My daughter is 2 yrs old she is a little angel but when i take her out she becomes a little terror and just doesn' want to listen i have tried everything but i have no success i'm very worried can anyone give me some advice
2007-07-15 03:29:48 · 24 answers · asked by magic eyes 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
i have smacked her and i have tried being calm with her and talking to her at her level but still no use she just wants to be out of her pushchair and then she wants to run. god forbid if she went missing on a busy high street.
i am so worried and i also feel so bad that i have to tie her up in a pushchair but she screams like hell and then it gets really embarrassing. i now hardly ever go to town for shopping as i know that i'm going to have a parade
i felt so bad smacking her
2007-07-15 03:48:52 · update #1
that's kids for you i'm afraid. They like an audience. Try the supernanny way and crouch down to her level and talk in a calming voice and if she then doesn't behave take her home. She'll soon get the message that unless she behaves when she is out she'll stay home.
2007-07-15 03:33:50 · answer #1 · answered by Pamela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your little angel is having tantrums, public ones at that, because that is what upsets Mommy and gets some attention. We all like a little attention now and then and a loud scream and a hissy fit will do it every time.
Naturally, you are embarrassed by her behavior, as we all are when this has happened. Drop what you are doing and carry her out to the car or at least outside. Then read a newspaper or fix your lipstick and ignore her. Don't paddle her. Don't talk to her. Sing a song. Pretend to be occupied.
Soon those tantrums won't be fun any longer, because Mommy isn't giving her the proper attention. "Shucks, is nothing sacred? Can't a little girl get a proper reaction from Mommy, a little righteous anger, anyway?"
I think this will work. Give it a try, because you'll need the experience for when she is a teen.
2007-07-20 08:02:29 · answer #2 · answered by Me, Too 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was so bad when out. He is nearly 3 and a half and is getting much, much better, he even asks to go shopping now. I found that keeping calm and not taking any notice of strangers was the first key, i would tell him if your a good boy then we will play with playdoh when we get in or do some painting, something they love. Just remember you only have a few more months of this. Try keep shopping trips short and sweet until she is a bit older, and keep something new in your pocket like a little toy or book for emergencies. Try to avoid times when she will be tired, hungry or under the weather. Good luck
2007-07-15 14:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by °º© r u b y l i g h t s ©º° 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she is testing the boundaries and knows that you also behave differently when you are out. You have to take control. Get some reins and reel her in when she shows signs of wanting to run off or misbehave. She is old enough to be able to know what 'no' means. Dont buy her things to keep her quiet except maybe a drink (or lunch) and take her home again when she starts to misbehave. We also have to remember that little ones tire easily and she may just need a little nap. Try shortening the length of time you stay out with her and gradually increase the time. Talk to her and keep her interested in the things around her. She will be too distracted to play up. Count ladies in red jumpers or something. This will help with learning later on.
2007-07-15 10:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by DJJD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just attention seeking.
When you're at home together she's got your undivided attention, but when you're out presumably you're preoccupied, with shopping or other people etc. If you react to her bad behaviour, then the focus is back on her again and she's won.
Next time you're out and she misbehaves give her no reaction or attention at all - just keep a firm hold on her hand and carry on doing what ever you're doing. Let her scream and tantrum and completely ignore her, she'll soon realise that it's pointless. If you're embarrassed by this and people start looking disapprovingly just say in a very loud voice "Oh look! Your behaviour is embarrassing other people" - make sure that you don't direct this statement to your daughter though as once again she'll think that she's won your attention (and rest assured those who start to look will soon realising that you're directing the statement at THEM and will retreat).
2007-07-19 08:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by LilyB7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your at home theres only you two Im guessing, when you go out theres alot more for her to see, for her its exciting and new, more people, colours etc, all kids are like this, both my daughters do it and they are 3 and 4, I dont even take a pram anymore, try a wrist band and let her walk, its just excitement thats all, shes a small child that doesnt understand the dangers of strangers and cars and busy highstreets, enjoy the time with her, before you know it shell be going to the shops without you!
2007-07-21 04:03:19 · answer #6 · answered by sofia n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try a harness when she wants to walk. I would still take the push chair though, because her little legs will probably get tired. I have actually had success asking my 2 and 4 years olds if they want to sit in the naughty chair. They don't quite realize that it's not there, but I'm sure I could find a place to put them if I had to. They just say "no" and straighten up. Funny what works! With my older kids we use the corner. It works too. Even when your out, because no kid wants to stand in the corner at the store or mall!
2007-07-18 12:41:24 · answer #7 · answered by Jeanie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly you are not being as consistent in your discipline as when you are at home. I bring a timeout blanket with me and use it in store, the play ground, church, etc. This helps keep life consistent no matter where we are. Also she needs to know that your are willing to go home if she does not behave (this is a hard one). This requires you being willing to leave a basket of groceries in the store to follow up on, "if you don't behave we are going home" Sometimes this will mean only 4 minutes in the park before you have to follow through on a warning....the greater reward is that she WILL learn that you are not willing to back down. It may take 2-3 times for this to happen for her to "get it" if she is particularly stubborn; but even my stubborn child got it after the second time we had to leave the pool (which she loves) because she would not obey. Don't give up!!!
2007-07-15 10:38:50 · answer #8 · answered by Ronnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there. had that. and people look at us parents like we're guilty of child abuse dont they? i know i get all sorts of looks when my son kicks off and its shameful.
the main reason is because they see so many things to mess with and want t be out. my son is the same. but dont give in and dont give up. just have a distraction like a fav toy from home (dont buy sweets and treats from the shops) and get the message accross that if she keeps having these tantrums, she wont go anywhere. hope that helps, i know its not much - but i am in the same boat with my almost 2year old!
2007-07-21 12:08:17 · answer #9 · answered by Draconia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's only misbehaving when she's out with you, then for some reason she feels she CAN. If she misbehaves, you're going to have to discipline her immediately no matter WHERE you are (notice, I didn't say "punish.") If she throws a tantrum, you pick her up, and take her out of the store or whatever. You make it clear to her that the behavior is NOT acceptable, and you do it on the spot, or it WILL continue.
2007-07-15 10:38:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋