i have this friend who likes me and who has been liking me for 3 years. I met his friend through him. We went out on a date and we are cool. My friend who has been liking me for 3 years says that its wrong for us to date. He has told people that i was his girlfriend which isn't a bad thing however it was untrue. Am I wrong for dating a guy who knows my friend. what do you al think I should do.
2007-07-15 07:24:51 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i left many important details out to this story. I just got out of a very abusive relationship with my childs father and I came to stay with my friend who is my best friend I know that he likes me . My bf told me when i first got here that it was ok for me to date people but to meet them other places. Now as I started to he is complaining about it. aand I went out with his friend to the movies and other places. Am I wrong for doing this. I am not looking for a relationship but just to throw in some extra details Im 21 my bf is 35 and his friend is 30.
2007-07-15 08:12:56 · update #1
It sounds like you did not have a relationship for three years which is healthy. At the same time your male friend thought that was because you were only interested in him.
Your first issue is to put your friendship with the 3 year guy in the proper perspective. Hopefully he can understand but it's unlikely.
He seems to be of the opinion that you didn't have other relationships because you found what you wanted in him.
This is going to be difficult but you need to get that relationship in perspective before you do anything else. You may lose him as a friend but that is a small price to pay if the alternative is him thinking you are his chattel.
There is an element of sensitivity because in these last three years he must have been there when you were depressed and need someone to talk to. It's a shame you weren't on the same page.
2007-07-15 07:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by Caretaker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about it...you have every right to date this friend and the other guy hasn't actually got the right to say anything...he is obviously hurt, but there are a lot of broken hearts out there, that's just part of life..he will get over it..in the time being date the other guy and have fun!
2007-07-15 14:35:19 · answer #2 · answered by **M!$$Y** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its up to yourself. Because love is forever, and its only in your hand, no one can steel it. I think the way is, ask yourself that you love him or not, and how about himself, also you should understand him very much, I think you do. Its not wrong to date with him, because he likes you, also you like him too, dont you? Take it easy, dont make it in difficult way. Thank you and good luck.
2007-07-15 14:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by kaisar a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋