Well, My boyfriend and I were in my room on my bed just watching movies being bored. My parents were gone at work and my sister was downstairs in her room with her friend. And out of nowhere he kissed me; so then we just started making out no big deal. My bedroom door was open and I didn’t want to get up and lock it because it would kind of ruin it. I didn’t hear any noises and my mom wasn’t suppose to be home in tell 9pm and My mom and older sister walk in saw us he just had his boxers on and I had panties and a bra on. So they slammed the door and like ran out. Were both 17 and just graduated from high school. Ive was dating this guy since I was 12 and knew him since kindergarten. So almost 5 years. My mom won’t even look at me. And I heard her crying to my grandmother last night. Is it such a big deal? This morning the first thing in the morning she asked me if I was a virgin. I said no im not. Then she starts crying again and walks up stairs. I don’t get it? Did I do something horribly wrong? What’s wrong with my mother? What do I do now? There’s so much crap going through my mind and I feel so bad. Please help?
2007-07-15 07:32:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
all parents want their kids to remain a virgin until marriage ,not many do. i think you disrespected your mother in her house. i think in this case your mother trusted that you could be responsible enough to stay at home at 17 without getting half naked and making out . there is a time and a place for it, you owe her an apology and next time be more discrete
2007-07-15 07:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did something wrong! Your Mother trusted you and you broke that trust. You probably broke her heart. I know that the youth today has different morals than what their parents had,that is one reason the country is in the mess it is in today. Free causal sex and do anything that they want and no responsibility. Apologize to your Mother and Sister and sit down and have a heart to heart talk. Find out what kind of conduct she expects from you. You are almost a grown woman , start acting responsible and show your family the respect they deserve. I hope you can resolve this, your Mother loves you and is deeply hurt. I hope you handle your self better in the future and pray you do not end of pregnant and bring a baby into the world that you are ill equipped to handle. In other words grow up! I wish you the best but you must change your ways as long as you live in your parents house obey their rules. It also would be a good idea for your boyfriend to apologize to your parents. He was also trusted.
2007-07-15 08:01:44 · answer #2 · answered by Liz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent it is very hard to find out our children have grown and are not the innocent beings we thought they where. It would be easy to say no at 17 you where wrong, but then again so where most of us including myself and possibly your mom. What we all want is for our children to not make the same mistakes as we did, and for a better life. Human nature is what it is, and these things happen. I know I was disappointed when my daughter at 18 was PG, but she continued with school and I now have a granddaughter I love immensely and would not trade for anything in the world.It's time to have an adult sit down with mom, communication is the key, and no matter what she says keep your calm so it does not end up being an argument. Show that you are a mature adult and all will work out.
2007-07-15 07:40:05 · answer #3 · answered by Pengy 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You knew she would not like the scene...otherwise there would not be this long explanation about her being out of the house.
You most probably broke house rules by making out in your bedroom, and you did not have your clothes on...are you telling me that it would have stopped had she not come home...give me a break! Of course she is upset.
Now, take your lumps and get on with life. IT is obviously a big deal to her, whether or not it is to you.
If you are looking for approval here, you obviously are feeling a little guilty about something. Get over it. You are of sexual age, but I suggest that you be very careful with this sex...you do not want to end up pregnant, and your history is such that ..."I didin't want to close the door because it would break the mood" tells me you would not stop to insist on a rain coat being worn...be very careful. HIV is rampant in teens today. You do not want HIV or a baby at this point in life. You have grown up quickly, but you haven't found the responsibility of a grown up...so finish the task, play safe, and get on with life. DO NOT GET HIV....you cannot trust ANYONE that much!
2007-07-15 07:39:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
From the way you described the situation, it sounds as though you wanted to get caught. If you are still living at home, with someone else paying the rent, you live by their rules. Making out with the door open is just plain stupid. Your virginity is yours to give when you choose. But, you should at least respect your parents enough not to rub their faces in your stupidity & defiance. You also need to grow up. If you can't figure out why your mother is upset, you really are a typical clueless teenager. I hope you at least used some sort of protection against pregnancy. Or would that have ruined the moment too?
2016-05-18 03:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by arla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like maybe your relationship is moving faster than your mother would like it to. I'm sure she has your best interests at heart. But, it could be that you two are on different "levels" regarding your views and expectations. You need to find a time when the two of you can sit down and discuss your relationship and your expectations and concerns. Best of luck.
2007-07-15 07:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by Eden S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my.
Well, all of us older people like to think our children, nieces, etc. are virgins and will remain so. We know it is not realistic but that does not keep us from hoping.
Your mom was shocked and embarrassed. You were somewhat disrespectful by doing this in your mom's house, but I know she will get over that.
Talk to your mom and let her know you are sorry that she had to see that. Tell her what you are doing about birth control so that she doesn't worry about that.
This is not the end of the world; you and your mom will get through this. TALK TO HER.
Good luck to you.
2007-07-15 07:39:19 · answer #7 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats a lot to take in and I'm 17 too so I can understand where your coming from and what must be running through your mind. I got caught kissing on the sofa and I thought that was bad... But your mom was probably really shocked/disappointed just upset she had to find out that way. I sat my mom down one day and broke it to her and she was really upset so I coudl only imagine that times 100 in your situation. Trust me, time heals everything. Just let her know you are being safe. Its good that you are at least being honest with her though.
2007-07-15 07:38:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
well you should feel bad. who do you think you are. well let me tell you, you are a child. i say this because what you did was irresponsible and reckless and you disrespected your mom's house. she did not get this house for you to make out. you are not a woman, a woman would wait until marriage or until you got your own. when you grow up you might then understand, but for now you owe your mom an apology.
2007-07-15 07:37:46 · answer #9 · answered by lynnette 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
shes scared for you b/c u might end up pregnant and my not still have a father for the child or your mom is scared that you're growing up 2 fast. Just ask her tlk 2 her
2007-07-15 07:38:15 · answer #10 · answered by morshki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋