what kind of doctor or person can talk to a 31 yr old about shyness and talking to women?

Answer 1

A psychologist or a psychiatrist can help. But there may be support groups around who can help you with that

Answer 2

Your family DR could or they can refer you to someone else who can help,I bet you talk plenty to women,mother,sisters,co workers etc.Women are people,just like you,some are very confident,some pretend to be confident.Don't make a big deal out of it,look for books in the "self help" section of bookshops,try downloading hypnosis mp3's on shyness etc.Good luck.