See, have this girlfriend who is religious and wants to wait until we get married to have sex. We have been together about 6 months, known each other for 7 and had agreed to wait 1 year before getting married. She has been hinting at wanting to get the ball rolling but I am having some doubts as to wether or not I want to be with her or not. She is very attractive, but she has a lot of baggage, some stuff happened to her a few years ago if you get my drift. On top of this I feel like I am always explaining to her how to be a good gf. I open the car door for her and she get's in and just sits there. Doesn't open the door for me. Usually oesn't cook for me unless I tell her to, even though she said she was going to do it more often. Forgets my b day and says sorry she didn't get me anything but will make it up to me, doesn't get me a gift until I tell her to. This is just a small sample of the inconsiderate behavior on her part. I am not so concerned about the meals and doors...
2007-07-15 04:46:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
as I am about what all these little things say about her: that she is selfish and inconsiderate. I think that because she is so attractive she is used to getting away with this crap. I have told her it won't fly with me and she said she would fix it so now I wait. If it doesn't get fixed should I move on? There are so many of these little things that make me question my relationship.
2007-07-15 04:49:23 · update #1
its pretty simple..if you have just one iota of a doubt for whatever reason..you dont get married
2007-07-15 04:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds a bit too soon to be getting married. 6 months is not a long time. I don't know your gf personally but it may just be that she's just a lazy, if you think you can live with it and love her regardless of this, then getting married doesn't sound like a bad idea. The gift thing is a bit odd thought. I've known guys to carve out pumpkins for their gf's when their in love- and that's hardly a special occasion. If, apart from the gifts she is still kind to you etc, than i guess it's just one of those things you'll have to live with. If your having these doubts, i strongly suggest you wait! Love should be easy!
What you need to ask yourself is Do you like to kiss her? Can you wake up with her for the rest of your life? Do i lik her voice, talking to her, the way she treats people? Do i like the way she treats me? Do i like her as a person? Anything that's important to you...
2007-07-15 05:05:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married if you can't get along with her! Thats no way to start a life-long, beautiful love that you can only experience after marriage. Youve been togeather six months, right? Take some time to think about it. Don't get married if you dont care for her; it won't be pretty. And - - - I wouldn't get married if you two don't have the same religious beliefs. i think that is a recipe for disaster.
2007-07-15 04:51:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is great, but a lot of hard work. You don't want to be with someone who doesn't truly think of your feelings. Don't get married too young. No one ever said, boy I wished I had married even younger!
Have fun, date around and see if she appreciates you.
By the way, I have been married ten years and love it, but I took my time!!!
2007-07-15 04:52:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask questions to yrself:do you feel ready to get married? dus she feel redy to get married? are you quite young prehaps 2 young? try hints an sarcasum lyk compliment on her food loads an she mite lyk it an want 2 cook so you wil comment on it an if u reeli think shes dat much baggage an u can find an point out so many faults shame on you find sum1 else hoo you luv an wil b perfect 4 yoo
2007-07-15 04:54:20 · answer #5 · answered by woohootoodles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you have identified some concerns that could result in a bad outcome. Certainly, do not rush into a marriage. The pain of a divorce is the worst failing of my life.
2007-07-15 04:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by david42 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a high maintenace woman. She wants you to do everything for her. I would not marry her. Move on and find someone who is more your equal.
2007-07-15 04:50:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can not test the product . don't. because i don't care what other says, sex is 90% of your relationship. and if you are not compatible sex wize. is going to be a misserable life ahead of you.
2007-07-15 04:51:38 · answer #8 · answered by ricky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should find someone else who can take care of you, not a maid, but i girlfriend who wants to take care of you not one who has to be told to... and she forgot your b day, how sad!!! drop her, and move on!!
2007-07-15 04:50:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not a relationship it is a horrible mess, leave her be
2007-07-15 04:53:26 · answer #10 · answered by Mike T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋