My kids are getting out of control?

Question

I have been having major problems with my 4 and 5 yr old girls over the last few weeks. They have been getting on their bedroom furniture and jumping off, tearing up their books and toys, not minding at all,and getting up extremely early and taking things from the house that do not belong to them. We have tried talking to them about why what they are doing is wrong( suuch as if you jump of the dresser you could really hurt yourself. Break your arm or leg and have to go to the hospital. And that would hurt very bad and make daddy and mama very sad that you hurt yourself.) We have tried time outs, taking away priveleges like not getting to play with their slip and slide, spanking, if they do something good they are rewarded. I am at wits end. Well this morning I guess I finally lost it somewhat. I have taken all their toys away since they are tearing them up anyway and told them that they had to earn them back. I took out the furniture except for matresses so they cant jump off

What else can I do to stop this behavior? Also my 4 year old is going to school and being hateful to other people. Telling them she hates them and they are going to die. And biting. They are already in counseling. Id appreciate any advice. Sorry so long Hoped to cover it enough so as not to have a bunch of people being negative and blasting me.

Answer 1

Honey, my kids are the same way. I got lucky though, my dad has been watching them while I'm working, since hubby has job out of town. He has this thing called a Gator, it's like a 4 wheeled atv, that resembles a small car only open. My oldest is 8, middle is 6, youngest is 3. They only get to ride the Gator when they are good. So far this is working. Spanking never did, time outs never did, taking away priviledges didn't really work until they found something they don't want to do without.

Sometimes kids just act this way, you are doing a good thing trying to put a stop to it now, before they get hurt. On the other hand, when one of them does get hurt, it will be a cure for the behaviour. Sometimes life's lessons hurt.

Answer 2

I feel for you. This age is really tough because they get bored easily and while they may have a room full of toys and shelves full of videos they can still get bored. I know, I feel the same way with my kids. Try planning family activities, swimming, park, picnic in the backyard, whatever it is. They can join the family activity if they play nice for a while.... start with an hour, then the next day make it an afternoon activity if they play nice in the morning, the next day try saying tonight we are going to ------- if you play nice today. (late night walk with mom is always exciting!) Remind them only 1 or 2 times then if they don't take away the activity.
Punishments... taking toys away can not only serve as a punishment, but can prove less overwhelming for them. Too many choices can be overwhelming. Try putting half their toys in totes in a closet or store them somewhere else and change toys out every couple weeks or so... it's like christmas! I promise you'll see rewards in this method!

Answer 3

Think long and hard about why their behavior changed just recently. What has changed in their lives that might be causing this? Maybe a new teacher? Maybe a move to a new home or school? Sounds like they are acting out. Try to get to the root of the problem, not just fix the behavior. If you can figure it out, talk to them about why they are acting out. Explain to them that it is not acceptable behavior. Basically, find the cause, go deeper and don't just try to fix what is on the surface.

Good luck!
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Answer 4

Girl..I feel for you I have been in your shoes..believe it or not what you are doing is the right thing taking priveledges away and talking to them is the right way to handle your situation.Unfortunately they are at a very hard age but you will get through it.As far as your child being hateful and wishing death on people that is something you really should get immediate counseling for.You absolutely need to find the reason that she is doing that.Good Luck & Best wishes.

Answer 5

When I read this I can immediately tell one thing:

Your children need to get out of the house and go run off that energy.

My kids are super destructive when they are at home all day.

Continue discipline but give them a project to do or take them out of the house on an outing.

Hope that little tip is the answer.

Answer 6

When you spank them, make sure it's after ONE warning, and make sure it hurts. Do it every time. Eventually they'll get the picture. After the first time with ONE warning, whenever they do it again, it's an automatic crack on the fanny.

I'm wondering if a change in diet might be in order as well. Food today has so much junk in it that makes kids hyper. Try the Feingold diet for a month. My parents did that with us, and it worked wonders. It was actually one of my brothers needing it, but we all went on it.

Answer 7

Eek. Well, Im not a parent myself, but my mom & dad raised 5 kids, and my cousin currently has 3 kids, all very young. And what she does whent he kids wont listen is hold there hands together, so they cant grab things anymore. She only hold them for like 5 seconds, than lets go and if they try to do it agian she holds there hands agian. She holds em lightly but enough for them to understand "no"

Answer 8

There is something bothering them, it may be at school or at home. You may have to have an outsider talk to them, as they probably wo'nt talk to you or your husband. adoc. or a counselor, teacher at the school.

Answer 9

Call supernanny. She rocks.

Answer 10

beat- they damn ***