How do I get her to talk to me about her growing breasts?
2007-07-15 04:17:17 · 15 answers · asked by sexilexi 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Well it depends how old she is. If she is still a "kid" (you know 11 or that age range) try to make it interesting to her. If she likes cartoons or something then try to get her to use one of the training bras that they make. Or even a sports bra for starters. Try to make her understand that it is normal and that all girls have to wear one. I think I was in a bra by the time I was 10. I understood it because of my older sister and my mom. I just knew it was normal.
2007-07-15 04:31:48 · answer #1 · answered by liljess69692004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This topic embarrasses girls this age. My step daughter is 12 and she just left to spend the summer visiting grandma half way across the country. When we were driving in the car on the way down there she was completely in a panic because she forgot to pack a bra. She begged and pleaded with me and her mother to stop and by her one so she didnt have to tell her grandma! (Just a funny story I thought you might appreciate!) We really needed to be firm with her about wearing a bra because at first she didnt want to hear it. We told her it is not appropriate to walk around like that and that boys are going to notice her boobs showing. We explained to her that it is a fact of life--every girl has to do it. We pretty much did a girls only shopping day and she picked out a couple she liked and we also let her get something else that she wanted for being such a good sport (I think she picked out a purse or something). Be firm with her, but don't embarrass her. You will just make it worse. Good luck.
2007-07-15 17:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by ejd8206 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm...
I guess it's normal to be embarrassed when talking to your mom about your changing body, but you want her to feel that she can come to you with anything. But, you don't want her to feel self-conscious or that there's anything wrong with her...
How about...
go into her room one evening before bed and suggest that the next day you have a "girl's day." Shopping, lunch, maybe manicures. Tell her that you are looking forward to her growing up and moving from being a little girl into a young lady and even though you're not trying to be her "girlfriend," you like the idea of doing girl things together and you want her to feel that she can talk to you about whatever. Then, maybe bring up the subject of "girl stuff"... like wearing makeup, getting her period, things like that. Tell her you've been there, you're here to help her. (I wouldn't bring up the bra at this point.) So, hopefully she'll say, "ok, mom..." and look forward to your day together. Then, when you're looking at pre-teen clothes, you can say, "How about some new underwear too?" and let her pick some out, then you'll surely see the bras... ask her if any of her friends are wearing one... ask her if she'd like to try one on to see how it makes her clothes look.
Who knows, she may WANT a bra, but doesn't know how to ask? But it's such a touchy subject, and you don't want to alienate her for things down the road... I'd approach it very gently.
Good luck!
2007-07-15 11:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by Laura 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you don't. Teenagers don't want to talk to their mom about this sort of thing. What I would recommend is for you to take her to the store and tell her to go and pick out her own undergarments and you will meet her at the fitting room....do not hoover over her..let her do this on her own. If she does not pick out a bra then, try recommending the sports bra using sports at school as an excuse.. also try getting her more tops with bra support in them. Give her room its a difficult and confusing time. Good luck.
2007-07-15 11:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by Adventure 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
chances are her boobs aren't huge why don't you just go out and buy a couple of those starter bras or sports bras for her and give them to her. she will probably just start wearing them on her own. you don't want to force her sooner or later all the other girls at her school will start wearing them and she will to so she doesn't feel left out. good luck!
2007-07-15 11:27:05 · answer #5 · answered by Supermommy!!! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy bras, and leave them in her room
When she wears them, tell her the will fit better if she is measure for it.
Just try to guess what size, and start this way
That what my grandma did for my sister and I. Are mother had already died. If a different situation, but I did not want to talk about it. She will try them.
2007-07-15 16:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by Halo Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say today we are going to buy you a bra. How hard is it? She is probably too embarrassed to ask you but she a kid, you see she needs it just go buy a couple for her. Then you have an opening to talk with her.
2007-07-15 13:10:28 · answer #7 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her because your the parent or instead while your taking her new school cloths shopping buy her new sock, panties and a bra. Plain and simple just tell her she needs to start wearing one.
2007-07-15 16:28:31 · answer #8 · answered by dragonflygurl_32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go shopping with her and casually bring it up as you pass the bra section of the department store. She is probably too embarrassed to bring it up.
2007-07-15 11:22:57 · answer #9 · answered by kelly 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
HOW OLD IS SHE???? I WAS IN THE FIFTH GRADE AND THE ONLY ONE IN MY CLASS WITH A FULL C CUP AND SOON AFTER STARTED MY PERIOD. YOU MAY JUST HAVE TO TAKE HER ON A MINI VACATION, JUST THE TWO OF YOU AND TALK TO HER ABOUT WHAT YOU EXPERIENCED YOURSELF. MAYBE SHE'LL OPEN UP THAT WAY, THEN TAKE HER SHOPPING SOMEWHERE SPECIAL AND LET HER PICK THE BRAS SHE WANTS!!! WEARING THEM IS A CHALLENGE IN ITSELF AT FIRST!!! JUST EXPLAIN IT'S SOMETHING WE ALL HAVE TO DO WEATHER SHE LIKES IT OR NOT!!! IT'S PART OF BEING A GIRL!!!
2007-07-15 11:29:28 · answer #10 · answered by parsonschick82 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋