my bf (of four years) and I have decided to try going on dates and if comfortable having sex with other people. We are still going to stay together, there is really nothing wrong with our relationship. We are both 21 and know that there is alot we are missing, we dont want to look back and say "if".
But the thing is, how many guys really want to hear that I already have a bf, and I just want to go out and have a good time with them? And how in the hell do I ask them? We live in a very small town and every one knows that we are together. I dont feel like asking a guy and have to tell them the story to find them freaked out.
How should I go about this?
2007-07-15 09:01:42 · 16 answers · asked by stoned_deja 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have always thought the concept of swinging to be most stupid. What's the point of being with someone when all you want to do is fool around with several different people? Wouldn't it be easier just to be single and have some crazy orgies? Small town America is not a real good place for this sort of lifestyle, go to a major city.
2007-07-15 09:07:51 · answer #1 · answered by Rckets 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What I would recommend is doing some research in your area and finding a local swingers club. You might have to go to a bigger city that is close to you. Here you will be around other people who will share your ideas on the whole thing. I would not recommend you just trying to find people off of the street.
2007-07-15 09:13:16 · answer #2 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth I think the best thing for you to do is find another couple that wants to swing as well. Then you can go on double dates with them and have sex without worrying about them telling the whole town, since it is small.
Bring up the topic with a couple at a club that both you and your boyfriend thinks are good looking. After you both have a couple drinks, that is the best time to discuss it. It worked for my boyfriend and me.
Good luck ;-)
2007-07-15 09:09:18 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Taresa♥ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No I do not swing but me and my boyfriend have had a conversation about it. The best thing for you to do is go on the internet and there will be tons of information for you to decide from.Just because another person is not interested in this type of life style they have no right to put you down,to each its own and goodluck.
2007-07-15 09:12:29 · answer #4 · answered by Slim&Sexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there and still do it. It is great fun as long as you both agree and have basic ground rules.
You can do it, just ask the guys, some of them will certainly be up for it!!!!!!!!
xxx
2007-07-19 03:43:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just dump your bf if you want to just go out and have a good time
2007-07-15 09:05:51 · answer #6 · answered by Jade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys should take a weekend out of town, so you both can pick up people out of your area adn there will be no rumors passed in town.
2007-07-15 09:05:09 · answer #7 · answered by ocean's mommy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should either break up completely or stay together. With relationships its usually easier if its all or nothing.
2007-07-15 09:05:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's the use of staying with him if you are just going to spend most of your time with other people? Just dump him!
2007-07-15 09:04:24 · answer #9 · answered by Cassie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a swinger bar. or just go out and pick up a guy - if he askes tell him- if he is just looking for a one niter - he wont care if you have a bf or not.
2007-07-15 09:04:55 · answer #10 · answered by brandi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋