Me 19 and my girlfriend 18 have been together for almost 28 months and shes been asking for some space. Ive been giving it to her for the past five days. And ive tried everything to get her out of my mind but i just cant do it. Ive gone out with friends everyday but they know that somethings wrong. ive tried to have fun in so many ways but i cant. I just need to talk to her and see her but i promised to her that i wouldnt call her and that i'd wait for her to call me. that I'd wait for her until she was ready and she knows what to do. and lately ive been having dreams of her leaving me for someone else and its killing me emotionally. I love her sooooo much but it seems like the more space i give her the more shes getting over me. I thought the days would get easier but thier only getting harder. I just cant take the pain anymore. i want 2 be with her so much and it sucks cuz i know shes perfect for me but it feels like im not perfect for her. Now for the last three hours ive been cryin
2007-07-15 08:18:49 · 16 answers · asked by Sexylove324 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's sad that she's got you feeling this way. Love isn't suppose to hurt. You are obviously into her.. and she isn't into you as much as you are... reason she wants her space?
I never liked having a guy around me 24/7... we as girls need some space to go shopping with our friends, get our nails done, and talk about what's going on in our lives. Just because she wants space doesn't mean she's cheating on you. If you let those kinds of negative feelings into your head, it will only get worse for you... you're mind will start to expand and have it's own ideas about what she's doing, none of which will be true... but that's how the mind goes. What you can do is maybe text her and say just wanted to say hi, I've been missing you, and leave it at that.. if she responds then great, but if you want her to stay with you, don't crowd her, let her come on her own free will... trust me on that. Best of luck to you... and in the meantime, play video games, or go to the movies and keep your mind off of her for a bit... you deserve a break.. and keep telling yourself, I am good for her.
2007-07-15 08:28:48 · answer #1 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, honey sorry about your problems. Unfortunately, there is no way to ease the pain of telling someone that you are gay, regardless of whether or not its a husband, mother, father, sister, brother, daughter or son. There is no way to ease pain like that. I would like to say to you, it took a LOT of courage on your part. I am proud that you are not living a lie, because really its not fair for you or your husband. Both of you need to give 100% in a marriage and you guys just were not. If you have kids it would not be fair to them either. I am a firm believer that people need to be happy in this lifetime. This means no more denying who you really are. I think the healing process is going to begin with the old saying "time heals all wounds". As corny as that may sound to you, the old saying is true. I don't think you can ease the pain for him. The best thing to do is to leave each other alone for a while. If you want to call him every now and again to see how he is doing, that is fine. But really its more pain for the person that loves you to hear your voice when they are trying to get over you. Just know that you did the right thing. You will give your husband time to grieve his loss, and hopefully your husband will eventually find someone that can love him completely, and so will you. You both do not need the heartache of fooling yourselves. I am glad that you did the right thing because many people stay in relationships... Be yourself, pray for your husband, but I suggest you let him work out his own grief without you. Good luck and I wish you all the best! Kat
2016-04-01 05:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 19 everything seems humongous... So it's no surprise to me that you feel that this girl is the " one" If she's asking time off in a 28 month relationship, imagine what it would be like after 5 years of marriage...and say a kid ? You are young... The main frame of thought for this one... is that you deserve a girl that thinks, believes and feels that you are perfect for her... If she's constantly putting you down or wants more space, she is unsure of her own feelings, and this in the long run will end up in You suffering. Try to focus on your studies or your work for a change. Don't let peer pressure influence your decisions. Keep on being and acting as yourself... If you were meant to be together, nobody or nothing is going to pull you apart... Trust me on this one... Even if she parts, it's going to be for the better !
2007-07-15 08:32:39 · answer #3 · answered by KoolKarl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the great healer of all wounds. You must allow yourself time. I know what it's like to love someone and feel that person doesn't show the same feelings. It's a miserable feeling. You know how when a dog gets hurt, he retreats and "nurses" his wound for a while. Nurse yourself. Yes you hurt, but you are still alive. Yes you love her and always will, but you must allow that the feeling may not be mutual. You will find love again, and that love will be perfect for you. Ask God to lead and direct you and comfort you while you are hurting. Keep going out with friends.
2007-07-15 08:24:23 · answer #4 · answered by JUJUBABE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I'm so sorry to be the one to tell you this, but when a girl says they need space...usually it is a nice way of saying it's over. I might be completely off the mark here, hopefully I am...but if I'm not and if she does want to break it off...you need to get a grip. She is not your life. YOU are your life. I can only imagine how much you love her...I'm sorry you're going through so much pain. It will pass, though. Honestly, it depends on her reasoning behind needing space. Sorry to be so blunt, I just don't know any other way to be.
2007-07-15 08:28:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you, it sounds like your having a bad time of it. The only thing I can really suggest is that you write her a letter telling her how you feel, that way she has the option of whether or not to contact you. Try not to be too pushy though because that will just push her further away from you. I really hope it works out well for you. All the best x
2007-07-15 08:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww... =(
Well, tell her how you feel about her. Tell her what's going on during the past few days. And tell her you wouldn't leave her for any other girl. If you cry a little bit in front of her, she might understand you. Tears always move people. But, don't cry too much.
Sounds like you're a really nice guy. XD I can't believe she wouldn't want you.
2007-07-15 08:23:13 · answer #7 · answered by cat_heros@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that.
Worst time of my life.
I personally would let her know that I was thinking about her and missing her by leaving some sort of message that she wont HAVE to reply to.
I got my girl back though so dont lose hope but just remember she is probably wondering if you really miss her.
2007-07-15 08:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by luckyman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry..i feel your pain..but you are giving her what she thinks she wants....call her..tell her you miss her and that you can give her a night or two for her and her friends..but that you are happier when you are around her..you put alot of time and energy into this relationship and maybe its time to get more serious...do you live together or seperate..some of it might be her family telling her she needs more change in her life...talk to her and let her know you are still there...good luck and have a nice summer
2007-07-15 08:27:00 · answer #9 · answered by sunshine01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AWE....... Well rverything happens for a reason. Either she will come back around or you will meet a nother girl that makes you even happier.
2007-07-15 08:23:48 · answer #10 · answered by scooter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋