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my dad just died my mother is just died my lil sister is pregnant and shes 12 !! ]
my mom was pregnant so they pushed the baby out so now i have to get a name for the baby and look after it!! please help
]p.s im only 16

Answer 1

It sounds like you are in a pretty rough situation. I am sure that you will be getting in touch with Child and Family Services in your area. If you have family, friends or a community/religious organization they could also be a great deal of help.

As far as naming the baby, it might be nice to name him or her after your recently departed mother or father, or maybe using their name a middle name. That way as he or she grows up, you can share stories about the parents he/she never got to meet, and he/she will feel still connected to them.

If your little sister is 12 and pregnant, she needs to be sure to get some medical attention. There can be some serious medical issues with someone that young. She needs to get completely checked out, and start taking prenatal vitamins. She will also need your support as she decides what she wants to do with the baby. As controversial as it is, she does have the right to choose to terminate the pregnancy. If she decides that she does not want to do that, but realizes that at her age it would be very difficult to raise a child, she could think about adoption. If she contacted an agency she could even help to pick out which parents would raise the baby. Some might even be willing to have an "open" adoption, in which she gets to see the baby occaisionally (birthdays and holidays, etc.). If she decides to keep the baby, she needs to figure out what resources are available to her and the baby to help them until she has grown up enough to take care of everything herself. She should also be sure not to neglect her education. While it might not have seemed too important, if she will be raising a child she needs an education in order to support him/her.

No matter what she decides to do about this pregnancy, afterwards it is very important that she make a decision regarding family planning. While abstinence is the only method that is 100% certain to prevent pregnancy, it seems as though she is probably unwilling to use this method. She should talk to her doctor about the different methods available to her. Pills can be hard to remember to take every day, the Patch can sometimes be confusing. The Depo-Provera shot only needs to be remembered every 3 months, but can still be forgotten sometimes. IUDs are intra-uterine devices that are good for 5-10 years. These are small pieces of plastic that are implanted in the uterus in the doctor's office. In 10 years, she will be 22, which would be a much more responsible time to start thinking about having more children, but if she should decide she wants to earlier, or if she should have any unwanted side effects, an IUD can also be removed fairly simply in the doctor's office. Regardless of what method she chooses to use for her own body's protection against pregnancy, she should also plan to use condoms to prevent the spread of diseases.

She should be sure that her doctor does thorough cultures and blood tests for STDs, (Sexually Transmitted Diseases) since she has obviously been having unprotected sex. These illnesses can have serious effects on her health as well as the well-being of the baby, but it is possible to prevent some of the complications to the baby if plans are made in advance.

You do not mention anything about the father of her baby, but based on your sister's age, he could be charged with statuatory rape even if she consented. At the very least, he will probably be held responsible for child support should she choose to keep the baby. It is important to remember that he will not be required to pay more than a certain percentage of his income, so if he is still a student and does not have a job, he will not be required to pay very much, so she should not count on this money to support her family.

Good luck. It sounds like you and your family need some.

Answer 2

You need to contact social services. You are under 18 and will not be allowed to care for your siblings. At least not in the USA. You have to contact them. You need help and cannot do this by yourself. you shouldn't have too. Maybe a relative can help you also. Do any of your relatives live near you or are aware of what is going on? This does not sound good. Hope everything works out. Remember call the department of social services for your state.

Answer 3

I'm surprised that State hasn't stepped in...this is WAY too much for a 16 yr. old to handle...are there family members that can help take care of you all? If not, I'd go to Health and Welfare child protection services....oh dear, I'm so sorry for your loss. Just don't try to handle this yourself, you're not alone, there are people that love you and can support you in this. I wish I could help...you can e-mail me if you need anything..... [e-mail]

God bless you, good luck and best wishes.

Answer 4

Wow, I am soooo sorry about your parents! This is a really tough situation for you. Go to a family member, (aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc.). Family is the best way to go as far as deaths and babies, not to mention advice.

Here are some names
Girls - Hannah, Chloe, Emma, Anna, Arebella.
Boys - Jason, Dustin, Domenico, Zach, Austin

Answer 5

Well If you are underage then you will be appointed a caretaker. If you have family that is willing to do it then you'll promably stay with them. If not then you will probably be put into foster care. Talk with the caregiver and they can help you out.

Maybe some more details about the current situation and who you are staying with would be helpful to answerers.

Sorry about your parenst and sister and good luck with everything.

Answer 6

I sure hope you have other family members to rely on. That's a heavy plate you carry. There are lots of programs out there that can help. Talk with a social worker from the hospital so they can guide you.

Answer 7

well since you are only 16 and if this is true you the sister adn the new baby will most likely go to foster care. how are you on a computer when all this just happened??

Answer 8

Where in the world do you live? People don't give a 16 year old custody of babies. Is this for real?

If it is, you need to check out foster care. YOU should be in foster care. If both your parents are dead, who is raising you?

Answer 9

WOW!!sounds like you have a full plate-actually an overflow. is there any other adult family members that can intervene? the state might have to step in and place you all in a home. im so sorry your going through all this. good luck and god bless.

Answer 10

If all of this were true, social services would of stepped in by now.

Why do people make up sob stories?
If it attention you need, get it from a positive source, like community services!!!!