i m 27 yrs old married 3 years before but my wife does not like to sex but i m opposite i like always for this

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i m 27 yrs old married 3 years before but my wife does not like to sex but i m opposite i like always to do sex for this we are having problems in our married life we always querel with each other can any body help me?we r having baby of 1 yrs

Answer 1

Apparently she feels she's done what was required of her.

How well do you know her, anyway? Do you have any idea whether or not she has any talents? Is she artistic or creative? Spiritual? A realist?

If you told someone she was special, what would be special about her?

Can you list the things about your wife that charm you, like when she holds your child, or the way that curl falls just so when she does the dishes, or how she stands when she's argueing with you....or the sound of her laughter.

Send her an e-mail if you can't say things. Just a note that says, "I saw how you made baby stop crying last night. That curl fell down your forehead again. It was all very sweet. I love you." Send a little note, or leave a little note where she can find it, every day.

Develop the habit of asking her every day if there is anything you can do for her. Indicate that you do think of her at some point during your day.

Intimacy bonds a marriage, and sex is an expression of that intimacy. Go to Tantric Sex and read a bit.

Learn the fine art of seduction.

She's fulfilled her obligation.

Now you have to stir her desire. After Eve ate the apple God said to her, "your desire shall be for your husband." The seed is there, nurture it.

You've gotten past the last three years. You should have things enough in common for some knowlegable conversation. Now comes the fun part, having her participate because she wants to.

But it's all on you. You can fulfill her fear that you will simply be lord and master and never lover...or, you can take a look at the gift you've been given, and appreciate it, and be the husband she desires. It's not all bad.

Try.

Answer 2

HI,

talk with her this will solve all the problems before going to bed make your self hygiene ( take bath , brush your teeth)
change your bed room with good romantic lights and spray room spray.. every day.. it is good whether you have sex or not..

also keep some romantic novels and story books in the bed room she will read this when you are not in the house.. try to see some romantic move with her...

your motive should be " you should tune her for sexual mood" not to have hard core.. if she comes to that mood you can get all slowly..

now her age is also less you may ask reverse (i m 37 yrs old married 13 years before but my wife like to have sex daily but i m opposite) question after 10 years...

Answer 3

A lot of women show similar signs after childbirth viz. loss of interest in sex. Since you have mentioned that you have a 1 year old child, I think your wife is undergoing a temporary phase of lack of interest in sex. The interest will be revived naturally after sometime. In the meantime don't quarrel with her, but be loving, affectionate and considerate. Show her that your concerns for her extend well beyond sex. That would make her want to reciprocate and fulfil your sexual wants too. If however, you are too concerned, you may consult a good gynaecologist.

Answer 4

You are in for a very long haul with this. Maybe try a family counselor, but I bet you don't last. I believe some women are just asexual
I would stay away from clergy, All they want is for you to stay married and donate to the church. They don't care whats best for you. Remind the clergy that God made men that way with a peak time from 17 to 26 and in future years when you are in your 40's and no interested, she will be on here asking why you are so cold to her:)

Answer 5

Dwell on all the good qualities and the reason you married her in the first place. Sometimes men are too driven for only one thing and forget in a long running marriage it takes more then just sex to keep it together.
If there is no trust, no believing in the good qualities of each other, no complementary works.. like you are better at one thing she hates doing and she is better at another.thing you hate doing. You need to take all into consideration. What you are complaining about is what I call the 'playboy mentality' no relationship lasts long if that is all you think a marriage is based upon.

Answer 6

I think you guys need counseling. Go speak with a professional or a clergy member or other religious leader. I think you guys have to work this out so that the needs of you both are being met. Sex is important, but not the most important aspect of your marriage.

My wife and I worked our problem out. It is all about understanding each others needs.

Answer 7

First u have to ask her what problem she is facing. She might feel pain while u have sex. Ask her problem with love and affection. If the problem is psychogenic, then you may outcome your self or with the help of a Psychiatrist. If the problem is medical, you have to consult a qualified Doctor. Wish you a happy married life!

Answer 8

Women love sex. Women who don't like sex don't like it because the men they are sleeping with don't know what they're doing.

She doesn't like sex because you are not doing it right. You need to learn some new techniques and invest your time in satisfying her needs (do you even know what I'm talking about)... by meeting her needs you'll get her more interested in it and get what you want in the end. Here are some links to help you get on the right track:

Answer 9

here is the solution of ur problem ..
i think ur wife is not happy with u & not satisfied by an physical attachment try to make ur wife happy by taking her to the high position by means good physical relation and satisfy her full up to the end of ur sex by this all things may come light and will be alright ...

Answer 10

u gotta respect ur wife from not wanting to have sex. you guys are having a baby and maybe thats why. she doesn want to have sex afte having a baby because shes going to feel ugly and wouldnt think youd have sex with someone who just gave birth or giving birth. dont be desperate or find someone to do it with just to get some. give her respect and your relationship will bef fine.