about this because she doesn't have many friends anyways. She's trying to make new friends because her old friends back stabbed her and I just kind of wish she would make friends of her own gender I guess...
Anyways, only question I have is if it is normal for a girl to go out with another guy. I think if I told her I was going out with another girl she would probably castrate me, she gets jealous easily.
Details:
Girlfriend = Almost 16
Other guy = 15
Me = Recently turned 18
Dating 8 months, serious relationship (40+ hours a week together), things are going great, rarely fight.
Is it normal for her to hang out with a guy alone?
2007-07-15 10:41:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's ok to have guy friends. If she is spending all of her time with him, then I would be worried.
Trust is very important in a relationship/
2007-07-15 10:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've given her no reason to cheat, then I wouldn't worry about it. Women cheat mostly because they're lonely and feel unfulfilled in their current relationship.
It sounds like she just needs a friend, guy or gal, that can bring a different perspective to her life. Besides, guys make great friends for a girl because they are less judgmental than other girls of the same age. With other friends of the same gender, there's always this underlying competitiveness that gets tiresome. Maybe she's learned this through her own personal experiences and just isn't ready yet to get close to other girls yet.
2007-07-15 10:52:32 · answer #2 · answered by HoPeFuL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not normal. RED FLAG!!!
However, it is interesting that this guy is 15. Maybe she is wanting to explore a little because it seems like you guys are almost to the "next level" so sometimes us girls get a little nervous.
Give it two weeks and if she is still hanging out with him then talk to her about it. I'd be a little worried though. She sounds like she's getting a little claustrophobic in this relationship.
The fact that you're even questioning this makes it evident that it is a compelling new friendship she has...
PS watch the movie "when harry met sally"
2007-07-15 10:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can always go ahead and not bring it up to her, but it will always be in the back of your mind. To test the theory of anything happening I would ask to hangout with both of them to see how they interact and what he is like. This way you will be able to tell right away if he has further intentions with your girlfriend. By the way if she acts weird about you hanging out with both of them their is something going on for sure because she should have no reason for not wanting you to meet her new friend whether guy or girl. Goodluck :)
2007-07-15 10:51:05 · answer #4 · answered by blondemafia00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well basically for me, I can go out with a guy (friend) without malice because I do really love my BF. But, I always tell my BF whenever I will be with another guy. He doesn't approve it always but I always re-assure him that I love him and no one will replace him. If my BF feels that way then I introduce the guy (friend) to him personally so that he will be ok. Trust is an important part of the relationship and we're on our 6th year.
In your GF's case, I would pay close attention and if possible meet this guy friend of hers personally.
2007-07-15 10:51:10 · answer #5 · answered by I_Rockzzz!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. She will either stay with you or not. Letting her or saying it is o.k. will only let her know you trust her and that is a good thing. Trust is very important in a relationship. It might strengthen the relationship. Don't you have girl friends that you are just friends with?
C. Baker
2007-07-15 10:50:21 · answer #6 · answered by rhbceb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal girls have a ton of guy friends i have six. Trust me it's normal but if they hug longer then the three second rule. Then something going on because i guy friend means you never hug at all. It's basic girl code!
2007-07-15 10:50:32 · answer #7 · answered by beachgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah but question do you trust that your girl is not going to do anything? but i had a friend that i known for 3 years and i had alot of boyfriends but i spend the night at his house alone. but the guy that i was serious with he was jealous about are friendship and i never told him that i spent the night. so at least she is telling you whats going on.
2007-07-15 10:48:44 · answer #8 · answered by Ryah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably..
There are guys you hang out with as more than friends and then there are guys you hang out with that are JUST friends.
She probably just enjoys this guys company as a friend. Plus, She has you and things sound healthy in your relationship so I think it sounds perfectly normal.
And, you trust her. Sounds very normal.
2007-07-15 10:49:31 · answer #9 · answered by RonnieTalk2Russia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally I would be worried. I was 16 once, girls at 16 dont have "just guy friends" If they do its rare and they usually dont hang out alone with them if they have a boyfriend
2007-07-15 10:47:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could just want to make a new friend. But becareful if they spend a lot of time together it can turn to something else. Id rather be safe than Sorry
2007-07-15 10:45:42 · answer #11 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋