Do you think a 4yr could be scard emotionally by...?

Question

Do you think a 4yr could be scard emotiontionally by being beat by a uncle and a 3 yrs later being beat by some random women for no apparent reason

I dont mean fear i mean scar. and yes this is serious!! she is 16 now

Answer 1

YES!
Anybody would be scarred by an experience such as this, especially a child!

Answer 2

WHY are you asking? If you know of any 'real child' who received these beatings, and think this may NOT have been reported, CALL CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES AND THE POLICE NOW ... if you are taking care of a child you know has been beaten and it was reported to you, then yes, the child was 'emotionally scarred by this treatment ... but whether that child acts scared (sorry, I can't tell if you misspelled the word scarred as scared or are asking if the child would act frightened) I would say that an 'emotionally scarred child' who had been 'beaten' would NOT 'act scared' ... and if that child is now acting 'scared' for some reason, then you must INVESTIGATE and see what is NOW scaring the child.
Children who are 'abused' in any way when they are 'infants' (under the age of two) are 'scarred' for life ... but they usually don't act scared ... and, in fact, they may seem to be 'more mature' by as many as 20 years (yes, twenty, not two) older than their real age. You must 'watch' this child carefully, to be able to determine this, because it may just seem to be 'normal' for that child to act more mature, and since you are 'used to it' you may think that the child is just 'more advanced' and not 'hurt inside.'
WHAT can you do to help this child? First, and this may seem to be 'counter productive' ... you will need to help this child 'remember' being beaten BOTH TIMES ... and that should be done AS SOON AS POSSIBLE, not 'when the child is old enough to understand' ... waiting longer will make it that much harder for the child to 'deal with' both the 'beatings' and the 'mature but inappropriate for age' behavior that will 'set the child apart' from all the 'other children' around him/her.
Sit down alone with the child sitting 'higher' so that the two of you can look 'eye to eye' and simply tell the child that you know he/she has been beaten in the past, at least twice, and that you are 'very, very sorry' that happened to him/her, and that you don't want that to 'ever happen again.' That will provide a good 'safety net' so the child can then 'hold the memory' in his/her 'short term memory' long enough to place it into the 'long term memory' and not 'bury it.' THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING YOU CAN DO. After that, keep 'watching' the child, and if the child starts acting 'more mature' to the point that the other children are starting to pick on him/her, or to say 'you are weird', 'you are bad', and 'you don't belong' (or any similar variant), and you must 'step in' and inform the other kids that this child had 'terrible things happen' when the child was an 'infant' and the things they are saying are 'wrong' to say to anyone ... the 'previously injured child' is not 'weird, bad, nor does it 'not belong' ... but should be 'allowed into the group' and welcomed ... and then 'help' them do that by having a 'small, informal party' of 'welcoming' for that child ... complete with 'small gifts' ... choosing appropriate things like stuffed animals, good books, etc., and not 'violent things' like toy guns ... but also give ALL of the kids a 'violent game' with things like toy guns to 'play with' ... and then LET THEM PLAY ...
Generally, when you speak to children as if they are adults, they will respond as if they are adults ... and given these 'violent toys' they should actually 'choose' to play games of 'defense' with the 'injured child' as the 'sheriff' and them as the 'deputies' and 'fight' INVISIBLE bad things ... if they don't then make up those games yourself, but do so in a way that lets the children decide their own 'roles' in the game ... and maybe the 'injured child' may not be 'old enough' to be the 'sheriff' and will choose to be the 'deputy' ... but NEVER ACCEPT that the injured child is the 'victim' and the others are the 'deputies and sheriff' are 'protecting him/her' because what you are 'trying to do' is to inculcate the 'values' of 'we are all in this together' and not showing the child that he/she is 'protected.' Obviously, the child was NOT adequately protected, so it was 'injured' ... but while you are doing your best to 'protect' the child from any further damage, you also want to teach the child how to DEFEND or 'protect' him/herself, and how to teach the other children the SAME THINGS.
I know ... it's difficult for you to 'understand' this seemingly 'very wrong' behavior, both the 'beatings' and the 'proper behavior' I'm telling you to do now. That's okay ... I studied for nearly 12 years to 'understand' what it needed here, and ...

Answer 3

Yes, if the beating was severe. I was mildly attacked for no apparent reason by my grandmother at age 6 and I still remember the incident. Early traumatic incidents are etched deeply into our brains. It may vary by person, but I have traumatic memories back to age 2.

When doing therapy, it is helpful to have a memory of these events and the associated feelings.

Answer 4

Yes, that is serious. Get that child some help. A child needs to feel like they are in a safe environment getting beat up on by an adult that is supposedly in a position of trust is a major violation of a child's security.
Good Luck,
-H

Answer 5

Yes, any abuse to a child of any age will leave its affects. I believe even infants are formed and affected by the treatment they receive. But these scars can be overcome by lots of love and affirmation.

Answer 6

As a child who was once on the receiving end of a beating, I would say definitely "YES".

Answer 7

You're kidding, right? You should be turned in to the Child Protective Services in your city for child endangerment/abuse. Of course the poor kid will be emotionally scarred (scard?) and will probably grow up to repeat the behavior on his own children. Get help, lady - no man, uncle or not, has the right to lay hands on you child.

Answer 8

yes, I mean it might be a child but would that not effect you so yes it can effect a child and even more so I guess because of the trust involved with the uncle

Answer 9

Yes - despite that the child is 4 years old, their brains can still process pain and fear.

Answer 10

Definitely. This is child abuse and can have a lasting effect on a person. Did you do anything about the uncle or the woman? They should face charges and be sued to pay for the child to have counseling.