How are parents doing a good job?

Question

If all that 12-18 year olds are out having sex and parents dont know about it but in the end are left with grandchildren. How can we improve this and when should we start sex ed?How are parents doing their job when all it seems that the teen pregnancies just get worse

If you go to the family and relationships section of yahoo answers on a weekend you will see all sorts of questions about teens wanting to know about sex and where's the best place to do it and what is worse is the pregnancy and parenting section is riddled with am i pregnant, help i got my GF pregnant and these kids are 13, 14 it is sad

Answer 1

A lot of it is this country. We treat sex like a disease or something. If we were more open about it and gave children access to good information about questions to sex, we'd be a lot better off. Nobody wants to do that because of the church. The church in this country runs the show. And don't start on me, I know way too many preachers kids who HAD to get married. They start young too. Birth control and abstinence should be talked about at an early age. It is sad, I know, the number of clueless young adults we have in this day and age. But, it could be prevented. Because of the church, it will never be.

Answer 2

For one thing, too many parents clam up when their teenager asks about sex, or they tell them that sex is bad and wrong. This closes the line of communication, which leaves the teenager uninformed. People who are uninformed usually don't make smart decisions, which is why a lot of teenage girls have unplanned pregnancies.
Another thing that parents tend to do is give their teens too much freedom, by not setting boundaries. Someone who lacks knowledge and has complete freedom probably will make bad decisions.
Sex ed should start at around the onset of puberty. There are books written for teens explaining sex and other topics about growing up. It may be helpful for the parents to use these books as guidlines for that conversation, and it's good for the teenager to have the book because it's another resource they can use to answer questions.
Communication between teens and parents is the best way to improve the situation of teen pregnancy and STDs among teens.

Answer 3

I hear what you're saying and for the most part I agree. I have a 2 year old and one on the way (I'm 31 and married) I think alot of it is parents not being parents and wanting to be their kids best friend. I think sex ed should start young and should be more than just a one time talk. I fully intend to talk to my kids about sex openly, honestly, and alot. Most parents get embarrassed talking about sex with their kids, but it's not some dark secret and they've already heard about it from their friends. I want them to know the truth. A parent can only do so much. You can't be with them 24/7 and have to hope that what you've taught them sticks in their brains somewhere and they make good choices. Other than prayers and long talks, I don't know what more parents can do.

Answer 4

I think a lot of the problem is that parents don't know how/when to talk about sex with there kids. (my son is 19 months old I if it were time to talk about right now I would not know what to say. I have some time to figure it out but you know...)
Also it is very hard now with the 2 income families. It feels like the parents work all day get the kids, have dinner, take baths, then it is bedtime. The kids are at "daycare" etc all day talking with other kids and get more info from them cuzz they see them more. I am a stay at home mom but I don't know that many that can do what I do, so they are left with rushing around at night to get in time with the kids.
It is really hard to figure out exactly were the problem is but I hope we can figure it out to help as soon as possible.

Answer 5

Teen pregnancies date back 1000s of years. Although many were married off at 13. Thats why I think abstinence only based ed is silly. Secondly, I think current culture/TV can actually help. Explain how the strong women on shows like CSI/Greys Anatomy, those women(the characters) most likely werent teen mothers to get to that spot in life. Give them a reason not to be. And whether or not they are protected with a condom, promote young womens own responsibility to birth control.

Plus the latest study, came out like Friday, said teen pregnancy rates in the US are actually going down.

Answer 6

I think the biggest problem is the lack of supervision these kids are getting. With both parents having to work and such there are so many instances when children are left to fend for themselves. Also, too often parents are trying to be "friends" with their kids when it's not time for that yet. They still need to be parents and know who their child is with and where they are going. For instance if your daughter says she is staying at a friends house after school, call that friends mother and make sure someone is going to be there to supervise them. The kids are given too much free roaming privledges and not enough guidance.

Answer 7

I would not say that I used to be raised flawlessly, however they did the satisfactory that they might. My mom and dad divorced while I used to be seven. While I noticed my dad approximately as soon as a month, my mother and I moved round plenty. She had a pair special boyfriends who had been all abusive. They had been jerks and he or she and I each knew it, however she stayed within the relationships longer than she will have to have. My mother's mother is an instigator who chooses to make my mother's existence hell. My dad simply married my step mother after being in combination 8 years. He is aware of that she attempts to push my buttons and I attempt to push hers, however the older I get I observe, that that is my existence and I ought to reside it how I desire to reside it. Whether threats are being made inside the household, or anyone is making an attempt to pin a lifetime of errors on me, I recognise that I ought to make do with what I used to be given. Now that I am older my mother realizes that she placed me by way of greater than she will have to have, and my dad is aware of that he attempted to hide up the disorders greater than support, however I respect them for that. Them admitting to their errors particularly allow me recognise that they love me greater than whatever and even as sure, they made errors, they did what they idea used to be correct and made me the character I am at present.

Answer 8

The parents arent doing their jobs.They are walking around with their heads up their butts "trusting" their teenagers with their raging hormones.They all but rent them a motel room for sex.

Answer 9

oh gosh.... u got your girlfriend pregnant!!!!!!!!!!!!!! sex is sex. tell them to look it up on the internet!! For crying out loud!