this person is constantly asking for favors and it is really starting to get to me. Is there anything I can do other than tell them off
2007-07-15 03:09:52 · 13 answers · asked by Patricia S 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Learn to say "no" and don't feel guilty about it.
2007-07-17 07:04:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you worried that they won't like you?
Why would you worry about that? They only see you as an opportunity to have something done for them! You are not a person to them, you are a thing to be used and discarded when the next "mark" comes along.
Say, "No!" Practise it in the mirror. Say it out loud. Ask a favour of yourself and then reply, something like, "No, I can't." or "No, I don't think so!"
Remember, even if they ask why, you do not owe them an explanation. It gets easier with practice.
2007-07-15 10:47:56 · answer #2 · answered by Goddess of Laundry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea, if you dont need them and theyr constantly demanding things of you they are most likely using you as a doormat, so pick yourself up, if theyr a friend, theyr not a good one and im sure you can find better ones. telling them off isnt gonna solve anything, just leave and dont do any of their favors anymore
2007-07-15 10:18:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are probably too polite to hurt people's feelings. You need to be assertive and say I have some work to do. I used to be complying to people's asking me to do favours, and now when they ask me to, I say ***If I can find time and opportunity to help you, then I would.***
2007-07-15 10:25:43 · answer #4 · answered by joulsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've known such people in my family and my life. The only thing to do is just to keep saying NO, I can't do it, it's not convenient, it's not possible. BEst of all, keep away from them.
2007-07-15 11:31:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
POINT TO PONDER:
People will use you only if you let them.
How you deal with the situation depends on many factors which your question does not address. Good Luck!
2007-07-15 10:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say NO, I am busy, go ask someone else, after a while he/she should get the message !
2007-07-15 10:17:51 · answer #7 · answered by aunt_webby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By not being available
2007-07-15 17:02:12 · answer #8 · answered by basport_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront them and if they do not stop tell them they are straining the friendship and it will be over.
2007-07-15 11:34:55 · answer #9 · answered by Michael M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do them any more favors.
Don't "tell them off" tell them "no".
2007-07-15 10:13:12 · answer #10 · answered by queenthesbian 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋