So I just graduated from college and am moving to the other side of the country (from TN and moving to CA). My parents wanted me to have a reliable car that wouldn't give me too many problems (since I'm not making much money at all this upcoming year). Well, they weren't sure that the car they were going to give me would be reliable enough, so we went out and bought a nice, used Hyundai. It was about $8000, which doesn't seem like a lot to some people, but for me, it's a HUGE amount of money, and I feely guilty that they dropped that kind of money on me all at once. I couldn't afford to pay that on my own....they joke and tell me it's my graduation present. Still, I know kids whose parents buy them cars, and a lot of them are totally spoiled and have no concept of what real life is. I don't want to feel that way, but I honestly can't afford to pay my parents back. I just feel really guilty. Should I have just told them to give me our older car and save that money?
2007-07-15 05:41:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They love you and you are obviously a good person. Let them do this, its for them too because now they will know your driving a safe car that isnt likely to break down. Just keep up on things like tune ups and safety checks and that will make them happier. Say thanks to them and give them a huge hug.
2007-07-15 05:51:31 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They would worry a lot about your travelling a long way in a car that wasnt reliable. You may also have student loans to pay off, and you will need money for a place to live and all the stuff you need for that, possibly new clothes for work and all that sort of thing.
If it really bothers you then try to put aside a little money each pay and offer to pay them back when you can afford it . That may be several years from now but they may appreciate the gesture especially if you have younger brothers and sisters.
2007-07-15 06:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The trip from TN to CA is likely to be an adruous one, and a car that isn't in tip-top condition is likely to let you down en route; your parents know this, which is why they made the selection they did, and they are happy to do this for you. They're no doubt very proud of you and your accomplishments...you bring them a great amount of joy. So while it is commendable that you're aware of the enormity of the gesture they've made for you, feeling guilty about it is totally unnecessary. Ain't love grand?
2007-07-15 05:52:08 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents love and care about you - are proud of you - and want you to be as safe as they could afford to do...
Stop feeling guilty and start feeling how special they are - and how special you are to them.
(I know, easier said than done, but there is nothing to feel guilty about - you have some very generous parents, and I'm sure if they could not afford this, they would not have done it)
2007-07-15 05:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply be grateful, my guess is they would not have done this if they were not able. I am sure they have planned for this, and they want you to do your best. So simply continue doing what you are doing making them proud of who you have become.... You should not feel guilty, feel grateful they were able and willing and that they love you so much they want what is best for you. In return simply do the best you can and be the best you can be. Good luck and God bless****
2007-07-15 05:51:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like a really nice gesture on their part. They probably felt bad that the one they promised you had been taken. What I would suggest, is maybe getting a job and paying them back $700 in monthly payments, to put it back on an equal keel. Or at least offer to do so
2016-05-18 02:15:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the car, they said its a presnt,, it means you dont have to pay them, if they had $8,000 and said here it is? they must have had it, you could later on, pay it back when your on your feet,, its no big deal,, they gave it to you as a gift,, so why feel guilty,, I think your over thinking here,, you need a better car right really,, you can repay them later in life..
2007-07-15 05:51:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents make sacrifices for their kids out of love and, frankly, it's our duty. Be grateful to have such loving parents, tell them that a lot, and do really, really good out there in CA to make them proud of you. All they want is for you to be successful and happy and safe. Good luck in CA, I love that place.
2007-07-15 06:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would too....i want my parents to buy me a new hummer. Your situation is like you using someone elses toothbrush.
2007-07-19 04:35:15 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋