Do you think this will help?!?

Question

Well i've been feeling really depressed of late, to be exact its been clinical for almost a year and its gotten particularly bad the last two weeks and i'm trying to find things to help me out and not keep falling into the suicide thinking zone.

I have no friends at the moment, i know you won't believe me, i have acquaintances but nothing lasting, i'm probably just afriad of rejection and things and i can't talk to my family, if anything i want to avoid them as much as possible but thats not what i want to talk about.

I've been thinking about trying something like myspace, i'd like to post some details about why i feel this way as loads of people seem to relate and yet we all end up suffering on our own so much. I'd like to make some friends too and actually have a conversation but i haven;t used any of these things before and i don't want to make myself more depressed by putting all my details there and i just get hate mail and/or no people to talk to.

What do people think?

lol to Angel A :

If i was having sex then i definitely wouldn't be depressed in the slightest so i guess you're right. Although getting a partner is a damn sight harder than just friends

Answer 1

hiya, ye ive had depression for 6 years and it seems like 20 years, i have not many friends the computer is my life and my kids r of course but we all need our space, anyway someone on here advised me to do my space and i have found it very interesting ive met many people off here and there who suffer the same as we do try it!!!!!! you wont get hate mail and if people dont want to talk to you then thats there problem but ive had a chat with you and you are a very nice person!!! believe me! anyway try it you might like it!! speak to you tomorrow take care and thanx again for the chat i appreciate it!!
stay safe be strong chin up hun.xx

Answer 2

I think that gettin a myspace is a good idea and it could help but it could also make you more depressed because like you said some people might send you hate mail which you can delete but by surrounding yourself with other people who are also depressed can also make your depression worse and most probably push you into the state of mind where you think about suicide. However at the same time you could meet alot of people who dont suffer from depression and would like to get to know you, people who would create a positive atmosphere for you. I think it's worth a try and if you do feel like your feeling more depressed or suicidal then either delete your myspace or dont go on it. I'd like yo get to know you more so let me know if and when you get your myspace and i'll add you. x x x

Answer 3

First of all - I think it's excellent that you are taking some positive action to deal with your depression. I too have suffered depression for some time, and it IS possible to find a way to live with it, but it takes time, and perserverance, and support from people who understand.

Writing down how you are feeling on myspace sounds like a good idea - I did this for some time and it did help me to look deeper at how I was feeling and work things out in my own head. After you have met some people you trust, you can set your page to be viewed only be people you know and trust.

Best of luck - IM me if you do decide to set up a page, I'd like to become a friend! :)

Answer 4

I think you're right - you don't want to expose yourself to abuse or indeed any unnecessary or unwarranted criticism. Perhaps the first thing to do is to join a local group for depression and to talk about your experiences and to find out what other people's have been. That to me allows you to say what you want to say in an environment in which you are not left vulnerable or open to abuse.

From there, the world is your oyster. I'm guessing that once you hear about other people's experiences and talk through your own, you will feel stronger and more able to socialise and move on. You can then decide what it is you like in life, take up a few new hobbies and interests, maybe think about developing your new career, or even take up a whole new one (!) and widen your circle of friends. In short, you can work on becoming the person you want to be and having the life that you want.

Answer 5

I think it's fine but don't give too much info on yourself. I've suffered with depression for 7 years since the death of my son and found that, by getting a pet, (dog) this has helped enormously. People will stop and talk to you whilst out walking her. I took her to puppy class and that opened lots of doors and met some really nice people, I also started college (evenings) and met people that way and we'd all go out for a drink afterwards. The depression hasn't gone away entirely but all these things have helped me. My dog doesn't care what I look like or moan at me when I'm depress, she just comes and gives you love which is unconditional. Hope you go on OK.

Answer 6

I think the MySpace idea is a great one. If you run into people who are mean, delete them. No biggie. We only have one life and there is no need to waste our time, breath and emotions on cruel people. That being said, you may find a really nice support system there and you won't know until you try.

Something else, I would suggest is trying one volunteer job of some sort. That would help you as much as the person you are helping.

Good luck!!!

Answer 7

you are going through a very difficult time, Internet may help but nothing will build our confidence like being in the real world. Have you thought about volunteering for a few hours a week? That way you can meet new people and have an interest in something. Nobody will judge you because of your depression, i wish you all the best x

Answer 8

Ok so you need to widen your circle of friends- i am afraid friends do come and go- you just have to get used to that. But i think if you joined my space you would make some friends. I had a breakdown and i can tell you the internet and the friends i made on it was my life saver. A lot of people, especially family, do not understand depression and it gets to me a bit- when they tell you to pull yourself together i feel like slapping them. But in time you will meet that someone special, you might even meet them on my space. I joined my space last week and i have three or four friends already- so you go for it.

Answer 9

sometimes i feel the same really...
you know suicide is not the answear!
when i feel bad i listen to music talk about it with my friends and going out side to some places that i love being
u can make friends just talk to some people who looks nice to meet u've got nothing to lose..
everybodys afraid of rejection in some way but u should try u never know if that person feel the same if you wont take a chance
and the myspace idea was awesome
and i'll be glad to be your firend just tell me if you want to=]

Answer 10

myspace is a good way to meet and talk with other people but you should rethink your decision to add the details of your life on there. it can be depressing for you and whoever else reads it. instead try adding some positive things such as the activities you like to do etc. you will get responses from others with the same interests. in the field that asks "who i would like to meet" you can add something like "people with similar interests and friends to talk to about lifes ups and downs, positive and negative" those that are interested witht he same will come a knocking.
its concerning to me that you cannot talk to your family. family really is all we have. if you haven't tried talking to them out of fear or whatever i suggest you do give it a shot. they love you more than you know and if you are depressed they will already know that something is wrong and could be waiting for you to talk to them or they could be trying to figure out how to help you. please do try. good luck and remember life does have its ups and downs and all it takes is a small change during bad times to fix it. suicide is never the answer. you may not feel the pain any more but all the people that love you will feel more pain than you currently are. do you want them to be as unhappy as you are or to be hurting more than you are? please rethink that idea and get yourself someone to talk to asap your doctor would be a good place to start.